I feel like I'm losing it!

[geeza]

I absolutely love this quote. Do you mind if I put it in my signature?

Help yourself. It's one of my favorite quotes too (I didn't write it).

 

[fourstringdrums]

You have a job, a wife, and a measure of health. Focus on what's right and you won't have time to focus on what's wrong. I know, easier said than done. But keep trying.

-Mike

+1

I'm 30, and I was born with Cerebral Palsy. That has never stopped me from anything in life, but eventually it stopped me from working. I used to work for Verizon making $22/hr with full health and dental and retirement. In 2007 I got diagnosed with Carpal Tunnel from all my years of crutch use. This forced me to go on SSDI and stop working full time permanently because the work I am restricted to, office and what not, I can no longer do it since my hands are usually in some measure of pain or discomfort. I play drums and bass, and fortunately they are actually a form of therapy.

So I went from $40+k a year to just under $20k on SSDI. I wound up becoming a stay at home husband and I found a love for gardening, lawncare, general home maintenance, cooking and I had time to play music.

Life was great, I was happy and my wife and I were very well off financially. Fast forward to last June. My wife and I separated, and in September I had to get an apartment. I lost the house (she got to keep it because we had no equity when values dropped and she makes 3 times my income), lost most of my friends who decided to take sides, and was put in a just barely paycheck to paycheck situation.

Fast forward again to now. I'm with someone new, and while my finances aren't much better, in September I'm moving in with her to a new state, and a new life. I'll be able to get things back on track financially, but even before then, she is everything I needed in my life. She supports my musical and creative side, she supports me emotionally, and where my wife and I had some issues regarding my not being able to work, she supports me financially (not literally..)

My point is, everything went from pure **** to something I couldn't have imagined less than a year ago. I still have things i have to work through, but I'm happy and thankful for the good things I have in life again, and I know I'm back on the fast track to having the life I always wanted and used to have.

Best of luck to you. It will all work out if you really want it to and don't give up hope.

 

[Valiant Bandit]

Fast forward again to now. I'm with someone new, and while my finances aren't much better, in September I'm moving in with her to a new state, and a new life. I'll be able to get things back on track financially, but even before then, she is everything I needed in my life. She supports my musical and creative side, she supports me emotionally, and where my wife and I had some issues regarding my not being able to work, she supports me financially (not literally..)

My point is, everything went from pure **** to something I couldn't have imagined less than a year ago. I still have things i have to work through, but I'm happy and thankful for the good things I have in life again, and I know I'm back on the fast track to having the life I always wanted and used to have.

Best of luck to you. It will all work out if you really want it to and don't give up hope.

+1000 For your post man, it really touched me. I'm just like you man, I'd rather be struggling financially and have my wife than making 70K and a lonely drug addict.

I just want to give my wife the world and when I have children, I want to give them the world as well which is why sometimes working at this joke of a job gets the best of me.

However it could be much worse. I get paid hourly plus comission to sell appliances. I get to sit on my arse for over 75% of my shift and surf the internet when nobody's around. I text my wife while sitting on my arse and I get paid for it. I'd be pissed if I had to work another department in this store for minimum wage though...They REALLY get the shaft!