I have always been curious about this. You will rather frequently see a thread from someone just beginning to play an instrument in which they ask the question "How long does it take to get good". The post is often met with multiple replies that all basically boil down to some version of "it depends". We all know that "it depends" is the correct answer, but I am not sure it is usually very helpful. With all that being said I would like to ask the question in a different way. How long did it take you to get good? How long was it from when you first started playing an instrument until you were regularly playing with others? How long until you joined your first band or music group? How long until you played your first gig? How long until you felt like you were competent or at least felt comfortable referring to yourself as a bass player or (insert instrument) player, or musician?
To get things started I have been playing bass for a little over 3 years. I joined my first band about 4 months after I started playing. It was a rock originals/cover band that was apparently very desperate for a bass player. Three bands later I played my first real gig one year and three months after I started playing. After two years I began to feel comfortable referring to myself as a bass player and musician. I still do not feel like I am very good, but I get better every day.
How long to get good? Well, lets say after 30 years of playing (with breaks of a few years in now and than to deal with "life" )I don't think I am good yet.
How long did it take me to get competent enough to get to the point where people didn't mind playing with me? I'd say 3-4 years.
Probably took me longer than a lot of people to reach a competency level where people wanted to play with me as I had some disadvantages and hurdles to overcome in those early years.
First gig was probably was probably some backyard party in that time frame..First "real" gig was sometime years later when I was in college in Missoula.
First real band was an original band at that point of time in Missoula also.
Today people seem to enjoy my playing, but I personally don't feel like I'm all that good or as good as I could/should be. I have a horrible time remembering changes to tunes for one thing, so often times need to rely on an iPad..Thats gotten better over the years though. Secondly there are some things I just struggle way too much on, such as soloing through a given set of changes. People will complement me on solos I do, but I listen back to them and find them cringeworthy too much of the time.
In any case safe to say that in the past I used to look at all this as sort of a race, and at this point now just view it as a journey.
I don't play out or with people as much as I feel I should be for whatever reason, but I think that's more because people probably find me aloof or distant and are put off by that..