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Dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder

bradjonesbass

bradjonesbass

Mar 6, 2005
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My wife and I are fostering a 17 year old mother of an 18 month child. She has been diagnosed with BPD and while fairly early for that diagnosis, we feel it is accurate, based on our 2 year relationship with her. Obviously, she's in therapy and we're getting lots of insight from her therapist, but I'm seeking any insight any of you with experience in this area can offer as well.
 
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There are internet support groups for parents of children and teenagers with BPD and bipolar - my mother is a member of one. I'll see if I can get the name of it, just for reference's sake.

Edit: It's the Child and Adolescent Bipolar Foundation (they also have a lot of parents of children with BPD): Invalid Link Removed
 
#12
I got this bass for $100 .
It helped my personality.
She just needs a bass player for a friend...
 

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Byron92 said:
Be more of a friend to her. Bipolar just means she has different personalities. Try to understand her, that's the most anyone asks for.
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She's not bipolar, she's borderline. Severe childhood trauma, abandonment, and sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. She's disociative, and has a history of intense, short relationships that end abruptly and badly. She also fits almost all of the other criteria. She does, however display genuine compassion and empathy for other people and animals, and they've caught it very early, so there is a lot of hope for her.
 
#15
Clearly Byron92 means well but has no idea what Bipolar is. Anyway, best of luck. It sounds like your daughter is going to have a wonderful, supportive family that will help her to deal with her BPD. She's very lucky to have you guys.
 
#19
One of the things my wife and I did for our foster/adopting kids mom was show her how parents are supposed to act, what a loving relationship is supposed to be like, not just with her kids but with each other - if you act like normal people around her and expect her to act the same it may help. Peer pressure does work...
 
#20
I think that the absolutely biggest part of the battle, is getting her to realize that she has this disorder. If she already recognizes this, then behavior modification and lifestyle changes are possible.
Many folks with related disorders externalize and never see or accept that they are the root cause of their issues.. then the viscous circle persists
 

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