A couple of points, if I may:
"Myself and a lot of other people - famous professionals, even - got by just fine without anything more than those three items for decades."
While this is mostly true, it's also true that boomy rooms and blown drivers have been a problem for working bassists since electric bass was first invented - so, "got by just fine" isn't exactly true...
Next - a HPF isn't really an "effect", as much as it is more of a signal management tool much like the EQ section of your amp... And as for "hearing it", you don't really hear it, but definitely experience the positive results of properly using one... Truthfully, I think you're doing your fellow bassists a disservice by trying to dissuade them from trying a bit of technology that has been well proven to work as advertised... I also "got along just fine" for over 3 decades without a HPF, but now that I've used one, you can bet that I'll continue to use it...
It should be noted that many amps have an HPF built in. IMHO, whether one benefits from an add on HPF depends upon the amp and speaker they use, and the tone and volume they are want.
Given speakers that are flat to 30 hz, I can hear and feel the effect of a boost in this frequency region. However, with most amps/speakers I have used, boosting sub bass just wastes power and muddies up the sound because the speakers were not designed to operate in this range. Selecting an HPF just under the tuning frequency of a reflex cab usually provides a fairly noticeable improvement in sound with little or no perceived loss in low end.
It should be noted that boosting EQ at a frequency that is below the cabs cutoff still produces a perceivable change in the sound. I believe much of this is a result of "frequency doubling." Basically if you feed a reflex speaker a boost below it's cut off, you probably won't hear much of an increase at the tones fundamental, but you will hear an increase in output at the 2nd harmonic (octave)...given the fundamental of the B is ~ 36hz, this puts the 2nd harmonic at 72hz. Perhaps this is why (IMHO) a boost centered in the 70 to 100 hz region tends to be much more effective for fattening up the overall sound of the bass than a boost at 35 hz or lower.