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Ever had a public argument with your significant other?

#24
Jim Nazium said:
I'm with the OP and others, if we're going to fight, I'd prefer we not do it in public. My last GF felt otherwise, though.

Just one example: we had a months-long battle over where I should attend graduate school. One weekend, one of her co-workers was having a birthday party, and she wanted us to go. OK, fine. We get there, say hi to the host, walk out to the back yard, and she strats in on me about grad school. What the heck? It couldn't wait until we left the party? Then why did we attend at all? If we aren't going to have a good time or even talk to anyone else, why not just stay home?
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I am hoping hard that grad school won out over the b. I presume it did as you called her an ex.
 
#26
Yeah, attracting this kind of attention to one's self is definitely not cool and almost always regrettable later.

I avoid cross words with my sig. other in public at all costs. It's just not worth whatever emotional release you get.

That being said, it does pop out when you least expect it, no matter how hard you try. Walking the dogs in one of the largest parks in the city the other day, my wife didn't follow my suggestion and our Great Danes took off. In an effort to get a reign on one, his leash or collar broke my right index finger (yes, it's broken, I have the x-rays to prove it). I let her have it with one good, loud, oath-filled exclamation. Just one...but it appeared I got the attention of everyone within a 300-yard radius...now there is embarassment to go along with the pain...I quickly toned it down...
 
#28
Public argument has only happened one time in my personal life, and the person in question was not only bat-$4!7 crazy, but also (unbeknownst to me a the time) totally screwed up on cocaine. This was in about 1986, FWIW.

I left her screaming at me on a street corner, just walked to the car and drove off.

I'd do the same thing again, if I were ever in that situation. I will NOT engage in loud arguing under ANY circumstance, much less in public. If someone cannot resolve a disagreement of any kind in a polite, civilized manner, then they can't resolve it in any manner.

:)
 
#29
Wasted Bassist said:
Happened every now and then with my ex. She was nuts though. Definately not normal.
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Same here. My ex-wife was psychopathic. If she got angry (which she did, foten, for no reason) she'd start a fight, regardless of where we were. I'd have to get up and leave wherever we were at just to avoid a million stares and dirty looks. Yeah, Im the a-hole just because she decided to raise her voice. Im pretty sure she relished the attention.
 
#30
Twice this has happened to me. The first time was in 1987, my girlfriend accused me of cheating on her with her best friend (nope), and this all went down in front of a K-Mart that was around the corner from her house. This was all completely out of the blue and as far as I can tell not brought on by anything I said. Basically I turned around and left. I broke up with her shortly after that.

The second time was in 1998, when I was dating this totally off-her-rocker nutcase, I took her to the mall so she could go to the pet store there. I had to park kinda far away, and she threw a fit about it right there in the parking lot. I put her back in the car, and she continued to blast me, calling me every name in the book and threatening to send her ex-boyfriend after me. Up until that point I was quite calm and just figured I would let her vent off some steam, but I saw no end to her mad ramblings and threats in sight. So, while waiting at the light to get out of the mall parking lot, I told her to “shut up and get the F*&^ out!”. Surprisingly, she did exactly that, with this look on her face that was pure shock. I threw a $20 out the window and told her to call a cab, and left her there. Not proud of that, but **** happens.
 
#32
crucislancer said:
The second time was in 1998, when I was dating this totally off-her-rocker nutcase, I took her to the mall so she could go to the pet store there. I had to park kinda far away, and she threw a fit about it right there in the parking lot. I put her back in the car, and she continued to blast me, calling me every name in the book and threatening to send her ex-boyfriend after me. Up until that point I was quite calm and just figured I would let her vent off some steam, but I saw no end to her mad ramblings and threats in sight. So, while waiting at the light to get out of the mall parking lot, I told her to “shut up and get the F*&^ out!”. Surprisingly, she did exactly that, with this look on her face that was pure shock. I threw a $20 out the window and told her to call a cab, and left her there. Not proud of that, but **** happens.
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That's epic. :ninja:
 
#34
Why is it women like to get all crazy at the mall?

First blowout - walking with my ex through the mall. I had made a comment about the way a mannequin was standing, similar to the way one of our mutual friends stands. She got all crazy and started yelling at me in the mall. I just walked back to my car, with her following, took her to her parents house, dropped her off and said I didnt want to see her ever again. Unfortunately we were married at the time. I let her start talking to me and eventually gave her another chance.

And that lasted until our second blowout about 2 months later. While at a friends wedding she started accusing me of checking out other girls. To be honest, I may have glanced here or there. She blew up, and it turned into a huge fight as we walked a few miles back towards her parents place. Then I walked 7 miles more, back to my place. That was the final straw.
 
#36
MatticusMania said:
Nah, you just gotta live with one of the crazy ones first. Then you realize everything that you don't want in a partner. It makes finding someone that you do want to be with all the more easier.
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I agree but in honesty ime I've found the 'steady' ones can 'throw their toy's out of the pram' on occasion too, but in a much more manageable way ; )

Imo women are different creatures from us, I find it's about how much you can compromise for each others character and requirements mentally, physically and shoppingly, especially shoppingly : )
 
#39
I know a good few couples whom have been cool with each other for many years to this day, of course it happens, I've been there myself now and again, 14 years my longest, but that was back when, now modern life is lived at 3 times your average speed and with what that brings with it, I find a good few people, girls and boys, men and women, who don't know who the flock they are anymore (and that sentiment sometimes reflects myself), or what they want from someone, or what their real 'emotional status' is, semi-justifiably confused so to speak, it sounds like you've fallen on your feet Matt, cool ; )
 
#40
MatticusMania said:
she started accusing me of checking out other girls.
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Think that's bad? While it wasn't a public argument, my ex stopped talking to me, stormed off and had a major falling out with me when we were on a night out with a bunch of friends.

The reason? Another girl was checking me out. I didn't even realise, and on telling her that, she said "that's hardly the point" . . . ***!
 

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