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Embrace the Suck.

Verb, Military Slang: To consciously accept or appreciate something that is extremely unpleasant but unavoidable for forward progress

So, not to pollute the COVID-19 discussion thread or the threads about baking, alternatives to gigs/rehearsals using internet technology, etc., I'd like to start a thread discussion some of the "better" transitions we've needed to make in our lives.

First off, I want to say that I completely recognize that not everyone will have "better" things happening to them in these times, what with layoffs, covidiots, elevated health concerns, sickness or outright deaths of friends and loved ones. I figure we have those subjects covered elsewhere.

I had the first hand experience of "embracing the suck" during a six month deployment to Afghanistan in 2011. I like to think that adapting to that environment with the "embrace the suck" mindset has help me adapt to these new COVID-driven realities a lot better than I might have otherwise.

So, what have YOU done to embrace the suck?

I'll start:

1. I'm loving working from home. I'm lucky to have the type of job and technology to do so. I am loving not having to commute anymore. I'm going to be grumpy when these restrictions eventually get lifted and have to go back to the office. I really don't mind being confined to my property 23 hours a day most days of the week. Afghanistan was way worse.

2. I'm appreciating not running around doing "errands" on evenings and weekends. My household has all become really thoughtful about how and where we buy our necessities. Our consumerism has ramped down a bit. Order online and curbside pickup? I'm in! I hope that remains after restrictions are lifted. in Afghanistan, we only had the chow hall and the PX - oh, and Cigar International deliveries - to worry about!

3. I had some critical health issues before all of this started (not COVID related) and I've had to adapt my diet, exercise regime, etc to help recover. Limited extracurricular activities has allowed me to better focus on a healthier diet, proper sleep regime and purposeful exercise....all for the better. Sorta the same with Afghanistan - aside from work, there wasn't much more to focus on. Cigar consumption aside.

4. I'm actually in more frequent contact with friends and relatives (albeit virtual instead of IRL). Focusing again on what matters most. Afghanistan was not different. Also spending more time with my immediate family and whatever frictions existed before seem to have dissipated for the most part. We're all a lot calmer.

How about you?
 
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I'm actually enjoying these past couple of months more than I should. You know how the day after a big snowstorm hits, it's usually quiet as a lot of places are closed because customers and/or employees can't get to non essential places of business? I like those days. The world needs to slow down occasionally.

Decades ago it was thought that with the technology available in the future that we'd all be able to work only part time and have more time that is truly our own. That didn't happen. People are working more hours per week then ever before for wages that have stagnated compared to how much things now cost.

I LOVE our (rental) home. I love the people I live with, and all of my stuff is here. I don't have a lot of pricey toys besides my bass/amp/pedals and record collection, but also with today's technology I don't feel at all isolated.

Honestly, I get out for a bit each day. Here in the Pacific NW we're encouraged to get out and walk, bike, run, etc as long as distancing rules are being followed. The weather is getting beautiful out too! Everybodys yards have never looked better. THERE IS ZERO TRAFFIC BACKUPS on the daily like there was, and my biggest hope for the new normal is that more folks will be encouraged to work from home going forward.
 
I've been working from home since 08/23/2015 so there is no suck to embrace.
It's all good! Once you get used to the new routine nothing much shakes your boat in the work-a-day world.
And one thing I've changed is not watching TV news more than an hour a day. Am listening to more music and breaking out the vinyl, of which I still have about 2,000
Lps.
 
My embrace is that I am temporarily working from home every day, and I love that. My company is not modern thinking with that stuff. While my work is all completely do able from home, and my commute is actually 110 miles a day, they previously only allowed me 1 day a week from home.

Can't say I'm looking forward to that ending.

That's about all I can muster with embrace the suck. I have had multiple family members get the virus. Have had kids of bandmates get the virus. And I have had several friends of friends die.
 
Ironically, I retired last year with the belief that I could do whatever I wanted. Hasn’t worked out that way, but it doesn’t suck either. I’m reading more than I ever did. I never was a much of a TV watcher, but I’m watching more. I miss rehearsing and playing live. But things could be worse. I’m not out of work, I’m not out of money, and so far I’ve avoided the virus. I’m thankful.
 
I prefer working in the office to working in the basement. But, I come up for air and see my wife off and on during the day. Plus, I go out in the yard, stretch, pull up a few weeds, to a little pruning or trimming, and then head back down. It's not bad at all, and the yard is a whole lot nicer than it would have been otherwise.

