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Courtesy

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by BassyBill, Mar 10, 2006.


  1. BassyBill

    BassyBill The smooth moderator... Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    Mar 12, 2005
    West Midlands UK
    On several occasions recently, I've received PM's from people who've spotted a particular bit of gear that I own (presumably by doing a search of profiles) and asked for an opinion on it. On each occasion, I always try to find the time to give a detailed reply and be as informative and helpful as I can. Some people acknowledge these with a simple thank you - that's fine - but it amazes me when others simply can't be bothered.

    Whenever I've received help or advice from another TBer (which has been really useful more often than not) I've made a point of saying thanks because I appreciate them taking the time and trouble to respond to my question. How come some of us can find the time to do this and others are so busy in their lives that this simple courtesy is beyond them?

    [/whining]
     
  2. cheezewiz

    cheezewiz

    Mar 27, 2002
    Ohio

    Agree 1000 percent. You wanna see some rude Talkbassers? Put some gear up for sale!
     
  3. I blame the parents. :rollno: :rollno: :rollno: :rollno:
     
  4. AxtoOx

    AxtoOx

    Nov 12, 2005
    Duncan, Okla.
    +1 they offer to buy it, then don't respond or back out after negotiations are settled. I get tempted to give feedback.
     
  5. cheezewiz

    cheezewiz

    Mar 27, 2002
    Ohio
    Not only that, but some of the contacts you get trying to chisel you on price are unreal. Now of course, most of us are always open to reasonable offers, but stuff like "Yo mn i cann get 1 frum GC 4 lesss dude..k?", always encourge me to reply "Well then why don't you?"
     
  6. BassyBill

    BassyBill The smooth moderator... Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    Mar 12, 2005
    West Midlands UK
    I can only imagine :eek:

    The only experience I've had of dealing on TB was as a buyer. Guess I was lucky, but the seller on this occasion (Dr Phunkypants) was a top drawer guy. Got a really nice old P shipped over here at a very fair price.

    But yeah - some of the posts I see on the For Sale forum make me think "I'm glad I'm not dealing with that joker". :D
     
  7. Thor

    Thor Moderator Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    I have always held people with good manners in higher
    regard than those who ignore the basics of social
    interaction. Here on TB is no exception.

    If I do you a favor, a simple 'Thank You' is well appreciated.
    I wouldn't dream of asking for a favor, receiving it and
    not thanking someone like you for your time and effort.
    But the era of setting store in even basic manners is
    rapidly fading.

    Case in point, my wife and I were invited to a wedding last
    year at my first cousin's house. They live in the South and we
    never see him. We sent the groom (his son) and bride a
    very nice gift, a hand carved wooden bowl as a wedding
    present. This was 9 months ago. The same day, I shipped a
    present to a friend's daughter that was similar.

    The second present was acknowledged within a week.
    The first to the cousin's family has never been
    acknowledged at all. No note, phone call or anything.
    I don't even know if they got it.

    I didn't want to embarrass my cousin, as it is the bride and
    groom's responsibility to acknowledge the gifts. But I did
    speak to my brother's wife who did attend and she received
    no acknowledgements either.

    She also noted that this was growing as a trend, to dismiss
    thank you notes among younger bridal couples.

    That is just so lame. I go spend serious cash for something
    nice, and you can't spend 3 minutes and 39 cents to say 'Thanks' ?

    Amazing.

    :rollno:
     
  8. bigbeefdog

    bigbeefdog Who let the dogs in?

    Jul 7, 2003
    Mandeville, LA
    Couldn't agree more.

    In fact, whenever I write a request-for-information PM, my closing is always "Thanks in advance". Followed by another PM of thanks after the response is received.
     
  9. MJ5150

    MJ5150 Terrific Twister

    Apr 12, 2001
    Lacey, WA
    I'm sorry to hear of this buddy. I've talked with you a few times in PM's, and it was always a pleasant experience.

    Oh well, you can PM me anytime and I'll always be courteous. :D

    -Mike
     
  10. Thor

    Thor Moderator Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    Mike says 'Thank You' to being roundhouse kicked
    by Chuck Norris, he is so courteous.
     
  11. cheezewiz

    cheezewiz

    Mar 27, 2002
    Ohio
    I find the "core group" of TBer's are usually normally very polite.
    (What is there, maybe 100-200 of us that post regularly?). The moronic PM's usually come from the "fringes".
     
  12. NJL

    NJL

    Apr 12, 2002
    San Antonio
    Ain't that the truth...
     
  13. BassyBill

    BassyBill The smooth moderator... Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    Mar 12, 2005
    West Midlands UK
    Now that I really DO believe - cheers Mike, good on ya!
     
  14. BassyBill

    BassyBill The smooth moderator... Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    Mar 12, 2005
    West Midlands UK
    Another true post from the cheeze. ;)
     
  15. b2d2

    b2d2

    Sep 1, 2004
    Seattle, Wa
    This carries over into driving habits. Do driving trainers not teach to use the blinkers these days?
     
  16. Thor

    Thor Moderator Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    In Rhode Island, use of 'blinkaaahs' means youse from
    'Outtaah State'.

    A true Rhode Islander would never dream
    of using them and not exercizing your psychic power of
    already knowing their intended direction of travel.
     
  17. MJ5150

    MJ5150 Terrific Twister

    Apr 12, 2001
    Lacey, WA
    Do you think Cheeze may be approaching Yoda status here at TB? :D

    The truth he speaks frequently.

    -Mike
     
  18. DigMe

    DigMe

    Aug 10, 2002
    Waco, TX
    Ooh...I guess I didn't help myself with that post in your birthday thread then, did I?

    :bawl:

    bc
     
  19. Thor

    Thor Moderator Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    Very perceptive, but I can take it.

    I had No Expectations.
     
  20. Adam Barkley

    Adam Barkley Mayday!

    Aug 26, 2003
    Jackson, MS
    I have had the same exact experience. Low ball offers from hell are pretty rare in my experience though. I do remember one "buyer" who wanted two pedals that I was selling (roughly 120 combined selling price) and he offered me 60 bucks for both. Some folks.

    I agree the main group of posters are pleasent enough and even most of the sporadic posters are polite and agreeable. Some of the others are complete tools.