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CASSINOVA NEEDS OUR HELP!!!!!!!!!!

#42
I had not looked at this thread untill today. I'm feeling bad that I'm just reading it.

Cassanova a lot of people in here care and don't want you to make a tragic mistake. Ther are people in this world that would be truely hurt if you are no longer with us.

Hang in there and vent your problems on us if you need to. There are some people on this board that have gone through some pretty rough times and have got through. They can help you too.

Just don't give up.

God Bless
 
#43
Man, what does one say...

Cass, I think anything I say at this point has been said before. If you go through with this, you'll be doing nobody any favours. If you've seen this thread, you can see you have a lot of friends here (and I know a lot of us BNers think fondly of you too!)

Take her easy, and please don't do this...
 
#46
The hardest thing to do is to keep up the groove.

But pick up your bass, close your eyes and hit the groove.
Keep playing it.

Never, ever, ever give up. I thought about it many times, but
I refuse to give up and throw in the towel. I am gonna keep
whompin' till they drag me away.

So don't give up.

You sure got a lot of people pulling for you. Keep talking to them.
 
#47
invisiman said:
I know that it can man, but if he doesn't let us, what can we do? When you're that close, you gotta take the first step back, no one can do it for you.
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While I don't disagree with you, this is the wrong place for this discussion.

I'm sure it's easier to be so detatched in the matter when one's only been here a year. Some of us have known Cass for 5 years.

Those of us who were here back in 2000 will tell you this board was much different back then and Cass was a part of that, hence our emotional response now.
 
#48
Hey Cass, it'll be alright.

I'm not going to try and tell you that whatever it is that life is throwing at you doesn't hurt. It does. A lot. But trust me, taking your own life won't help matters. You'll only die in pain. And having seen a couple of my friends die that way, I don't want to see it happen to you.

You have to admit, though, that we've presented a pretty good case for you sticking around. You now have international support. It's something to be proud of.:D

Hang in there, man. Seeking help is the best thing you could do.

Rock on and on and on
Eric
 
#52
Gard said:
Our conversation ended with the impression that he was going to seek professional advice (a psych teacher he respects). If he does, we all have good reason to be positive that he will be OK, the most important step is to seek help.
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I took a lot of what you said into consideration last night Gard. What Jay said too.

After I logged off here last night, my phone rang again. It was Samantha again. (yeah, i know man) She was the only one that knew about all the issues leading up to the attempt and the attempt itself before I ever posted about it in the lounge or confided in you and Jay about it.

She made me promise her that I'd seek help. I made the promise to her to more or less shut her up, to get her to stop crying, and to get her off my ass.

She was telling me similar things to what you and Jay were. She is also blaming herself for me being in the frame of mind that I'm in now and even trying it in the first place.

So I told you, Jay, and her that I'd talk with someone today.

Despite being extremely depressed, I'm still a man of my word.

So I went and talked with my professor this morning. I got double teamed when I went. He made me talk with him and the dean of arts and letters. (he has a phd in psychology, my professor a masters)

They in turn called my doctor at the VA clinic and got me into to see her as a walk in. My doc prescribed anti anxiety and anti depressants and scheduled an immediate appointment for me to see the mental health department today. So I also spoke with them around 2:30pm today.

My professor and dean also want to meet with me once a week to council me.

I dunno if its all going to work out or not. But I promised at least 3 people today. (Sam, My professor, and the dean) that I'd give professional help a legitimate chance before trying to take my own life again. Since I'm a man of my word, I will try to do what I promised.

I'll clue you in to more details if I see you on here tonight.

As for everyone else that posted in this thread. I sincerely do appriciate all the kind words and offers to help.


I'd also like to apologize to all of you. I'm very embarassed for ever making this public. What I did was never about not feeling wanted, unliked, unloved, or that nobody cares for me. I always knew that was'nt true. It was about me being a weak minded looser that cant or doesnt want to cope with the turmoils of life anymore. None of you needed to be brought down by reading about all of this as I know you all have your own problems to deal with. I don't like lots of attention, never have, and I certainly don't like all the attention that its brought to me.

Like I said to Gard last night and in my thread in the lobby. If I wanted attention I'd had become a guitarist or singer.
 
#55
Hey Cass, we don't know each other personally. But from what I've seen here at TB, you seem like a really good, and caring person. :bassist:

Please, do not feel embarrased about airing this out here. TB is a close knit, caring group of people IME. There is no shame in reaching out to others in a time of crisis. I'll bet if it were one of us in this situation, you'd be one of the first to jump in, and try to help out.

Sounds like you've got some really cool people around you that you can talk to. Hang in there brother. It may not seem so now, but in time, you will be over this.

I think I can speak for everybody when I say, we'd like for you to stick around!!!! :)

I'll be thinking about you Cass. Need anything at anytime, shoot a PM. I'm never TOO busy to answer a PM from you bro. :)
 
#57
cassanova said:
I took a lot of what you said into consideration last night Gard. What Jay said too.

After I logged off here last night, my phone rang again. It was Samantha again. (yeah, i know man) She was the only one that knew about all the issues leading up to the attempt and the attempt itself before I ever posted about it in the lounge or confided in you and Jay about it.

She made me promise her that I'd seek help. I made the promise to her to more or less shut her up, to get her to stop crying, and to get her off my ass.

She was telling me similar things to what you and Jay were. She is also blaming herself for me being in the frame of mind that I'm in now and even trying it in the first place.

So I told you, Jay, and her that I'd talk with someone today.

Despite being extremely depressed, I'm still a man of my word.

So I went and talked with my professor this morning. I got double teamed when I went. He made me talk with him and the dean of arts and letters. (he has a phd in psychology, my professor a masters)

They in turn called my doctor at the VA clinic and got me into to see her as a walk in. My doc prescribed anti anxiety and anti depressants and scheduled an immediate appointment for me to see the mental health department today. So I also spoke with them around 2:30pm today.

My professor and dean also want to meet with me once a week to council me.

I dunno if its all going to work out or not. But I promised at least 3 people today. (Sam, My professor, and the dean) that I'd give professional help a legitimate chance before trying to take my own life again. Since I'm a man of my word, I will try to do what I promised.

I'll clue you in to more details if I see you on here tonight.

As for everyone else that posted in this thread. I sincerely do appriciate all the kind words and offers to help.


I'd also like to apologize to all of you. I'm very embarassed for ever making this public. What I did was never about not feeling wanted, unliked, unloved, or that nobody cares for me. I always knew that was'nt true. It was about me being a weak minded looser that cant or doesnt want to cope with the turmoils of life anymore. None of you needed to be brought down by reading about all of this as I know you all have your own problems to deal with. I don't like lots of attention, never have, and I certainly don't like all the attention that its brought to me.

Like I said to Gard last night and in my thread in the lobby. If I wanted attention I'd had become a guitarist or singer.
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You have no need to apologise, Cass. I'm happy to hear that you're going to make an attempt to work through your problems. Just remember, though, if you go into counselling convinced its not going to work, then it won't. Best of luck and remember we're all here for you.

Leigh
 
#59
cassanova said:
After I logged off here last night, my phone rang again. It was Samantha again. (yeah, i know man) She was the only one that knew about all the issues leading up to the attempt and the attempt itself before I ever posted about it in the lounge or confided in you and Jay about it.
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wait, this isn't about a dame, is it? there'll be dames.
 

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