First gig in a lifetime is coming!!! I'm scared!!!

[obimark]

Correction you will run into this issue with EVERY band with guitards and amateurs... real and part time pros play at a reasonable volume.
Matter of fact the best guitarist I EVER played with,I had to ASK them to turn up some, because they were so good they were actually humble.
If they have Marshall stacks/half stacks for a bar gig, something is VERY WRONG. Run. Personally not interested in ruining my hearing even with ear plugs, and engaging in pointless /and expensive VOLUME wars, been there, done that.

 

[fivestringgecko]

Correction you will run into this issue with EVERY band with guitards and amateurs... real and part time pros play at a reasonable volume.

I agree with this, but I don't think it's limited to just an amateur level. Pros are still susceptible, they just get it worked out (much) more quickly. I think it's something that happens when you have any new group of people playing together... there's some "settling in" time required.

I got into a funk band in July which consists of all seasoned pro players... between the 11 of us, we're in a combined total of 24 different groups/gigs. However, we're still having some of the problems that Bass_Band is talking about, simply because we're a new mix of people. Nothing to get worked up over, just things to deal with. *shrug*

I'm a firm believer that while "being pro" does have something to do with the gigs on our resumes , it's also how we deal with whatever issues come up. I've met some "pros" that have had completely sh*tty attitudes, and some "amateurs" that were totally professional and easy to work with. I strive for the second, and I've been told on more than one occasion that that's why I was called again.



5sg.

 

[godofthunder59]

I hope you didn't quit the band sounds really good. If you did leave you'll have no problem finding another gig.

 

[Bass_Band]

It was a really good sounding band. The bandmates was very kind but my lack of experience blew it all. I live and learn. I was surprised that the lead guitar was the more open-minded bandmate to talk to after the show. Beside the fact that I directly point out his volume increased he always respond to me in a cool/calm professionnal manner. He said to me a lot of things that you TB'ers told me (volume issue in show is common problematic, he never wants to push me out of the mix, no two shows will be the same, he said to not react like I was after a little gig like this /in let say awful conditions; no soundman, outdoor, weird cab placement... and it was my first show.../, to judge from a video is really bad and he feels sorry that I was not happy about my place in the mix). He said, like all other bandmates, that he heard me all show long and that we made a good performance as a group that was recognized by the crowd. By no means I want to bash those guys. I react childishlly, I impulsively walk my way out of the band instead of doing a band meeting to clear that all out.

What is done is done. Since that episode I just explode musically! I was working like a dog on their setlist looking nothing but to learn the songs. Now that I'm free, all the hard work seems to payoff bigtime. I can take time to dig all kinda concept/technique/theory... and I just can't believe how I now grasp those things. Music is so fullfilling; I'm out of that band but music just don't wanna let me go! Or is it me who don't wanna let the music go?

 

[klejst]

It's good your starting out with a gig where it is a bunch of friends of your drummer and not diving right into the local club of strangers. One thing I always do is when looking at the crowd I actually look at the wall or something on the wall, I don't lock eyes with anyone, especially that cute chick in the back . Don't be nervous and have fun with it, like others have said picture your audience naked (if you can and keep your dinner down), move around a lot and just have fun. Focus on your playing, not which girls from the crowd you are going to talk to or hope they talk to you after the set.

 

[bluewine]

Volume wars are a constant issue. If you're going to quit every band you join every time you have a hard time hearing yourself, just quit now...

+ 1 You might want to seriously think about whether or not being in a rock band is your type of thing.

Not being able to hear yourself is just one of those things that happens to all of us every once in a while for a multitude of reasons.

blue

 

[Stumbo]

Learning to deal with different situations that are not optimal is part of life.

Every band you'll ever be in will present you with challenges and how you deal with them will develop your character.

Since you've never played in a band before, what perspective do you bring to the table as a basis for your decision to quit?

In addition, playing with experienced musicians is a big plus for becoming a better musician yourself!

Why go back to bedroom learning when you can be a gigging bassist?

Seems to me that you left a lot on the table in exchange forthe safety of your room.

This exactly what Blue was taking about.

IMO, I suggest you call aband meeting and talk the situation out. Seeif it's not too late.

 

[paparoof]

IMO, I suggest you call aband meeting and talk the situation out. Seeif it's not too late.

Agreed.

 

[Bass_Band]

I won't call a band meeting. I get over it.

I just got my own studio today! I'll rent it from a guy (drummer) who gives class and have some projects inthere. He seems like a very nice buddy and I'll have a lot of access to the local to push my bass!! (studio is available 24/7) He subrents his local to another band and me (3 bands total; well I'm not a band for now but I will...). I made a local ad to find musician and start my own band!

I can now practice loud in a studio! That's awesome! (my neighbour's gonna be happy) It doesn't cost me a lot and he puts at our disposal a little PA, drum and some amp and cab guitar. The bass combo is ridiculous but I reserved a corner for myself!!

Rock'n roll!