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Does aging make you Sad ?
- Thread starter MAJOR METAL
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The age issue has been a cause of general 'freak out' and depression the last couple of years. I'll be 26 soon which I know is young...
Anyway it's not so much the age but the regret of throwing away previous years (or not living up to expectations). It was almost like I'd woken up and suddenly I was 25!
Still, I try to find my way in life and try to enjoy it, it won't be here forever!
Anyway it's not so much the age but the regret of throwing away previous years (or not living up to expectations). It was almost like I'd woken up and suddenly I was 25!
Still, I try to find my way in life and try to enjoy it, it won't be here forever!
If you drew these conclusions that early in life, you're ahead of most. That's actually really good.
Now go enjoy.
To death, man. Dig these lines from John Mayer's "Stop This Train":
Stop this train
I wanna get off
And go home again
I can't take the speed it's moving in
I know I can't
But honestly, won't someone stop this train?
Don't know how else to say it
I don't want to see my parents go
One generation's length away
From fighting life out on my own
So scared of getting older
I'm only good at being young
So I play the numbers game
To find a way to say that life has just begun
Had a talk with my old man
Said "help me understand"
He said "turn sixty-eight
Then renegotiate"
"Don't stop this train
Don't for a minute change the place you're in
And don't think I couldn't ever understand
I tried my hand
John, honestly we'll never stop this train"
I don't know, it's just a big deal for me. Age is a strange thing to me, because up until September, I kind of sat by and watched time really just go by. What I mean by that is that there's a lot of things in life that are standard fare for other people that I had never experienced. People never REALLY seemed to age or change, coming from a small town.
It's weird coming home after spending 8 months away to find your parents' hair really is grey, your dog isn't there anymore, and old room is now a den.
You know what trips you out so much more about age? Older siblings. My brother's been in a relationship for around 2.5 years right now. He's graduating from university this year, and his girlfriend will graduate the year after -- by the time they're both done school, they will have been together for almost 4 years. With this relationship, there are only two options by that point -- break up, or get engaged. It's going to be one of the two, and I know what I want to come from that one.
This year has been most importantly been teaching me about time the hard way. I've learned you can't do something over if you screw it up. That there are sacrifices you have to make -- nothing comes for free, you just might not know what you're paying. I've had some close scrapes in a lot of regards -- personally, academically, monitarily. The really good part is that I've come out the other end having learned a lot of lessons, where I saw a lot of people this year finish off/leave/get kicked out without having learned a thing about themselves.
Stop this train
I wanna get off
And go home again
I can't take the speed it's moving in
I know I can't
But honestly, won't someone stop this train?
Don't know how else to say it
I don't want to see my parents go
One generation's length away
From fighting life out on my own
So scared of getting older
I'm only good at being young
So I play the numbers game
To find a way to say that life has just begun
Had a talk with my old man
Said "help me understand"
He said "turn sixty-eight
Then renegotiate"
"Don't stop this train
Don't for a minute change the place you're in
And don't think I couldn't ever understand
I tried my hand
John, honestly we'll never stop this train"
I don't know, it's just a big deal for me. Age is a strange thing to me, because up until September, I kind of sat by and watched time really just go by. What I mean by that is that there's a lot of things in life that are standard fare for other people that I had never experienced. People never REALLY seemed to age or change, coming from a small town.
It's weird coming home after spending 8 months away to find your parents' hair really is grey, your dog isn't there anymore, and old room is now a den.
You know what trips you out so much more about age? Older siblings. My brother's been in a relationship for around 2.5 years right now. He's graduating from university this year, and his girlfriend will graduate the year after -- by the time they're both done school, they will have been together for almost 4 years. With this relationship, there are only two options by that point -- break up, or get engaged. It's going to be one of the two, and I know what I want to come from that one.
This year has been most importantly been teaching me about time the hard way. I've learned you can't do something over if you screw it up. That there are sacrifices you have to make -- nothing comes for free, you just might not know what you're paying. I've had some close scrapes in a lot of regards -- personally, academically, monitarily. The really good part is that I've come out the other end having learned a lot of lessons, where I saw a lot of people this year finish off/leave/get kicked out without having learned a thing about themselves.
