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Do Married People Have "the One that Got Away"?
- Thread starter 48thStreetCustom
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I'm not married now, but I was married, and I actually have several "ones that got away" that I think back and wonder why might have been. None of them was my wife, though.
I was engaged once before getting married. Thank heavens that one failed!! In retrospect it would have been both difficult and unsuccessful. If that qualifies as one that got away, I'm damn lucky that it happened.
I'm sure there are other people in the world who would have been compatible with me, but I don't know whether they would be AS compatible, nor whether I would have met them. My wife and I are in tune well enough that in 40 years we've never had a fight. We talk things over and sort them out. Probably related to both having master's degrees in Adult Education, so we tend to think and talk rather than fight.
We're happily married and retired with two fantastic daughters who love 60 miles away. Life is darn good.
I'm sure there are other people in the world who would have been compatible with me, but I don't know whether they would be AS compatible, nor whether I would have met them. My wife and I are in tune well enough that in 40 years we've never had a fight. We talk things over and sort them out. Probably related to both having master's degrees in Adult Education, so we tend to think and talk rather than fight.
We're happily married and retired with two fantastic daughters who love 60 miles away. Life is darn good.
My wife goes with me to almost every Jazz concert I go.
Dozens and dozens of times. She is not a Jazz fan.
"
Wanna go see Frank Kimbrough in Lisbon? He's going to play Monk tunes, it's going to be great!
Sure!
Great! We'll have to get back the same night, it's a week day, ok? 600kms round trip!
Ok!
"
She's the one.
Dozens and dozens of times. She is not a Jazz fan.
"
Wanna go see Frank Kimbrough in Lisbon? He's going to play Monk tunes, it's going to be great!
Sure!
Great! We'll have to get back the same night, it's a week day, ok? 600kms round trip!
Ok!
"
She's the one.
Sure, yeah. Several. But each of those relationships ended for a reason, whether or not I saw it at the time.
My wife is awesome. We've been together a long time. We're still happy. I can't crowd my brain with speculation about what might have been had I ended up with someone else. My speculation would likely be wrong anyway. I'm in a good relationship. I won the lottery.
My wife is awesome. We've been together a long time. We're still happy. I can't crowd my brain with speculation about what might have been had I ended up with someone else. My speculation would likely be wrong anyway. I'm in a good relationship. I won the lottery.
It's uplifting to read so many responses where people are happy with the way their life turned out.
Once you have kids, the question is moot. It's like asking if you'd rather have different kids than you do.
Otherwise, if you're not with someone who makes you stop thinking of what-ifs, you're with the wrong person.
Otherwise, if you're not with someone who makes you stop thinking of what-ifs, you're with the wrong person.
Gaolee
Official leathers tester and crash dummy
Life is long with odd twists. I recently connected with a woman I knew in college 40 years ago. We didn't gel at all back then but could have easily now. She said she was an amoeba then. I was a bale of thunderstorms. She is divorced, I guess. It doesn't matter. Another road not taken. Turns out there are lots of those. It is a long strange trip. And I am still happy on the narrow road I took.
I am most definitely not someone elses 'one that got away', so for my wife the answer would be no.
-Mike
-Mike
The Queen of the Universe is still the point around which my heart revolves.
No, they don't have 'the one who got away'. They have a fantasy about someone who they don't have to deal with daily. That kind of relationship is very easy to maintain...in your mind.
My wife and I have been together 4+ decades and she still amazes and amuses me daily, without even trying.
Recently, I overheard her BFF ask her:
"If your husband passed away, would you remarry?" She said, NO, do you know how long it took to train this one"
Of course 'train' meant my willingness to be kind and considerate at all times, my goal all along. As she does.
Signing off. I'm going to see if she needs a coffee refill
My wife and I have been together 4+ decades and she still amazes and amuses me daily, without even trying.
Recently, I overheard her BFF ask her:
"If your husband passed away, would you remarry?" She said, NO, do you know how long it took to train this one"
Of course 'train' meant my willingness to be kind and considerate at all times, my goal all along. As she does.
Signing off. I'm going to see if she needs a coffee refill
Gaolee
Official leathers tester and crash dummy
My wife would probably agree. I am domesticated now and make the coffee every morning and do a bunch of other things like that. It is the little things that make bigger things possible.
It took a while for me to become housebroken and domesticated. I doubt she would want to train anybody again. And the flip side is also true. Who would ever want to retrain me?
