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How Does It Work, I Forget?

Pick a few out after the show and get them laughing. When they're laughing and smiling they drop their guard. You have to act like you're comepletely uninterested in them and you're just hanging out relaxing with a beer. Once you've got a few chuckles, buy them a drink and then remove your attention, and do the same thing with another group of chicks. The first group will notice the second group, even if they've got dates, things to do in the morning, or whatever, they're know in competition with each other for what they crave the most - your attention. Additionally, the second group has also noticed the first group. This is when the chick that is up to bat (trust me they've sorted our their batting order after you withdrew your attention) will most likely introduce herself. If not, no biggie, introduce yourself to them. Smile when you say your name. Let that smile say that you're willing to tap all of them at the same time. Hang out say a few more funny things, make a few focused observations about them and the scene. Don't use cheesy pick up lines, but also let it be known that you're not there to 'date' (even if you are) or be friends (which you definitely are not). Get them all chatty and excited about talking to you, then remove your attention, and fire up the second group. Same thing. Going back and forth like this will bubble a few options to the surface.

Age and the number in the group doesn't matter. It's how relaxed and comfortable with yourself you are. Also if there's a focus of the room (like another band playing, or a bar) don't stand in the way of the focus, stand beside them and talk to them at first. The key is letting them know that you are in charge of what they want right from the beginning - attention. If a chick gives you attitude right off the bat walk away. I've tapped some of the most bitchy chicks this way. Eventually, if it was a front, they'll find you. Also remember, even if you don't drag a slag back to the sack, doesn't mean you're not taking home material to use at your own leisure. I've told this to a few of those really hot attitude chicks. 'hey sexy, you know the way you cram that @$$ in those jeans? Well, I'm taking that home and using it.' ;)
Enjoy. I must say I'm envious of your situation. I'd be making my own pron on the side by now (at least in my mind anyhow). :D
 
For you younger guys that don't have a lot of experience.

If you get that we can be friends thing, walk away.it's their way of politley saying "no' get lost and you ain't got nothing happening with me.
 
i am not ove weight, grey or bald...

I am, and get lots of attention. So have you tried gaining some weight, putting some grey in your hair, or shaving some off?

Don't forget gold chains around your neck. The grlz go crazy for gold chains!

Actually, what gets me the most attention is when (it at least looks like) I am already with a beautiful woman. Got any friends you can borrow for the evening? I guess it's a "Well, if he's good enough for her..." kinda thing.

Break a leg. Show the kidz how it's done!
 
First of all, congrats on the gig. Second, Chucks still rock (I'm wearing some beat-up black ones now as I sit at my desk at work). Third, there's lots of good advice that's already been given - Maki's, in particular - but never forget that nothing turns off a woman faster than the smell of desperation. Relax and smile.
 
Here's how I roll, at age 44. Dress cool, act cool, rock out a little. It works.
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Pick a few out after the show and get them laughing. When they're laughing and smiling they drop their guard. You have to act like you're comepletely uninterested in them and you're just hanging out relaxing with a beer. Once you've got a few chuckles, buy them a drink and then remove your attention, and do the same thing with another group of chicks. The first group will notice the second group, even if they've got dates, things to do in the morning, or whatever, they're know in competition with each other for what they crave the most - your attention. Additionally, the second group has also noticed the first group. This is when the chick that is up to bat (trust me they've sorted our their batting order after you withdrew your attention) will most likely introduce herself. If not, no biggie, introduce yourself to them. Smile when you say your name. Let that smile say that you're willing to tap all of them at the same time. Hang out say a few more funny things, make a few focused observations about them and the scene. Don't use cheesy pick up lines, but also let it be known that you're not there to 'date' (even if you are) or be friends (which you definitely are not). Get them all chatty and excited about talking to you, then remove your attention, and fire up the second group. Same thing. Going back and forth like this will bubble a few options to the surface.