Seeing that this poll will close when I'm in my late 40's makes me sad.
This poll will close on 05-03-2028
This poll will close on 05-03-2028
In the words of Tammy Wynette...
Sometimes its hard to be a woman.
In reality, its hard most of the time! Especially for older women.
When you're a 30 y.o. female bass player, "Wow, look at that hot chick up there playing bass! She's gorgeous!"
When you're a 60 y.o. female bass player, "Wow, look at that old woman up there! She's good, but...dang, look at that arm flab wiggle. Gross!"
Sigh.
Cherie
Aging can be and should be a beautiful thing and it has been for me.
At 44 I embrace everyday as a gift and attempt to make the most of it.
Everyday I'm wiser and smarter than I was the day before and I see progress in my relationships with other people.
I still make mistakes, but they are fewer and fewer. I'm headed in the right direction (knock on wood).
And my bass playing gets better everyday.
It's all good...
At 44 I embrace everyday as a gift and attempt to make the most of it.
Everyday I'm wiser and smarter than I was the day before and I see progress in my relationships with other people.
I still make mistakes, but they are fewer and fewer. I'm headed in the right direction (knock on wood).
And my bass playing gets better everyday.
It's all good...
I'm turning 20 on the 6th of may so i'm in the middle of aquarter liffe crisis i'm meani 'm gonna be a 20 year old virgin. So i think i got the right to freak out.
I actually saw it action. The woman played an upright...a skill I wish I had. She played it pretty well, too. And she had cool hair. Her silver hair was cut in a Chinese bob and streaked with neon pinks and blues.
When she got to slappin' that plank, and that arm got swingin'...oh...my. She had to be 70 or so, and at that age, it just can't be helped. Unless your DNA is just, like, *amazing*, it just cannot be helped.
There lies my fate. Now I know why so many older female musicians wear jackets.
I think I'll just have to get crazy with the hair color and buy some great jackets.
Cherie
Ayup.
Its getting harder on me, joint-wise. Shoulder, neck, ankles, knees...all have to be treated with more care now. I hold back where once I would not have done so.
For now, we do what we can, until we can't anymore. At which point, we have to figure out something else we can do.
I guess I'm gonna try and learn to play an upright, stock up on neon-colored hair dye, and work on my arms at the gym, a lot. LOL!
Cherie
I'm turning 45 this year... I've been fairly lucky but when you are in your twenties you don't have a clue how much filth and trouble you are going to put up with the upcoming years.
In my opinion the balance between moments of real happiness and misfortune isn't always that positive... I tend to feel that there are less moments of happiness than troubled times.
Problems with love, work, money, health...You can call yourself really lucky if you can get to 65 without some serious bangs against your head. Just look around you. Again : I've been fairly lucky but life isn't easy and a struggle for a lot of people. Just try looking at a young girl without feeling "older"
A bit more way out of your league ...
In my opinion the balance between moments of real happiness and misfortune isn't always that positive... I tend to feel that there are less moments of happiness than troubled times.
Problems with love, work, money, health...You can call yourself really lucky if you can get to 65 without some serious bangs against your head. Just look around you. Again : I've been fairly lucky but life isn't easy and a struggle for a lot of people. Just try looking at a young girl without feeling "older"
A bit more way out of your league ...
ageing itself doesn't make me sad but my hair slowly migrating from my head and working it's way down my back freaks me out, and it tickles my wife in bed.
I'm turning 45 this year... I've been fairly lucky but when you are in your twenties you don't have a clue how much filth and trouble you are going to put up with the upcoming years.
In my opinion the balance between moments of real happiness and misfortune isn't always that positive... I tend to feel that there are less moments of happiness than troubled times.
Problems with love, work, money, health...You can call yourself really lucky if you can get to 65 without some serious bangs against your head. Just look around you. Again : I've been fairly lucky but life isn't easy and a struggle for a lot of people. Just try looking at a young girl without feeling "older"
Ayup. Life is struggle and pain, with moments of joy and enlightenment. If we're lucky, the joy and enlightenment part happens often enough to keep us from going bat-shik. Old age is not for the timid. Takes guts to get old!
I do admire that elderly lady bassist. I'll be lucky to be playing at all, by the time I'm her age.
Cherie
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