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Diplomatic way to make the drummer stop drumming?

#81
Spidey2112 said:
Or, one of those remote controlled fart boxes... I placed one at the front of one of our meeting rooms. When it got a little noisy in the room, I'd activate it, and each time I did, one supervisor kept looking at the other... finally she turned to him and asked, "Is that you?".

If you knew it wasn't you, why would you ask someone else if it was them? Ugh, mental midgets...
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So that's where the bass face came from.
 
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bassicmike said:
My choices seem to be passive-aggressively just stop talking and wait for him to realize it and stop. Or go nuts and blow up.
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Why are these your only choices? Why can't you just talk to him like an adult? You'll probably need to remind him, but unless he's 10 years old, he should have enough self control to act like a grown up for a couple of hours.
 
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bassicmike said:
is there one?

At rehearsal, How can one say to the drummer 'Will you blanking stop pounding while we're talking?"

As soon as we stop, he's doing runs, rolls and fills, endlessly and usually at volume. I suspect it's his only kit time of the week.

(We're a hobby band, so we rehearse. I adhere to the 'practice at home, rehearse with band' ethos. Not sure the other band members do. And this band scratches 2 of the 3 itches [$, music, hang] so I stay with it)

My choices seem to be passive-aggressively just stop talking and wait for him to realize it and stop. Or go nuts and blow up.
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just ask him to not play when people are talking...it's as simple as that.
 
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bassicmike said:
is there one?

At rehearsal, How can one say to the drummer 'Will you blanking stop pounding while we're talking?"

As soon as we stop, he's doing runs, rolls and fills, endlessly and usually at volume. I suspect it's his only kit time of the week.

(We're a hobby band, so we rehearse. I adhere to the 'practice at home, rehearse with band' ethos. Not sure the other band members do. And this band scratches 2 of the 3 itches [$, music, hang] so I stay with it)

My choices seem to be passive-aggressively just stop talking and wait for him to realize it and stop. Or go nuts and blow up.
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Doodlers infuriate me to no end, and it’s doesn’t matter whether it’s the drummer, guitarist, or whatever... the time to doodle is on your own time. That means, keyboardists and guitarists need to have their patches (settings) worked out in advance, drummers heads are tuned, leaving zero excuse to doodle. The only thing that I don’t mind is someone getting themselves in tune, but by golly they'd better be using a tuner.
 
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bassicmike said:
is there one?

At rehearsal, How can one say to the drummer 'Will you blanking stop pounding while we're talking?"

As soon as we stop, he's doing runs, rolls and fills, endlessly and usually at volume. I suspect it's his only kit time of the week.

(We're a hobby band, so we rehearse. I adhere to the 'practice at home, rehearse with band' ethos. Not sure the other band members do. And this band scratches 2 of the 3 itches [$, music, hang] so I stay with it)

My choices seem to be passive-aggressively just stop talking and wait for him to realize it and stop. Or go nuts and blow up.
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Unfortunately there is no way to do this short of murder. And that is something I’ve contemplated very seriously over the years.
 
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bassicmike said:
is there one?

At rehearsal, How can one say to the drummer 'Will you blanking stop pounding while we're talking?"

As soon as we stop, he's doing runs, rolls and fills, endlessly and usually at volume. I suspect it's his only kit time of the week.

(We're a hobby band, so we rehearse. I adhere to the 'practice at home, rehearse with band' ethos. Not sure the other band members do. And this band scratches 2 of the 3 itches [$, music, hang] so I stay with it)

My choices seem to be passive-aggressively just stop talking and wait for him to realize it and stop. Or go nuts and blow up.
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noodling and playing between songs and wasting time on stage are hallmarks of unprofessional behavior … bands that do that are boring to watch
 
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We had a friend who would come to our practices. He was a scary dude. This other band would hang out in our room sometimes during their breaks and their idiot drummer would sometimes hop behind our kit when our drummer would also be taking one of his many breaks. He played loud (and terribly) while we were talking. Our scary friend threw a beer bottle at his head (and hit him) and goes "i'm shaging talking. Go back to your own room". They never came back to our room during their breaks again and our friend became my favorite person.
 
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#94
bassicmike said:
is there one?

At rehearsal, How can one say to the drummer 'Will you blanking stop pounding while we're talking?"

As soon as we stop, he's doing runs, rolls and fills, endlessly and usually at volume. I suspect it's his only kit time of the week.

(We're a hobby band, so we rehearse. I adhere to the 'practice at home, rehearse with band' ethos. Not sure the other band members do. And this band scratches 2 of the 3 itches [$, music, hang] so I stay with it)

My choices seem to be passive-aggressively just stop talking and wait for him to realize it and stop. Or go nuts and blow up.
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I had to fire a guitarist last year because of this. To be fair, it wasn't his only transgression, but it was cited to him as a reason why he was being let go.

I had talked to him at rehearsal more than once that if he wants to noodle, just roll his volume way back so it's not disrupting the conversation. He couldn't help himself, though.

My advice, let the guy know you'll fire him, then fire him
 
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Nothing worse than trying to work on parts or discussing arrangements etc. when they're bashing away on the kit, and has nothing to do with the song at hand... I like the diplomatic approach ..at first....three's a charm..If i gotta say it more than that...it wont be diplomatic.....My drummer in a jazz trio does the same thing, but we rehearse at his house, so i give him some slack, meanwhile he refuses to be the leader yet it was him that founded the band..go figure..Once you tell him enough times to stop, you would hope they'll get the hint...Then i give him "that raised eyebrow look"
 
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This is a unique psychological phenomena that characterizes the "only one" viewpoint.
We all know people who are clueless about others. The road rage guy. The criminal. The narcissist.

I don't think it's a drummer thing. We all know people who play all instruments who are blissfully unaware of others. Unaware of their activities. Unaware of what other people are aware of. Or what they are doing. Unaware of group goals. (They are only aware of their own individual goals, their own individual survival, their own individual needs.)

It has been said that there are three universes.
Your own universe, the universe of others (who each have their own individual viewpoints) and then the one you share with others...the shared universe, that is commonly thought of as "reality".

Some people are in a condition whereby they are insufficiently aware of their own thoughts, their own universe, or their own reality. Commonly referred to as "sheeple".

Some people are only aware of their own "reality" to the complete exclusion of others reality. They are completely unaware that other people are aware of other things. Things that are completely unknown to them personally. "Other people" are usually pretty unreal to them even though they claim they "understand" other people. They don't. They only assume everyone else see's the same world they do.

And then some people can function quite well in the shared reality, what we can agree on that is real.
 

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