aha!
so "Xmax" is how far the cone can be thrown and still sound clean, and "Xmech" is where it starts to get physically torn apart. is that the same as "Xlim"?
Yes, xmech and xlim are the same thing, the physical mechanical limit.
Xmax is the distance it can move before it starts to go "non-linear". It doesn't reproduce all the frequencies evenly. At that point it can't make any more bass, mids and highs can still get louder. Audible distortion sets in. If this distortion sounds nice, you call it "cone cry", if it sounds bad, you call it "farting". Both are the result of pushing the speaker past it's limits. Guitar speakers have this designed into them on purpose.