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Dating websites : yay or nay?

#22
bassinplace said:
The way I understood unrep's post, was that you will meet the same ratio of wackos or incompatible people to compatible people in the real world as you would virtually.
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Wackos - hmm, I may have to agree with that, even push for the concept the wacko factor is slightly higher and HIDDEN due to the anonymity. But the compatibility basics seem a little easier to chop through with a site that requires detailed profiles.

I think it would improve the level of discourse if people state whether they have personal experience with dating sites. You know, check for compatability with reality.
 
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edpal said:
Wackos - hmm, I may have to agree with that, even push for the concept the wacko factor is slightly higher and HIDDEN due to the anonymity. But the compatibility basics seem a little easier to chop through with a site that requires detailed profiles.

I think it would improve the level of discourse if people state whether they have personal experience with dating sites. You know, check for compatability with reality.
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I suppose. People can say anything online, though. The only really solid thing you have to go on is a photo along with a vague notion of the person based on the verbiage in their profile. The proof is in the pudding (no innuendo intended), though.
 
#24
edpal said:
Yes if used correctly.
1.Be honest about what you do, what you will put up with, what you won't.
2.Never answer a response (or make one) until thoroughly re-reading their profile(a couple of times maybe) and comparing to yours. Too many people will bend the very "rules" they put in their profile just because they like your face, etc. Don't fall for those that bend on first blush like that and don't be one either - you'll regret it every time. E.g. You cannot date a die-hard vegan and sneak out for a cheeseburger - don't do it, nobody should have to live a lie on a daily basis.
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edpal said:
Traditional method is relatively slow and clumsy, and a highly inefficient initial "vetting" process. The relative anonymity of the dating site can allow you to specify a plethora of lifestyle factor in a short burst. You could spend several dates trying to get to the same results.
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+1 to all of this. I was skeptical of dating sites until I actually tried it as an experiment. Had a few interesting dates and then found an absolutely incredible woman who is amazingly the most compatible mate I've ever had. OkCupid was not lying about the 99% match. Even stuff that OkCupid can't really quantify in match % we are very compatible with. My results may not be typical, but for vetting out possible good matches for dating they do work if you use it correctly and honestly.
 
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It helps if you have a good BS sniffer too so you can weed out the "crazies" and also you really should pay close attention to how a person wrote out their profiles and how they wrote any PMs to you if you engage in a conversation. I would not even talk to people with poorly detailed profiles or had obviously bad spelling and grammar errors in their profiles and if their first message was some crap like "just wanted to say hi!". I specifically stated quality communication was a must for me. The way people communicate online is usually good indicator if I would get along with them in reality.
 
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Oneirogenic said:
It helps if you have a good BS sniffer too so you can weed out the "crazies" and also you really should pay close attention to how a person wrote out their profiles and how they wrote any PMs to you if you engage in a conversation. I would not even talk to people with poorly detailed profiles or had obviously bad spelling and grammar errors in their profiles and if their first message was some crap like "just wanted to say hi!". I specifically stated quality communication was a must for me. The way people communicate online is usually good indicator if I would get along with them in reality.
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Psychopaths are masters at hiding what and who they really are.
Just ask John Wayne Gacy or that BTK dude
 
#29
Dating is a numbers game. The more people that end up in the meet column the better the chance of something sticking. Work college classes are good places to bounce numbers up.

My fav is the Laundromat. I have an inhouse laundry system now and the impact of that part of my life is something I didn't think about until I read you ad.

Thanks
 
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BawanaRik said:
My fav is the Laundromat. I have an inhouse laundry system now and the impact of that part of my life is something I didn't think about until I read you ad.
Thanks
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I've always thought Home Depot after 9 pm was prime for working women who own a house - I met wife #2 when someone gave her my number to rehang some doors at her house. I swear I've felt stalked at that place - gee, answer a few questions, check out the rack and you've got a shadow who keep popping up every few aisle. "Hi!"

I like chicks with a j.o.b. - nobody needs all day down at the river to wash laundry any more. Heh!
 
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