Well.. I've seen advertisements for dating websites for decades, but all I want to know : are these things really good for finding a partner?
I doubt it...
I doubt it...
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Dating websites : yay or nay?
- Thread starter Thomas Kievit
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A good friend of mine is now married to a guy she met on an online dating site.
I've never used one, but I do have a Tinder account for the lulz.
I've never used one, but I do have a Tinder account for the lulz.
slobake
resident ... something
I prefer to date women. Websites always order the most expensive thing on the menu and meeting their parents is awkward.
Yes if used correctly.
1.Be honest about what you do, what you will put up with, what you won't.
2.Never answer a response (or make one) until thoroughly re-reading their profile(a couple of times maybe) and comparing to yours. Too many people will bend the very "rules" they put in their profile just because they like your face, etc. Don't fall for those that bend on first blush like that and don't be one either - you'll regret it every time. E.g. You cannot date a die-hard vegan and sneak out for a cheeseburger - don't do it, nobody should have to live a lie on a daily basis.
1.Be honest about what you do, what you will put up with, what you won't.
2.Never answer a response (or make one) until thoroughly re-reading their profile(a couple of times maybe) and comparing to yours. Too many people will bend the very "rules" they put in their profile just because they like your face, etc. Don't fall for those that bend on first blush like that and don't be one either - you'll regret it every time. E.g. You cannot date a die-hard vegan and sneak out for a cheeseburger - don't do it, nobody should have to live a lie on a daily basis.
I've been married a really long time to a really healthy woman.
For me to give advice in this thread would be like someone who never had children advising us in the "spanking" thread....
For me to give advice in this thread would be like someone who never had children advising us in the "spanking" thread....
Some folks are just more home-bodied by nature. For guys and gals like this, it makes more sense to meet somebody in their comfort zone. Dating people from work won't usually work out well. Being "out" at a bar or club makes these kind of people less like themselves, and will usually result in a bad match IF they meet someone there. An older person may like activities where meeting someone to date is unlikely, like restoring cars, or crafting of some sort. I think dating sites are probably the best way for people like this to meet. They have their purpose, and I don't think they are a bad thing. I've never used one, but wouldn't hold it against someone who does. Theres somebody out there for everybody, why not cast a wider net using them?
Unrepresented
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How do you have such a vast knowledge of such worthless information. You should go on Jeopardy. I'll put in a good word with Alex for you.
I store both worthless and valuable knowledge by the bucketful - it's what Lurch does between saying, "you rang?". I don't watch much TV . . . so no, I'll have to decline.How do you have such a vast knowledge of such worthless information. You should go on Jeopardy. I'll put in a good word with Alex for you.
But seriously, I used a dating site to meet present spouse so I have some perspective (11 years ago). I was trying to be careful so as not to make my life worse. Went through some truly funny experiences. I'd do it again in a heartbeat if I had to.
I just want to hug every cat, but that's crazy. I can't hug every cat.
I always thought you were using TB as a dating site. I was convinced your plan was to hook up with one of us.
Traditional method is relatively slow and clumsy, and a highly inefficient initial "vetting" process. The relative anonymity of the dating site can allow you to specify a plethora of lifestyle factor in a short burst. You could spend several dates trying to get to the same results.
People are people? So, you're just like John Wayne Gacy?
That paintbrush is so wide it goes off the page.
Sorry I quit calling you - you weren't nearly as pretty as your profile pic.
Much like a dating service, the people you meet on TB are mostly deviants that are already married.
Marriage is the disease - but you could be the cure.
Sorry Darth, couldn't resist stealing your punchline. Figure if I'm stealing I may as well go for the good stuff. Glad to see your walk wore off.
Traditional method is relatively slow and clumsy, and a highly inefficient initial "vetting" process. The relative anonymity of the dating site can allow you to specify a plethora of lifestyle factor in a short burst. You could spend several dates trying to get to the same results.
People are people? So, you're just like John Wayne Gacy?
Sorry I quit calling you - you weren't nearly as pretty as your profile pic.
The way I understood unrep's post, was that you will meet the same ratio of wackos or incompatible people to compatible people in the real world as you would virtually. Correct me if I'm wrong, Mr. Unrep.
Unrepresented
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Nope, you're spot on. I agree with Ed that sometimes internet dating can be more efficient, but I think a lot of that can come down to social background of the user.
