Be forewarned, this will be long. Some of you may be somewhat familiar with the problems I've had with the BL in my band. I've been playing with this band for almost a year and it's been a year of turmoil and stress. The band is, essentially, a guitar band doing Country and Southern Rock covers consisting of 5 or 6 people, depending on what time frame you pinpoint. I have stayed because I struck up a friendship with the BL, liked the music we were doing, and the gigs did start to come, and we played them. Our current lineup is the most competent one to date and when we are firing on all 8, we're pretty darn good for what we do. Here's the Reader's Digest version; Band is about 4 years old now. Has been broken down and rebuilt countless times from what I can see. From what I can tell there have been in excess of 25 people in and out in that time. It did not gig regularly, or really at all, until late last summer. As of today, other than myself and the BL, none of the members I started with are still there and some positions have been filled multiple times. Like many bands, we have always struggled with guitarists. We currently have one very good guitarist who is a great guy and a lot of fun to be in a band with. He's a great rhythm player and can carry some leads, but he's not "all night lead guitarist material", if you know what I mean. He knows it, and is okay with it. So we've been trying to nail down a good lead player, a position that has seen huge turnover since I've been there. We did line up a great guy who we had for a month...but something happened, he and the BL had some sort of fight, and he bowed out, just as we were about to cut our demo CD. We did the demo with a "hired gun" playing lead, actually an acquaintance of the BL who came in cold and knocked it out of the park. So this past Tuesday the BL brings in a new guitarist, a friend of his he's known for a long time. BL builds him up ahead of time to be a great player, very capable, and "just what we need". Nice guy, great personality, but absolutely not the guy for the job. Basic ability, very timid, did nothing that a first year guitar student couldn't do. The BL asks the band, at the end of the practice, "So....does he come back next week?", right in front of the guy....... We all felt pretty much put "on the spot", and nobody said very much. The BL then sends all of us an e-mail asking for feedback about the guitarist's performance. We all responded with basically the same thing; nice guy, but we were left very disappointed with his playing and felt we needed to look elsewhere for someone with more ability. Then the BL pulls a douche move. Without asking us or letting us know what he's going to do, he forwards my e-mail and the rhythm player's e-mail to the new prospect. The BL then sends us an e-mail, afterward, with the guy's response (the guy seemed insulted and dejected, obviously) and the BL asks us to contact him to clarify our comments. I'm not going to do that. WTH? The rhythm player calls me and he's irate that the BL did this. Says the e-mail was meant for the BL only, and I agreed. Am I wrong to be irritated with this? Right now I'm feeling like this is the last straw. I'm done. As it stands now the drummer has had enough of this guy, and so has the singer. Both have been with the band for 3 months. The drummer has been looking to keep the group together, minus the BL, and continue on with the music under a different band name, which just might happen now. I was the last holdout. The only value the BL has is that he books shows and handles the business end. He can't play, he can't sing (anymore). The drummer was the BL in his old band for 12 years and says he can step up and is willing to handle the bookings, advertising, and negotiations. Thoughts?