There's nothing wrong with enthusiasm. In your case, what you ended up with just didn't match up with your needs in part because you didn't understand what you really needed and in part because the information was not presented clearly and completely which makes it hard to calculate maximum SPL values (which is part of how we would know if you have enough rig for the gig.
Notwithstanding the seemingly naive questions that I've posed, I do have a good understanding of many of the concepts that we've been discussing. After all, I do have a degree in electrical engineering (though that was a long, long time ago and I did not pursue a career in that field). That and I've been playing bass for 40+ years. You are 100% correct that, in most cases, the information available is not clear or complete enough.
The most frustrating challenge for a consumer is that each manufacturers presents information in a way that highlights their strengths and masks their weaknesses -- I think we call that marketing. When I reach out to the collective knowledge of TalkBass, my goal is to [hopefully] gather all the available data and compare the elements that are most relevant to the solution that I am investigating.
I bought a Hartke LX5500 head and a single HD112 to go with it -- They are very well matched. The amp at 8-ohms puts out 330w into a cabinet rated for 300w. It took one outdoor jam to determine that a single 12" cabinet doesn't move enough air for me, so I added a second cabinet. Now, a pair of HD112's set for 8-ohms in parallel loading the amp with 4-ohms resulted in 500w of power into a 600w speaker array. That was plenty of rig for my gigs.
I replaced the Hartke LX5500 with a Mesa Boogie Subway TT800 because I was looking for a different tonal pallet; not more power. Ergo it is a retrofit to my existing gear. Because I know that two 12" cabinets and 500 watts of power is more than sufficient for my needs, I am not concerned about damaging my existing speakers.
Here is the rub... at 500w, the LX5500 seemed louder than the TT800.