Soap Box time

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Perhaps we should explore the importance of playing at an SPL level that actually suits the needs of patrons and their customers.
In the 90s, I built a system that resulted in essentially a silent stage. We used E-drums and ran ampless with IEMs. After implementing the system, we could deliver a concert at a really low SPL. As a result, we started getting significantly more performance requests.
IME, it is common for pro musicians to say something like, "Live music has to be loud and the audience simply has to accept and deal with it." IMHO this may serve some musician's performance ideals, but it does not always serve the audience's needs.
IMHO most musicians are more like service providers than artists. In order to better meet their customer's needs, they should figure out how to keep the SPL reasonably low. If the audience wants it loud, then by all means crank it up. But IME, many audiences prefer performances with fairly modest volume levels.
There are definitely ways to deliver live music at a fairly low volume. Does it sound exactly the same as playing loud, no. For example, beating the crap out of drums produces a certain sound that you don't get from striking the drums lightly. However while this may be important to a drummer, it won't necessarily be important to the audience, or possibly other musicians who don't appreciate working with a basher.
On a more basic level, let's keep in mind that the sensitivity contour of our ears changes as the volume goes up. So even the way recorded music sounds varies somewhat as the volume increases. A related factor is loud sound tends to excite the bodies fight or flight response, which IMHO can be addictive. In other words, playing loud may give you sort of a high, that you don't get at low volume.
I remember how it felt when I was in my early teens to crank up a stereo. It was exhilarating. I also noticed that my ears rang afterwards, which is something I did not particularly like. As I aged, exposure to loud become progressively less pleasant, and eventually it started to become downright unpleasant


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Throughout my career as a pro musician, I used ER15s and ER20s for the vast majority of performances. My hearing is probably a bit above average for someone my age, but my ears ring across a spectrum of frequencies and exposure to even modest SPL tends to make the ringing worse.