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I gave away my #1 bass

bolophonic

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Dec 10, 2009
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1. I've been getting to that age where I'm starting to look around and wonder what will become of all this STUFF I've been accumulating over time. After setting up my wills and doing a general purge in the last few years, I started to go through my gear with an eye towards how it might be dispersed once I'm gone (hopefully not for a long time.) My wife and kids would certainly have to guess how I prioritize any of it.

2. A few weeks ago, one of my closest friends asked me to add some bass guitar to a recording project he was working on. He and I have worked on music together for almost 20 years and he is definitely the person who has inspired me the most to stick with it and to aim high. He is a phenomenal bassist.

3. My buddy texted me last week to ask me some questions about the bass I used to record. He really liked the sound. I told him it was a jalopy mutt built out of cast-off parts. He asked if I would consider helping him source something similar, which was the highest praise I could think of.

4. This past weekend, another close friend was stricken down at age 49 with a massive stroke that came out of nowhere like a bolt of lightning. We paid our respects and said goodbye to her in the ICU on Saturday.

5. Afterwards, I found myself looking at that bass over and over again and realized that it's just a thing and instead of trying to replicate the sound of it, I could just as easily surprise my friend with the exact bass that he liked and then have the pleasure of hearing it in his hands.

6. I now have a huge hole in my wall rack, so I need to start figuring out which one of my project basses is coming off the back bench into the big leagues. Wish me luck!

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Very generous of you! Sorry to read of your other friends passing. Nothing like experiencing the sudden loss of a close peer to make us realize that our possessions are just stuff that we can't take with us when our own ticket could just as unexpectedly be punched. Still... my friends are going to have to outlive me to get my #1 bass and/or my records.

Good luck putting together your new #1 player... Should be a fun project.
 
Great story, thanks for sharing.

It's nice to get to a point in life where it's truly satisfying to give away stuff that has real significance to someone else.

A young guy at my church that now plays in the band always liked the bass I used to play. He and his wife work real hard to scrape by. Since I'm running sound the last couple years, I decided to surprise him at Christmas and just give him that bass. He almost cried.
 
Thank you to everyone who responded here. For the first half of my life, I was not what you would call generous by nature. I was often intentionally abrasive, entitled, and kind of selfish. It wasn't until I began to surround myself with people like the ones I described above that I truly began to learn how to build relationships that I cherish. So it felt really nice to pay tribute to two good friends at once. My friend Deanna was a social worker who took in abandoned children and raised them like they were her own. She was like a godmother to my boys. Just... more generosity than most of us would show in 100 years.

After leaving the hospital on Saturday, I spent the afternoon in a little reunion session with two other great players from my past and brought my new #1, which felt cool. It's a nice bass. I have like, seven more of them around here, so I'm not facing any hardships.

Rock and roll! Basses for everyone!!!
 
Similar situation here. I just separated > 38 years and moving all my 'stuff' bout broke me. Thang gad fer Physical Therapy.
And, my friend the hoarder's mom died in December, age 93, same as my Daddy, so my friend just added the furniture he inherited from her to his other useless junk.
I'm 69 next month and I thought 'that's it, time to rid myself of the 200 books I'll never read and these clothes I'll never wear again and these tools from the 1980s'.
The clothes and tools the charity stores will take. But most won't take books anymore, a glut on the market since the kids (anyone younger than 45) only 'read' on they fondle-slabs so the library gets them. ('Print is dead', Egon Spengler, 1984.)
Seeing the horrors of hoarding is making me even more of a minimalist than ever.
I gave three basses and amps to my kid's old school so I'm down to 'only' four now, all with different tones. But I salute you, sir, for making someone happy.
As we age and notice that big pit in front of us it becomes the most important thing. I'm not spiritual so I believe the only eternity we're granted is the memory of us that others hold.
Nice move.
 
Great story and good for you with your generosity and kindness.

Once, I gave a bass to the local high school jazz band. The one they had was hardly worth playing.

Another time, a long time ago, I gave a bass (not even a very good one) to a neighborhood 14 year old kid who said he wanted to learn how to play bass. I took the bass over for him to "play for a few minutes". Before I left I said, "why don't you just keep it?" His head just about exploded. It was a bass that I didn't really want anymore, but to him it was a REALLY big deal.
 
I'm totally stealing your sharpie headstock logo idea....
My daughter (also a bassist) and I built a Frankenstein fretless out of $35 in Craigslist parts, and this was our headstock:
 

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