It's a great excuse to get in touch with old friends I haven't seen or spoken to for years. I talked to a friend in New York that I haven't seen for probably ten years. I have known her since the mid-1980s when we worked together. There are some other old friends I need to get in touch with as well. This is as good an excuse as any to get off my but and actually do it.

We are eating pretty well. Even before the virus hit, we were boiling down bones and the bits of vegetables that you don't put in salad or eat, like carrot peels and ends, collard green and spinach stems, and that kind of thing. It all goes in a pot to be cooked down for soup. We cook the bones and keep adding vegetable bits multiple times and get a whole lot of broth. Then we make soup with the broth, vegetables, and chorizo or chicken or something like that. What with the virus, it smells good, tastes good, is relatively cheap, and is all around a great way to eat well without needing to go out much. We will probably keep doing this for years.

And then our son and his girlfriend are here with us. They sure eat a lot and take up space we were used to having for ourselves. But that's OK, since it's a lot of fun to have them around. They would be bouncing off walls if they were in Los Angeles. Here, they can move, do what they need to do, practice their instruments, and all that. Plus, they can do laundry in the house, have our refrigerator and pantry so they don't have to go out, and if they get cabin fever, there's the yard. The yard isn't that big, but it's bigger than a fire escape.
 
Life for me has hardly changed, it's just a PITA to get into Walmart now.
Apparently they're going to adopt directional aisles soon, you can only enter from one side. That would be fine if people didn't take their bloody time looking over EVERY label while they're choosing.

The thing I can't get my head around is now I have even more time to play bass, but nothing satisfies me. I keep trying new songs, hoping to find something that I will enjoy playing, but the Thrill is Gone!
TBH if it weren't for GC & Sam-Ash being closed, I might have sold all our gear by now.
 
I’m lucky enough to be able to work from home. And it’s been busy enough to keep me fully occupied (and then some!)

I don’t want to jinx anything but no one close to me has been badly affected yet.

When not working, I’ve been diverting the extra energy from being stuck inside into various musical projects.

I’ve really enjoyed digging through my music collection and rediscovering old albums.

So yes, i’m thankful for a lot of things! And i’m aware lots of people aren’t as lucky.
 
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I got let go from my job on 2/28 and thought the hell with this. I'm 67 so I filed for social security. I always knew that when I retired I would no doubt being going through an adjustment period, but I never thought that adjustment period would include being told to stay at home!

We're all different. For me, the one thing I have reaffirmed is that I don't mind being in my own company. I've been alone since my divorce in '93 and being at home has been rather nice despite what's going on. I like being around other people but on my terms because I'm an introvert by nature. But I have embraced the current situation by trying to improve my guitar playing and I am noticing a difference now that I have time to practice for hours a day while realizing I have a long, long way to go and that's okay.

The only thing I really do not like is not being able to see my mom who's 92. She's doing "okay" for the most part although her dementia has ramped up a notch or two. Sure wish I could get over there. Like others I wish the weather would get warmer so I could get out more to do some yard work. It's been cold here in south eastern Michigan. Other than that I sure could use a haircut! But that can wait. Rather, it'll have to wait!
 
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"Embracing the Suck!"

I've assembled 2 P Basses in 4 weeks and the wife and I are having about the best arguments ever!

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I've been working from home since 08/23/2015 so there is no suck to embrace.
It's all good! Once you get used to the new routine nothing much shakes your boat in the work-a-day world.
And one thing I've changed is not watching TV news more than an hour a day. Am listening to more music and breaking out the vinyl, of which I still have about 2,000
Lps.

Lps RULE!
 
what have YOU done to embrace the suck?
- enjoying more time with my beautiful wife (i'm retired, she's working from home).
- re-connecting with a few old friends/compatriots.
- i'm slowly but deliberately reducing my EB inventory.
- making repairs/upgrades/adjustments to audio gear.
- i have more time for writing/arranging.
- i'm learning some new software(s).
- avoiding naysayers, debbie downers, and 'popular pessimism' is much easier, in general. of course, there are always exceptions. but here, on TB = it's entertainment!
The only thing that keeps me wondering, is what fresh hell will be next.
Unfortunately, the problems are multitude. Coronavirus is a mere blip on an obvious downward trajectory.
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