Exactly. Petty and Trivial.
If he didn't mention that Alcohol was being served, I would've thought that it was a group of 15 yr olds..
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Did I screw up, or am I a hero?
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If he didn't mention that Alcohol was being served, I would've thought that it was a group of 15 yr olds..
There's an old saying:
"Sometimes it's better to be loved, than right."
This may have been one of those situations.
"Sometimes it's better to be loved, than right."
This may have been one of those situations.
You made a mistake, realize you made a mistake, apologize, and move on. I would send a card (and a gift if you feel bad enough about it). Since you don't know the person well, I would avoid an in person apology - this could go massively sideways. If you send a gift, send something like a gift certificate that both of them can appreciate - a nice meal out, movie tickets, etc. I would not recommend sending anything like flowers to the wife, be sure to send a joint gift (no voice lesson coupons, please). Once the apology is sent, let it go (learn from this and move on). In the grand scheme of things, this is not a big deal.
Ridiculous move.
It was a party. Everyone was having fun. You humiliated a man in front of all his neighbors. Those same neighbors who'll remember you as The Guy Who Took That One Song Waaaaay Too Seriously.
If "Tom Sawyer" is as great a song as you obviously feel it is, trust me: it'll survive a bad rendition at a block party. You're not its eternal guardian.
Let other people have fun once in awhile.
It was a party. Everyone was having fun. You humiliated a man in front of all his neighbors. Those same neighbors who'll remember you as The Guy Who Took That One Song Waaaaay Too Seriously.
If "Tom Sawyer" is as great a song as you obviously feel it is, trust me: it'll survive a bad rendition at a block party. You're not its eternal guardian.
Let other people have fun once in awhile.
Not at all. I can kick butt and not miss a beat. I must have missed the wedding band part.
Total dick move. He and his wife overreacted, but you humiliated him in front of the crowd. An apology would be the classy thing to do.
To me, it's like karaoke night. I have seen and heard some of my favorite songs mutilated and I myself have mutilated other peoples' favorite songs during karaoke. But it's all in good fun. I'd never pull the mic away from someone and hopefully they wouldn't pull the mic away from me, or there would be a confrontation. And no one wants a fight on karaoke night. People just want to cut loose and have a little fun.
But the smoking gun here is that everyone had been drinking. We never make good decisions if we've had a few. I'd just chalk it up to another dumb thing done while tipsy, apologize for being a heel that night, and move on.
And I do agree with the person who said that this story would be a fantastic scene in a movie. And this song MUST be in it, because the OP's story is almost this song come to life, Tom Sawyer bit and all:
But the smoking gun here is that everyone had been drinking. We never make good decisions if we've had a few. I'd just chalk it up to another dumb thing done while tipsy, apologize for being a heel that night, and move on.
And I do agree with the person who said that this story would be a fantastic scene in a movie. And this song MUST be in it, because the OP's story is almost this song come to life, Tom Sawyer bit and all:
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it was the bands decision to make it "karaoke singers night"..People were drunk i'm guessing, so it's to be expected not everyone's gonna sing like Geddy or have perfect timing..bring earplugs next time....all ya can do is apologize, whether they accept or not, another story but it's off your hands.
Heel. I'm a little bit amazed you even have to ask. Best to apologize again now that the moment is past, and do something nice for them both to make up for it.
I say poor form on your part. It is just a pool party, not a major concert. Let the guy have his fun. He goes home feeling good and you can, too. To take it a bit further, If it is a multi-band show and a previous band does a tune on our set list, we drop it and use an alternate. If you do a song someone else did in the same show, it comes off as, "see, this is how it's done."
Sorry friend ... but heel ... BIG TIME!
This was a friendly event, intended for amateurs, an event for people to get together and have fun. You embarrassed the guy in front of his wife and friends. You were better than him, and you couldn't help but show everyone that. Not cool at all. Imagine this situation flipped around. Someone taking a mic or even your bass out of your hand, on stage, and showing you up.
I'm sure you didn't mean it to turn out like it did. But it was a really bad decision. Find out who they guy is, call him up and apologize now that everyone has had time to cool off. And hope that karma doesn't catch up with you for this one
BTW, If I were the hosting band, I would have stopped the song, kicked you off stage, and let the guy start over.
Not at all. I can kick butt and not miss a beat. I must have missed the wedding band part.
No difference really between private parties and weddings.
The ball is in their court for the most part. You already know you are the true offender here since you made your thought reality, whereas everyone else present at the party seems to have passed the guy off as another terrible karaokee singer.
How are they gonna greet you is the question. Since alcohol was involved, memories might not be clear if working at all, if they do recall everything ( especially the wife) you should appologize blaming it all on alcohol, the universal way of saving face for being the opposite end of our body.
They may blame it all on alcohol and having said their piece, may just discuss the issue with you, may just make a mental note that you're a decent person- just don't add alcohol. May have the thought that you're that way naturally. Who knows but them.
Then again, knowing how kickbutt strange life can be, there is the off-the-wall chance you kicked their marriage to a whole new level of good (ya'll can contemplate the implications) and won't think nothing of it.
That's the way life is...you're a hero to some and a zero to others. No big deal, really. Ain't nothing a little communication can't fix if kindness is the main ingredient.
How are they gonna greet you is the question. Since alcohol was involved, memories might not be clear if working at all, if they do recall everything ( especially the wife) you should appologize blaming it all on alcohol, the universal way of saving face for being the opposite end of our body.
They may blame it all on alcohol and having said their piece, may just discuss the issue with you, may just make a mental note that you're a decent person- just don't add alcohol. May have the thought that you're that way naturally. Who knows but them.
Then again, knowing how kickbutt strange life can be, there is the off-the-wall chance you kicked their marriage to a whole new level of good (ya'll can contemplate the implications) and won't think nothing of it.
That's the way life is...you're a hero to some and a zero to others. No big deal, really. Ain't nothing a little communication can't fix if kindness is the main ingredient.
My vote is for "heel". You were out of line, taken in by your ego. These parties all about about having fun, and I think you blew it. The couple was right to be angry at you.
^^^This is what you should've done, all in the context of what is socially appropriate in mixed company.
^^^This is what you should've done, all in the context of what is socially appropriate in mixed company.
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Heel.
Usually people with 12oz of courage, and beer muscles, are tools.
Usually people with 12oz of courage, and beer muscles, are tools.
But ... would your wedding band open the mic to all comers? OP was a block party thing. Can we agree that OP was NOT a "hero"?
No difference really between private parties and weddings.
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