I agree. The 'stiffness'/'pliability' you mention is actually 'perceived stiffness/flexibility', and is somewhat subjective and also dependent on the bass guitar the strings are on.That raises the question as to how you could objectively compare something like stiffness/pliability. So many things come into play with this, as neck relief, string height, etc.. will all add/remove stiffness.
So the only thing to do is to work with something scientific and objective (as tension is), which would be a scientificly recognised stiffness property. This would be the string structure resistance to bending while not on the bass guitar.
That is erroneous =) I am guessing this is the reason behind your desire for '45-105 with low tension'.I have the - perhaps erroneous - impression that to nail the authority required for the relatively few notes of a reggae bassline strings must be of adequate gauge, namely not thinner than 45105.
It is also somewhat unreasonable to insist on certain gauges and then want a wide choice of tension. Tension correlates fairly closely to gauge because string construction has many constraints so cannot vary much (assuming you want metal flatwounds).
However you can get a wide variation of flexibility, as that is a completely different thing to tension, and that will affect the 'feel'.
So if you must insist on 45-105 i suggest looking for high flexibility strings.
Resistance to sideways deflection is actually primarily determined by tension, not scientific stiffness. Because the deflection is primarily fighting against the lateral components of the tension forces either side of the deflection point.To at least get comparative data on this and remove some of the variables, it seems that a standard testing rig could be defined that would tune a string to standard pitch and apply a known force at the mid-point of the string to see how far the string deflects.
But i know what you are proposing and i agree, some kind of additional 'scientific stiffness' value for a string would be good to know.
