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Depressing.....

#27
oh man thats pretty ******. i'm not in toronto i'm a bit north.

now i'll tell you what the real bummer is... when you're drunk but the girl you're trying to get with isn't drinking. im just saying it works a lot better when everyones drunk.
 
#28
ohmeplateau said:
oh man thats pretty ******. i'm not in toronto i'm a bit north.

now i'll tell you what the real bummer is... when you're drunk but the girl you're trying to get with isn't drinking. im just saying it works a lot better when everyones drunk.
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I've actually had quite a few encounters with the opposite sex where I was the one drinking and she was sober...some say it's because I wouldn't have had sex with them in any other condition...but hey, I'm a dirty-old-man-in-training.
 
#29
magnusdeus123 said:
WARNING !!! THIS THREAD MAY BE TOO MUCH OF AN EMO-TEENAGER RANT . DONT READ IT IF THAT ISNT YOUR KINDA THING . ON THE OTHER HAND IF YOU ARE A SADIST , OR LIKE ACTING DRAMATIC IN EMOTIONALLY CHALLENGING SITUATIONS , BE MY GUEST....;)

NOTE : A LOT OF THIS THREAD WAS MADE IN GOOD HUMOR . ALTHOUGH ALL OF IT IS TRUE , I JUST WASNT THAT SERIOUS WHEN I WAS WRITING IT . So please mind....

Well , now that's done.......lets start the story...

First off , the thread topic is kinda misleading . I'm not in as bad of a state as it would seem from the title . I'm not sucidal , dont have an abusive father and dont take drugs , etc. I feel it's easier to list off some points ;

Good things -

1 I'm 19.5 years old...

2 Am graduating in 5 months---woohoo !!

3 Got my parents to agree upon and help me pursue my career of choice --- Animation . That may not seem that great , but in a country like mine , where everything is about mugging up , scoring marks , getting into IT Engg. , following the herd , etc. etc. , it's a fantastic thing .

4 On lines of the above points, I got great parents . Very supportive , even inspite of the fact that their dufus son isnt that great.....actually not great AT ALL in studies and spends too much time wasting on bass , animation , watching anime , and so on....

5 Survived the worse tides of teenage psycological attacks (peer pressure and everything else) . 5 years into it , non-smoker,non-drinker,non-doper, even though I've hung out with some of the WORST people .

Ok now you have a general idea of what my overly-perfect life is like.....if you arent bored enough by this point , then here comes the emo part....

Bad things -

1 Social Life - ..............I dont have any . Seriously . There are 2 people I can call up on a regular basis and bore them about different kinds of crap they find funny . I know about 6 more people I can call at some time to talk about general stuff........thats about it...

It's not like I'm an introvert and dont like people . It's just that.....I dont have many channels of communication .

2 Sense of purposelessness - Even though I'm pretty dedicated to my task of animation , since my mind is incapable to restricting itself to a drone form of work , it wanders and gather weird thoughts about screwing up in life and whether my decisions on the entire matter were wrong and yadda yadda . It comes with living with the herd I guess . When everyone arund you is sheep , you something do kinda feel......stuffled....and sometimes even lose confidence and hope in yourself and your individuality .

and lastly.....oh yes....you knew this was coming....

3 Girls

:hiding:

No . Seriously .

I havent had a girlfriend to date . None . Nadda . Zilch . I guess I shouldnt feel too bad , since it is largely my fault and incapability .

It's not that I cant talk to girls . It's not that I'm shy or anything . I dont have moments of fear or freaking out when im in front of them anytime . I'm pretty confident , smart , funny ,etc. etc. at any moment I need to gather up my wits for a situation that demands it.....

But...

I kinda always got the feeling that the girls I usually see around are kinda.....flakes . I mean they are ordinary . They enjoy talking about normal topics such as bollywood movies and songs airing on TV and those kinda thing . There is no interest of things beyond a mass appeal . Conversations are reduced to small banters about daily occurences and such . I guess this kinda thing doesnt change even in different parts of the planet .

For me it was just like , I just wanted someone with whome I could discuss something like Ayn Rand's philosophy . Go watch some cool art/indie films with . Talk about rather deep socio-psycological and philosophical topics , and just the general hang out thing you know .

Right now , I kinda feel like I missed the boat somewhere .

After the recent gigs that have been happening and the people overload that I've been having recently , I REALLY feel like I was wrong all the time . Usually I dont go out much , and in the past 2-3 months , it's REALLY been reduced . But the past week has been kinda like that due to the gigs and such , and I kinda....feel that slight twinge everytime I see a part of the life I missed or have given up on , like the groups hanging out at the malls having fun , or the odd couple around where the girl is playfully slapping the guys shoulder or something like that .

I kinda convinced myself that this is what I had chosen . That I was somehow more powerfull for coming to my decision with myself . That I wouldnt be wasting my time in idleness and ignorance , and all that stuff that follows .

But right now I'm kinda bummed out , because I kinda feel that......I mean is it wrong to want someone special to you whose watching you on the stage when your sweating it out there ?? thats what I just realized . In the end I think I came to a self realization with my self in the recent days that I kinda do feel alone sometimes .

