Are you going to call all of them "player"? Might as well if they are calling you coach.
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"Dad" or "Coach"?
- Thread starter AudioDwebe
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I don't think so. If you have a sit-down talk about it and explain it carefully, he might just think it's fun to call you 'coach' instead of the usual required 'Dad.'
I'd go with coach. If I were one of his teammates I'd want him to call you coach. But, this is an issue that mostly pertains to your household, so go with your gut.
Just curious, do you guys actually know how to coach/play "soccer"? I haven't seen any of you in our English Football thread.
I reffed AYSO soccer for 6 years. There was always a shortage of refs and the league always wanted the older kids' games to have an official. I ended up reffing a game my daughter was in. She did something that caused me to give her a yellow card. She stopped put her hands on her hips and said loudly "Awww daaaaad! Why?" I knew everyone was watching. So I explained the reason to her and then said. "When I am on the field, I am the referee and not your dad, do you understand?" She paused, looked at me and said "yes sir" and went on to play.
I would recommend that you have your son call you coach. Never give any appearance of favoritism and him calling you "dad" may be perceived by others as favoritism even though it is not.
I would recommend that you have your son call you coach. Never give any appearance of favoritism and him calling you "dad" may be perceived by others as favoritism even though it is not.
Just curious, do you guys actually know how to coach/play "soccer"? I haven't seen any of you in our English Football thread.
This will be my first year coaching and I've had almost zero experience with soccer.
Fortunately, there was a basic coach clinic I attended and a whole lot of you-tubin', along with asking a couple of long-time soccer players in the office a bunch of questions.
Had our first practice last night. We only had four players show (of the eight that's on the team). We worked a lot on passing and dribbling. Luckily, one of the other parents at the practice has played for almost 30 years so he was able to help out a lot.
I had fun and I think the kids did, also. I'm looking forward to our next practice!
enjoy the coaching. I've coached my daughter in volleyball and my son in baseball and basketball. I let them address me however they want and I address them by their name (not son, daughter, or a nickname). Some of my daughters teammates would call me "coach dad" as a joke once and a while - it's all good.
If you're the coach, be the coach. Dad has to come second.
ONE rule I strongly recommend to you - my dad used it when coaching a Babe Ruth baseball team I was on:
Every kid who shows up for a game plays. Period. If you show up, you get into the game for at least a few minutes.
When you're dealing with young kids, winning isn't the primary goal. Playing and having fun come first, with building skills second. Winning is lower down the list.
ONE rule I strongly recommend to you - my dad used it when coaching a Babe Ruth baseball team I was on:
Every kid who shows up for a game plays. Period. If you show up, you get into the game for at least a few minutes.
When you're dealing with young kids, winning isn't the primary goal. Playing and having fun come first, with building skills second. Winning is lower down the list.
Just curious, do you guys actually know how to coach/play "soccer"? I haven't seen any of you in our English Football thread.
I've played soccer ever since I was three years old. Started at the rec level, moved on to competitive when I was 7 or 8, stayed there til I was 10, went back to rec for a year because I hated the coach, got recruited to another competitive team at 11, started reffing at 12 (which required yearly renewals of your license), helped build the team I was on up to a premier level competitive team by becoming captain at 13, won state twice after that, would occasionally play up on the '88 and '89 teams of the same club I was in even though I was a '90, was offered a varsity slot for my high school's team at 14 but turned it down because I hated that coach as well (played his team in competitive a bit and he was a ****), and I was even allowed to coach games for my team if no actual coach could make it.
I am more than qualified for the position both in skills and actual knowledge of the game
I also have a lot of patience to deal with kids.
As for not seeing me in the thread, I don't enjoy watching sports on TV all that much. It's too boring. Soccer is an exception, but I still don't go out of my way to watch it because, again, I find sitting around and watching TV boring. I've always been of the mindset of why watch when I can go outside and play it myself? Why live someone else's dream when I can make it my own?
Sounds like you're taking it seriously. Good for you. Remember, the most important skills are defending, passing, and knowing how to receive the pass. If you do those well enough, there's no need to dribble.
And as already mentioned, don't be overly concerned with winning the match. The players should care, but as the coach at this level, focus on their enjoyment and their development.
The only sports I watch on TV are the ones I enjoy playing: futbol and tennis. I think its natural that when you love playing a sport you'll enjoy watching--and thus learning from--the best. I can't imagine someone loving the game and not caring to see, not having an appreciation for, the way Barcelona or Brazil play. I guess your appreciation of the game is different.
Have you asked your son what he thinks?
Another vote here for coach. I played for my dad for years, and didn't call him coach. Made for a weird rift in the team.
Another vote here for coach. I played for my dad for years, and didn't call him coach. Made for a weird rift in the team.
Here's something to think about (not directed at you tplyons), but its probably likely our OP will not be the only coach on the team, and the other coaches will probably have kids on the team as well.
As I said earlier, my dad coached my baseball team. Our manager was the father of two of my friends and they lived across the street from me. Our other coach was the father of another kid on our team. IIRC, I think all the kids called the coaches by their first names - Richard, Dale, & Bob. Except for dad. I dont believe any of us calling our pops "Dad" caused any issues for the team.
Remember, the most important skills are defending, passing, and knowing how to receive the pass. If you do those well enough, there's no need to dribble.
Good point. I think we'll just work on scoring from now on.
Okay. So one thing I already dislike about coaching...damn mosquitoes! Must purchase Off! this weekend.
The point about other kids' parents helping coach, I can see that as a potential issue. I guess if one kid hollers, "Dad!" or "Coach!" there may be a few heads turning in that direction.
I'm guessing we'll all be called by our first names with the title preceding it.
Just curious, do you guys actually know how to coach/play "soccer"? I haven't seen any of you in our English Football thread.
I wasn't speaking specifically of being a soccer coach, but a youth sports coach in general. No I am not well versed in teh futbol
Talkin' 'bout futbol.
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