Age and the number in the group doesn't matter. It's how relaxed and comfortable with yourself you are. Also if there's a focus of the room (like another band playing, or a bar) don't stand in the way of the focus, stand beside them and talk to them at first. The key is letting them know that you are in charge of what they want right from the beginning - attention. If a chick gives you attitude right off the bat walk away. I've tapped some of the most bitchy chicks this way. Eventually, if it was a front, they'll find you. Also remember, even if you don't drag a slag back to the sack, doesn't mean you're not taking home material to use at your own leisure. I've told this to a few of those really hot attitude chicks. 'hey sexy, you know the way you cram that @$$ in those jeans? Well, I'm taking that home and using it.' ;)
Enjoy. I must say I'm envious of your situation. I'd be making my own pron on the side by now (at least in my mind anyhow). :D

Word.
 
i cant really help much.. women were always naturally drawn to me after i played. might have something to do with being in decent shape and refusing to play with a shirt on. trouble was.. most of the girls were too young for me. i was playing proggy hard rock with a lot of energy. i guess all the intensity drew in ladies.

but have fun and make sure you look like you're having fun. then mingle. they might be into you and just never said anything

edit: like this: :D

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"You & You"
MakiSupaStar said:
It's how relaxed and comfortable with yourself you are
i second that! Do your voodoo on stage, be happy about it & show it!! Do not show-off though.


"You & the Ladies"
MakiSupaStar said:
Don't use cheesy pick up lines.
still do not forget to compliment the lady that interests you.
My piece of advice, when it comes to compliments- is to be somewhat *original*.
Compare her hair-colour-tone to a bass note. You could also compare the sound of her voice to a bass note and tell her the colour. (Link Removed,Link Removed)
You must be thinking.. "to hell with that! i ain't gonna sit & learn the *correspondancies*"... ok i understand..but do not forget that real ladies & women in general do not come crawling - they need/demand effort by the male conquerer anyway.
And..when the average age is 25-27,you could always ask her how come & SHE is there & propose to buy her a drink so you 2 make a group of your own *average*:p

A perfect advice i read by another poster was to mix-up before the gig & after it. Take your time and go through the whole gamut of available ladies - minimise your options according to your taste.

In my humble opinion - *playing* with two groups of ladies will ruin every chance you'd have---"He just wants to get some".
And never NEVER *play* with all the ladies of one group. Smile & compliment all of them perhaps but save your "secret smile" for your target.


"Accesories?"
..forget all about gold. and instead of a *chain* of whatever kind prefer a plain symbol (ditch classic crosses). This could start a conv. & give you the chance to check her ken as well.
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Well.. i think it's time for me to end this post. i hope i helped even a bit. Take Care & do not forget to have fun !!!:hyper:

PS I: yeah..chicks were cooler back then...BUT! back then there were far more drugs messing their minds. :ninja:
PS II: Sorry if my "english" isn't good enough but my mother-language is "greek" & i prefered to *explore* her than learn better "english" :\
 
Ok,someof you guys know about all the drama I caused about going back out and auditioning for gigging Pop/Rock Band at age 56.Everyone in the band is half my age.

Then you know I got picked up my a band a few months ago and have several shows under my belt.I love it and I plan on getting better at all aspects of gigging from my chops to stage presense.

Oooooh! "Several" shows!
Oh, come on! Looking for "groupies"?????
I think you really need to give it some more time than that!
It's not the '60's anymore and "free love" isn't in their vocabulary.
Since you're still planning on "getting better at all aspects of gigging from my chops to stage presense", I would think that the "getting laid" aspect of the job might want to take 2nd place to that????????

Otherwise, put yourself out on an internet dating service and post that your a working musician looking for a good time after the gig. :rollno:
 
Oooooh! "Several" shows!
Oh, come on! Looking for "groupies"?????
I think you really need to give it some more time than that!
It's not the '60's anymore and "free love" isn't in their vocabulary.
Since you're still planning on "getting better at all aspects of gigging from my chops to stage presense", I would think that the "getting laid" aspect of the job might want to take 2nd place to that????????

Otherwise, put yourself out on an internet dating service and post that your a working musician looking for a good time after the gig. :rollno:


That is probably the way it will work out, just get the whole music act together. I have to face it, no chics are interested in 56 year olds.Not even the ones that are 56.

I am going to spend my time on perfecting my bass presentation.At my age I'm lucky that I am still out playing Pop Rock
 
Accesories?"
..forget all about gold. and instead of a *chain* of whatever kind prefer a plain symbol (ditch classic crosses). This could start a conv. & give you the chance to check her ken as well.


Good advice, but why do you guys think if your 56 your in the gold chain club.I don't own or wear any chains.