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Does anybody else think.....

#3
Why bother telling them? Show them so clearly that there's no question. :)

Seriously, I'd say not so much *stupid* as a clever marketing ploy. IIRC, Hallmark Cards invented Mother's Day. My own mom calls it a scam. She rocks. :cool:

Edit: I'm also guessing the OP is not a parent- all the above said, one's first legit Father's Day(as a father)is pretty cool though.
 
#4
Your right I'm not a dad. However I think it takes a village to raise a child. I wasn't raised by just my parents but, by teachers, and other family members as well.

I tell my parents how much I respect and love them each day.
I realise alot of people don't and just pick ____ day to say thanks and then totally ignore their parents for the rest of the year till the holidays roll around and honestly it sickens me love doesn't have a holiday it just has a face so tell that face how you feel everyday.

I bet my brother is loving today though it's his first Father's Day however he's in Austin, Tejas and his son is in Lincoln, Nebraska so I bet it's bittersweet for him.
 
#6
I think Mother's Day and Father's Day are definitely warranted and worthwhile.

I think Valentine's Day is STUPID.

I guess that is mainly cuz my parents only want me to love them and spend time with them whenever possible.

My wife however wants really expensive shiny stuff.
 
#8
Yeah I think they're all stupid. I've managed to get out of valentines day for the last couple of years because my boyfriend thinks its dumb too. I do mothers day and fathers day though because I would feel bad if I didn't... I'm sure they think the days are stupid too but to suddenly stop giving them presents and cards might seem harsh!

I just hate shop-bought cards in general. They're so impersonal, unnecessarily expensive and generally just say dumb stuff on them. I try to appear enthusiastic when I recieve birthday cards but its very hard...

Unfortunately neither me nor my sister visited our dad today. Sucks!
 
#9
Rebecky said:
I'm sure they think the days are stupid too but to suddenly stop giving them presents and cards might seem harsh!
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I guess that means I'm harsh I don't get them anything.
I however do give a card but, only because mom or dad usually buy one for me to give to the other.

I wonder how much people spend on cards a year?
It's probably around $200 for the average person.
With all the graduations, b-days, holidays, thank you's, get well's, deaths, and sorry's. Not to mention postage.

Side Note/Fun Fact/Sad Fact: The United States Postal Service looses more than a Billion dollars each day due to Facebook, Twitter, texts, and e-mails. Whatever happened to handwritten mail? Technology klilled it along with the radio star. :hyper: 80's refrence!
 
#11
XtheDeadPawn said:
Whatever happened to handwritten mail?
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Seriously. I make it a point to send hand written letters to a few family members and friends since it is much more genuine than a text or e-mail. It feels good to open the mailbox and see a letter from one of them, and it's also a good feeling to help keep the letter carriers working.

-Mike
 
#13
My dad has always told me he doesn't give a damn about Father's Day. The mistake I made, for so many years, was to actually believe him.

This year, he got a real nice card from me. A few weeks ago, he had a cancerous tumor removed; had a heart attack from the operation, got pneumonia, and had a lung halfway collapse. He is 83, and he almost died. I rushed down to Florida to visit him, hoping he'd survive, and that if he didn't, I'd get to say goodbye.

Today, I called him. He is at his house, resting. He thanked me for the nice Father's Day card I sent him.

I smiled, and said, "you're welcome."
 
#15
mellowinman said:
My dad has always told me he doesn't give a damn about Father's Day. The mistake I made, for so many years, was to actually believe him.

This year, he got a real nice card from me. A few weeks ago, he had a cancerous tumor removed; had a heart attack from the operation, got pneumonia, and had a lung halfway collapse. He is 83, and he almost died. I rushed down to Florida to visit him, hoping he'd survive, and that if he didn't, I'd get to say goodbye.

Today, I called him. He is at his house, resting. He thanked me for the nice Father's Day card I sent him.

I smiled, and said, "you're welcome."
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Man.
Awesome story.
 
#16
It all depends on how you take it. Sure, there's commercialism in there, but how about this?

Mother's Day : A day where for once, mom is at the center of the family's attention.
Father's Day : Dads (men) are rarely given any props, so it's nice to underline their contribution.
Valentine's Day : It's nice to have a day where despite everybody's different schedule and hectic days that an evening can be dedicated some much-needed time alone and reinforce why you fell in love (and hopefully still are).
 
#18
They have become Hallmark holidays, but that's not always how they started.

Valentine's day was originally a saint's feast day. It got the association with romantic love because medieval people believed it was the start of the mating season for turtle doves or some similar kind of birds.

Mother's Day was originally supposed to honor the mothers of men killed in the Civil War. It was a companion piece to Veterans' Day and Memorial Day (I don't remember the exact sequence of these civic holidays being instituted). It was after that generation passed away that it became more generic in honor of all mothers.

I don't know the history of Father's Day but I think that was a pure Hallmark holiday to complement Mother's Day.

I'm a dad and I don't care much about Father's Day. It just so happens, however, that yesterday my 4-year-old had a ballet recital in the morning and then my 13-year-old's jazz combo played a gig at a local minigolf course, so it was a pretty awesome day. I was a very proud dad. But it was just coincidence that those got scheduled on Father's Day.
 
#20
I spent the weekend fishing with my boys, my wife made me some of my favorite foods. We all made it a point to hang together for the weekend and had a great time. Best father's day weekend ever.
If it's about a Hallmark card, then you're doing it wrong... JMHO
I think Father's Day and Mother's Days are great. Valentines day...meh, that one is a pain in the butt but still, it's about thinking about another person - doing something nice for them, showing them your appreciation and such. If it's about being forced to buy a card just because it's what is the "norm", then it's a waste. Why even bother?
If your level of caring for a particular person revolves around "crap, I have to buy a card for so and so...", then don't even bother. You would then be simply supporting the "Hallmark created and sustains the holidays" mindset.
I'm not trying to word this in a troll-like fashion, though it may come across as snooty.
What I'm trying to say is any particular holiday is what YOU make of it. If you want it to be something special, it can be. If you want it to be just another day where you begrudgingly shell out $6, $7 for a card that says something that you would never say anyway to a particular person, then why even bother?

I just don't understand the "Hallmark made me do it.." thing. Since when does Hallmark run anyone's life! :p
 

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