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Hypothetically speaking

#21
Skel said:
.....I will say this, I would have felt very weird if she was doing that and my wife was standing there.
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OK, you need to let your wife take over the interaction with this woman. Your wife can arrange to exchange the mail, talk about paint, and so on.

Here you are posting on the internet about this mysterious woman who used to live in your house, and who knows how much of your thoughts she is consuming during the rest of the day.

You need to step back my friend. I know you said NOTHING would happen, but a lot of people who end up committing adultery probably said that before it went that far. Honestly, I am worried for you.

-Mike
 
#22
Ray Holt said:
I'm glad nothing is going to happen. Didn't mean to offend you or annoy you or anything!
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No really. It's fun to talk about this kind of stuff, but after seeing what happened to my brother about 10 days ago, I wouldn't even THINK about ever being unfaithful to my wife. No kidding. But I asked an honest question about this touching thing because I honestly don't understand this kind of stuff. I had a women come on to me at work a few years ago, but she didn't touch me or anything, she just got right in my face in a room where she knew only her and I would be in. At the time I really wasn't sure what she was doing. I'm naive.
 
#23
MJ5150 said:
OK, you need to let your wife take over the interaction with this woman. Your wife can arrange to exchange the mail, talk about paint, and so on.

Here you are posting on the internet about this mysterious woman who used to live in your house, and who knows how much of your thoughts she is consuming during the rest of the day.

You need to step back my friend. I know you said NOTHING would happen, but a lot of people who end up committing adultery probably said that before it went that far. Honestly, I am worried for you.

-Mike
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I really appreciate this - you guys are so good here. I'm not thinking about her and I'll just make it so that my wife interfaces with her. Whatever I would do would never make up for the pain I would cause so many other people - I wouldn't do that.
 
#26
Skel said:
Let's say you are a guy, and you're talking to a girl/woman that you just recently met. You're talking about paint colors and the paint colors of interest seem to all be on the sweater you're wearing. This person is using their hands/fingers, touching, kind of rubbing the arm of your sweater to explain. Is there anything being said besides the literal part of this? Would you be comfortable with this, or is this getting into your space a little too much?
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Yes, there is. Touching and being comfortable at close distance with someone you just met is a sign of compatibility and attraction on their part.

You are not crossing a line unless you are reciprocating the signs of affection. Your significant other may still disagree, best to ask her how she feels about such situations...they will come up in your gigging career after all.

That said, you probably could have suggested getting coffee or something similar and seen where that went ;)

Although I do recall your post about your tendency to be tempted in the right circumstance (as we all are from time to time) and trust me mate, it's not worth it. From the moment you choose that path you will always, ALWAYS, think with the little man from that point on. . .
 
#28
It would be crossing a line for me. I don't liked to be patted or rubbed or caressed or whatever you said the hypothetical woman was hypothetically doing. Not hypothetically without my hypothetical permission. Even if said hypothetical woman is hypothetically hot. I have definate boundaries. And those boundaries are not hypothetical.
 
#29
And if you guys think "sexual harrassment" is just for women, it's not. A while back I worked on computer systems where I would to go to the customer sight. This woman had a cubicle where the system was. She would stand where there was no way I could work on the system without..you know, being a 16th of an inch from her. It really pissed me off, but it's hard for a guy to complain about something like that. I know it sounds easy, but now I know what women have probably gone through for 100 years.
 
#31
Everyones got their own personal space issues. You can't say "get the ---- away from me" Because then people look at you like you're an insensitive prick. So you have stand there with a goofy blank stair.

Or

Make a joke about it. One that can be taken seriously or just as a joke "Come on lady I have a wife.........seriously" would have done well in this situation
 
#32
Skel said:
And if you guys think "sexual harrassment" is just for women, it's not. A while back I worked on computer systems where I would to go to the customer sight. This woman had a cubicle where the system was. She would stand where there was no way I could work on the system without..you know, being a 16th of an inch from her. It really pissed me off, but it's hard for a guy to complain about something like that. I know it sounds easy, but now I know what women have probably gone through for 100 years.
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I had that happen when I worked in system support too.

I was sitting at a female users desk and she was looking over my shoulder and pressed herself against my back enough for me to know it was her rack. I felt a little violated but shurgged it off.

A while later I was back supporting her machine and we are walking to the printer to get a job she couldn't print and she is walking in front, drops her pen and just stops dead, bending over at the waist and Ihad to work to stop short quickly and almost bumped into her, and when I say into her I mean into her - the jeans she had on were that tight! She just turned and smiled at me as I stared at her like "You what!!!" Plus she would always verbally tease and make suggestions most men would blush at.

It was not what I considered a positive experience at all, in the end any calls she made were allocated to other officers...
 
#38
nad said:
I'm sure we all have friends where a girl says "hi" to them at a store, where they work and are paid to say "hi" to everyone with a 15 mile radius, and WHAM! it automatically means "she wants me." Hey, I've said it a few times myself. Those occasions were real though, she did want me. :p
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I've had some messups cause of this phenomena.


Skel said:
At the time I really wasn't sure what she was doing. I'm naive.
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I'm with ya one this. I don't ever understand women at all.
 
#39
Like i said before... that's nothing... ...really... I have to get this off my chest...

So here is how it started yesterday: Remember that this is first time I've met this girl... and also remember that her boyfriend is passed out next to her because he has a headache.

So as soon as boyfriend passes out:

Her: "So what is your favorite position when you are "doing it"?
Me: "Uh, heh... I guess doggy style is pretty fun, why?"
Her: "OMG that's my favorite!"
Me: "OK"
Her: "What music do you like to have sex to?"
Me: "***?"
Her: "I like techno, i really don't like techno but for some reason when I am having sex i love to do it to techno".
Me: "Really now..." (Her boyfriend is still next to her, passed out)
Her: "So out of everyone here, who would you choose to "do" if anyone?"
Me: "Um there are few, now, why techno? Do you do the silly dance while doing this and use glow sticks?"
Her: "No glow sticks, but you know whats fun! Glow in dark condoms!" (At this point i actually high fived her, Kelly Lee knows what i am talking about, we were making fun of it year ago along with Ray Salamon and Mon Rominee Here)

*silence*

Her: "You know, i never really got into a 4play, do you think that you are good at that"
Me: "I guess..."
Her: "Yeah, i like piercing but i would never get my boobs pierced because i like it rough...(and now i am going to stop)"

I think you all get the point, I stopped only because it gets very graphic after that. I was suppose to go to her house today but NOOO, far too weird for me... It's a shame because she was damn cute too. Maybe if her boyfriend wasn't passed out next to her while all this was going on i would...

The funny thing was, when i left that place and got into my jeep, the song that was playing "psycho killer" by talking heads. Fits the ending so perfectly.

Ok, i had to tell you guys this... sorry... carry on with your "she touched me" stories.
 
#40
Skel said:
Let's say you are a guy, and you're talking to a girl/woman that you just recently met. You're talking about paint colors and the paint colors of interest seem to all be on the sweater you're wearing. This person is using their hands/fingers, touching, kind of rubbing the arm of your sweater to explain. Is there anything being said besides the literal part of this? Would you be comfortable with this, or is this getting into your space a little too much?
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sounds like an IOI, act accordingly
 

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