And it's not like I couldnt find the right people . Its just that , they werent too interested . After years of friendship and commiment to trying to make them happy , when you realize that your still being treated like dead fish....

Anyways , I've babbled for long enough . Lets see what the TB timewasters cook up in replies for this thread . ;)
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girls are flakes, get over it. start drinking, come into school and spit some mad game at the hos. your not special, oh well, either go to sleep and quit playing bass or go back to school and shutup. respect is something you'll never get, might as well learn to mock yourself and other people at the same time, people respect you more when they're feeling embarassed or intimidated by strangeness. life has no purpose, better try damn hard in the next few weeks to find one, good luck.
 
#31
Actually , speaking of Canada , I was planning to go there for further education after a few years of job here . Apparently for my future job , Canada has the highest potential of development these days .

And I'm not whinning for gods sake :eyebrow: . I was in a good mood and felt like watching veteran TB'ers try and give me advice on this issue , which is why I posted it up in the first place . Chillax . Take it all in a good mood people . Stop telling me stuff like "Hey man...you suck , welcome to the real world !! Stop whinning !!" cuz I'm not in the first place . I'm just looking foward to what you guys have to say . Who known , I might still get some world shattering advice here .:D
 
#32
You just gotta start enjoying life's small pleasures!

This guy gets it::)
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#33
The more you let women bring ya down, the less they want anything to do with you. They're cruel. Deal with it.

Here's how 19 was for me. Nothin' but rejection from women. It took me 8 attempts to get a prom date. Things started working, then she ditched me for a married dude. A few days later a friend of mine lost his battle to Hodgkin's disease. I spent the summer working 3 jobs, moping around, and drinking to numb myself. Before that, I was never good at school, barely passable as a guitarist, and had bad asthma which prohibited me from being very athletic. To top it off, I wasn't very tall, which is a turn-off to all shallow chicks.

I'm not fighting them off with a stick, but I managed to eventually find a steady girlfriend at the age of 27.

My 2 cents, dust yourself off and give it all you have towards other stuff. Working your hardest to get women to notice ya gets ya nowhere fast and brokenhearted.
 
#34
spade2you said:
The more you let women bring ya down, the less they want anything to do with you. They're cruel. Deal with it.

Here's how 19 was for me. Nothin' but rejection from women. It took me 8 attempts to get a prom date. Things started working, then she ditched me for a married dude. A few days later a friend of mine lost his battle to Hodgkin's disease. I spent the summer working 3 jobs, moping around, and drinking to numb myself. Before that, I was never good at school, barely passable as a guitarist, and had bad asthma which prohibited me from being very athletic. To top it off, I wasn't very tall, which is a turn-off to all shallow chicks.

I'm not fighting them off with a stick, but I managed to eventually find a steady girlfriend at the age of 27.

My 2 cents, dust yourself off and give it all you have towards other stuff. Working your hardest to get women to notice ya gets ya nowhere fast and brokenhearted.
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.....O_O...

Wow . Dude if all of that is true , and I'm trusting you it is.....Chirst !!!:eek:
 
#35
magnusdeus123 said:
.....O_O...

Wow . Dude if all of that is true , and I'm trusting you it is.....Chirst !!!:eek:
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Yup. All 100% true. Things have improved dramatically over the last couple of years. I suppose the first step was to sober up. Oddly enough I didn't have an alcohol addiction, but I had an addiction to avoiding reality. (Now I just drink microbrews and rarely get wasted.)

I put the pedal to the metal, got into pharmacy school, passed pharmacy school, started running and biking, grabbed bass (perhaps the best decision ever :D), got a job, and started making the most of stuff.

Perhaps my biggest mistake through all of the low times was allowing the cruel chicks to temporarily ruin my hope. They were too good for my sorry ass, but I can't exactly say they're all living as well as I am.

Just keep your chin up and take on each battle one at a time.
 
#36
ok, magnusdeus:

you're life sounds kinda like mine did a few years back.

How did I change this? I started going outto places. Like.. school activities, bowling, parties, ect.

worked like a charm.



but the best advice I can give that will make you're life better:

STOP WATCHING ANIME!!! Seriously, there is nothing nerdier than that crap. It's not even good entertainment. you're life will drastically improve once ya drop it.
 
#39
You sound like you're doing pretty well at this point.

One word:

EGO (develop one) - Girls will see that, and try to lend them a copy of Anthem to get them started ;)


Listen to Ayn Rand, she friggen kicks A$$, sounds like you're caught in the "we". Work to break away from the norms, and not accept things for what they are, that way you can make the world how you want it, and not the world make you as it wants you to fit, causing your unhappiness.
 
#40
You sound like me when I was 19. Life kinda of sucks when so many things are uncertain.

Still, be glad you have some people to talk to. Two is far better than none.

As for girls, the good ones are hard to find but well worth the search. For now just enjoy the search and you will find a keeper.

I think too much pressure is put on young people to "enjoy life". I was constantly told life ends at 30. For me, life really started at 30.
 

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