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Does your SO support your Bass Playing?

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by SBassman, Jan 1, 2006.


  1. SBassman

    SBassman

    Jun 8, 2003
    Northeast, US
    With SuperDuck getting hitched, I thought this would be an interesting thread:

    Does your Significant Other support your Bass Playing?

    More specifically, does your SO support your gigging, and does your SO view it as:

    1. Something you should continue doing - it makes you happy,
    or
    2. Something to tolerate but doesn't like it,
    or
    3. Something he/she expects you to grow out of,
    or
    4. Something he/she is waiting for you to give up.

    I have lived enough years to have already observed Many couples not compatible on this. How are you doing with it in your household?

    :bag:
     
  2. SBassman

    SBassman

    Jun 8, 2003
    Northeast, US
    I'll answer first - thank God, my wife falls into category 1.

    Sadly, I have seen too many people have to live with other categories, and it really does put a damper on life.
    Believe it or not, I have a friend who falls into Category 3 - with his wife expecting him to *outgrow it*.
    This guy is 40 something. :smug:
     
  3. Joe Turski

    Joe Turski

    Jul 29, 2003
    Connecticut
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    I started playing shortly after I met my wife some 17 years ago. I've been playing ever since, and will continue as long as I can.

    She loves me for who I am and for everything I do, that includes bass playing. I'm not gigging at the moment, but when I was, she was with me the whole time and never bitched or complaint once. My wife is VERY supportive.
     
  4. Figjam

    Figjam

    Aug 5, 2003
    Boston, MA
    She plays bass as well as of alittle over a year ago, so yes she likes it, sometimes band practice makes her a little lonely, but she likes the bass.
     
  5. kserg

    kserg

    Feb 20, 2004
    London, UK
    My SO hand doesnt just support it... it helps me play it...
     
  6. syciprider

    syciprider Banned

    May 27, 2005
    Inland Empire
    Syciprider does not smoke nor drink nor hangout with the guys. He goes to work, goes to school and goes home.

    He needs to do something as an outlet and the SO indulges him in his hobbies.
     
  7. Kelly Lee

    Kelly Lee Yeah, I'm a guy! Supporting Member

    Feb 17, 2004
    Marana, AZ, USA
    I'm one of the lucky ones. I have a Catagory 1 SO. :D

    If it wasn't for my wife, I would have given it up about 5 years ago.
     
  8. JimmyM

    JimmyM Supporting Member

    Apr 11, 2005
    Apopka, FL
    Endorsing: Ampeg Amps, EMG Pickups
    My wife totally supports me, but it took a couple years of training and some better paying jobs for her to get to that point.
     
  9. Yeah - I'm pretty similar to that too;
    Just a case of be good, and I'll get some time to go see the boys.
    She's actually really cool about most of it - the only part she doesn't like is when my hand reaches for the wallet.........
     
  10. Kronos

    Kronos

    Dec 28, 2005
    Philadelphia, PA
    My EX s/o fell into category 2.

    Part of the reason why she's my ex.
     
  11. Pacman

    Pacman Layin' Down Time Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    Apr 1, 2000
    Omaha, Nebraska
    Endorsing Artist: Roscoe Guitars, DR Strings, Aguilar Amplification
    She has to, it supports her.
     
  12. Munjibunga

    Munjibunga Total Hyper-Elite Member Gold Supporting Member

    May 6, 2000
    San Diego (when not at Groom Lake)
    Independent Contractor to Bass San Diego
    Yes, or else!
     
  13. Sonorous

    Sonorous

    Oct 1, 2003
    Denton, TX
    I don't have an SO.
     
  14. You just don't mess with a total hyper-elite member.

    And i did fall under #1, until we broke up. :scowl:
     
  15. fourstringdrums

    fourstringdrums Decidedly Indecisive Supporting Member

    Oct 20, 2002
    San Antonio
    My wife falls into category 1. She's happy that I'm musical and likes that it makes me happy. She just doesn't tolerate excesive spending for the instrument. If I NEEDED those things, I think she'd just deal with it, but seeing as I'm a guy who just plays for fun when the mood strikes, there's no need for me to do that.
     
  16. as it stands now, though we just got together, she loves to just sit and watch me play. Her father used to be a professional bassist, and still plays. So yea, I can only see good things
     
  17. BassChuck

    BassChuck

    Nov 15, 2005
    Cincinnati
    Count me as thankfully married to a #1 for 28 years. I was playing before we met, so my music was and is a part of me.

    She understands that being a musician is something that you are, not just something that you do.
     
  18. Matt Till

    Matt Till

    Jun 1, 2002
    Edinboro, PA
    Somewhere between one and two. :meh:
     
  19. MJ5150

    MJ5150 Terrific Twister

    Apr 12, 2001
    Lacey, WA
    There is my answer. My wife keeps asking me why I don't play or gig anymore. She misses it more than I do.

    -Mike
     
  20. Josh Ryan

    Josh Ryan - that dog won't hunt, Monsignor. Staff Member Supporting Member

    Mar 24, 2001
    Yes.