I see this come up in different situations. Fortunately, it's not been me whose had to deal with it, at least not within the last 8 years or so. But I've seen it happen to other people. Someone in the band gets it in their head there is a need for another member to change some way. I won't give a specific example so we don't go discussing that, rather than the point of the thread. The person, the target, indicates whey they aren't going to make that change. So, the person requesting the change, keeps asking for the change, over and over and over. The target indicates why they won't be changing. And then it gets more polarized, with the target getting more and more assertive. But the guy requesting the change won't quit. He keeps bringing it up, over and over again. To make matters more interesting, it's not a band-wide call for change, just one person's request that the target person make the change. How should the target respond to this situation? How would you respond to this situation if you were the band leader, looking on, if you think a response is due at all from you as BL?