Here is what happened with my band, I am curious to know if you think I am being irrational....sorry about the lengthy story.
I joined a cover band about a month ago. It wasn't really a band per say, just a guitarist who wanted to start a cover band of a certain band. So after about two-three weeks we start to find drummers. After about 2 drummers we settle on this girl.
So we start to practise some tunes. I am given no selection in these tunes, and am told the night before the practise the tunes. I am given the reasoning of " Well Kyle, you learn tunes quic so I didn't think you would mind." Now, as much as I am able to learn tunes fairly fast, it is not soemthing I enjoy to do. I do live a life besides playing bass (I know how weird.) So when i as about getting my choice in tunes from this band, I am told "This is my band, so I choose the tunes." To this I responded, "Well then, my fee is $15/hr for rehersales." After this, he starts to ask me which tunes I would want to do.
Next couple of jams, I always got a "I am not able to sing in this key, so we can't do it." "Well then what key can you sing in, and we can change the tune to this key." No response is what I get. I started to get fed up with this.
Apart from this, the kid is not able to rember song lyrics. Before every song he has to look at the lyric sheet to rember the song, and does not rember the lyrics mid song, so doubles up on lines. I say, Okay, thinking it will start to stay in his memory, but I am wrong. So I suggest he uses a music stand that is already there, and use the lyrics for rehersal, and then he wont forget lyrics. But he says "no no no, I don't need them, blah blah blah..."
So fast forawrd a week. We book a jam space at a place that is $20/hr in downtown Toronto. I show up around 10 min early, and there is no sight of them. I get the room, set up and just start to play some licks, and practise some Jaco licks and such. I call them 20 min after we were scheduled to start and am told "we are around the corner." Okay, so they will be here soon, wrong. They show up 45 min late, and blame traffic. I am sorry, but I live farther away then them, and I am pretty sure they know what rush hour traffic is like in Toronto, and should of been there on time. SO there goes $20 down the drain. afterwards I have a word with the drumemr saying, "I am not putting up with this anymore. I have had enough of forgeting the lyrics, being late and his potty mouth. If it does not get better at the next practise I am out." She agrees with em and understands.
Next night, we get together. They are on time, it starts out good, but then turns to normal. Forgetting lyrics, and then him going into Hendrix and Satriani licks, where i sit down and then say " Hey I didn't pay to play this."
So the next day i talk to him and tel him my reasoning for leaving. Which were as follows:
1- Him always forgetting lyrics and refusing to use sheets during practise.
2-I can not afford $20 twice a wee for practise spaces, sorry, but I am 19 years old, I pay rent, insurance, gas and food, and don't get many hours at work.
3-That I have decided that I don't want to play too much rock music anymore. It has started to annoy me, and want soemthing I enjoy more....ska...reggae..jazz..funk..etc.
Right after I say these, I get big F*** off, and your such a.....and you need to learn respect. He gets his mother to call me and give me heck about it. He starts to make fun of my musical taste, and bands I enjoy, because they are not punk rock bands (Ben Harper, Toots and The Maytals....) Then, what gets me even more mad is that he starts to disrespect me the most and tae shots at my vegan lifestyle. "I am sorry, i told him, but what does my life style have to dow ith this?" He starst with racial slurs about Pakistani people and me, and Chinese people and such.
I reply with a sorry, but if you continue acting immature, I am not going to tal to you anymore. I had some bassists ready for them to audition, but after what I heard from this guy about me, I did not give him their names/e-mails.
Sp this was all about a week ago, and I visited the site las tnight to realise my picture, name and such is still on the site. I ask for them to be removed since it has to do with me, and I am no longer affiliated with the band so I an not needed to be up there anymore. I get response "sorry, all that info is my property now, and I want it up there so the band looks complete."
I tell him look, I dont care about the recordings, just take the videos off, my photograph and information, and continue to use the audio but give me credit for playing bass on it, and I am fine, they paid for the recording aswell. But am confronted by the same answer as it is all my property and no I want it up there.
So here is my question. Am I being irrational about asking to have my name, photograph(video) and contact info taken off of the site?
P.S. I am not posting what band it was a cover band of, or the website, but here is a hint, there is an ongoing post about if they are punk or not. PM me and I can give you the site.
I joined a cover band about a month ago. It wasn't really a band per say, just a guitarist who wanted to start a cover band of a certain band. So after about two-three weeks we start to find drummers. After about 2 drummers we settle on this girl.
So we start to practise some tunes. I am given no selection in these tunes, and am told the night before the practise the tunes. I am given the reasoning of " Well Kyle, you learn tunes quic so I didn't think you would mind." Now, as much as I am able to learn tunes fairly fast, it is not soemthing I enjoy to do. I do live a life besides playing bass (I know how weird.) So when i as about getting my choice in tunes from this band, I am told "This is my band, so I choose the tunes." To this I responded, "Well then, my fee is $15/hr for rehersales." After this, he starts to ask me which tunes I would want to do.
Next couple of jams, I always got a "I am not able to sing in this key, so we can't do it." "Well then what key can you sing in, and we can change the tune to this key." No response is what I get. I started to get fed up with this.
Apart from this, the kid is not able to rember song lyrics. Before every song he has to look at the lyric sheet to rember the song, and does not rember the lyrics mid song, so doubles up on lines. I say, Okay, thinking it will start to stay in his memory, but I am wrong. So I suggest he uses a music stand that is already there, and use the lyrics for rehersal, and then he wont forget lyrics. But he says "no no no, I don't need them, blah blah blah..."
So fast forawrd a week. We book a jam space at a place that is $20/hr in downtown Toronto. I show up around 10 min early, and there is no sight of them. I get the room, set up and just start to play some licks, and practise some Jaco licks and such. I call them 20 min after we were scheduled to start and am told "we are around the corner." Okay, so they will be here soon, wrong. They show up 45 min late, and blame traffic. I am sorry, but I live farther away then them, and I am pretty sure they know what rush hour traffic is like in Toronto, and should of been there on time. SO there goes $20 down the drain. afterwards I have a word with the drumemr saying, "I am not putting up with this anymore. I have had enough of forgeting the lyrics, being late and his potty mouth. If it does not get better at the next practise I am out." She agrees with em and understands.
Next night, we get together. They are on time, it starts out good, but then turns to normal. Forgetting lyrics, and then him going into Hendrix and Satriani licks, where i sit down and then say " Hey I didn't pay to play this."
So the next day i talk to him and tel him my reasoning for leaving. Which were as follows:
1- Him always forgetting lyrics and refusing to use sheets during practise.
2-I can not afford $20 twice a wee for practise spaces, sorry, but I am 19 years old, I pay rent, insurance, gas and food, and don't get many hours at work.
3-That I have decided that I don't want to play too much rock music anymore. It has started to annoy me, and want soemthing I enjoy more....ska...reggae..jazz..funk..etc.
Right after I say these, I get big F*** off, and your such a.....and you need to learn respect. He gets his mother to call me and give me heck about it. He starts to make fun of my musical taste, and bands I enjoy, because they are not punk rock bands (Ben Harper, Toots and The Maytals....) Then, what gets me even more mad is that he starts to disrespect me the most and tae shots at my vegan lifestyle. "I am sorry, i told him, but what does my life style have to dow ith this?" He starst with racial slurs about Pakistani people and me, and Chinese people and such.
I reply with a sorry, but if you continue acting immature, I am not going to tal to you anymore. I had some bassists ready for them to audition, but after what I heard from this guy about me, I did not give him their names/e-mails.
Sp this was all about a week ago, and I visited the site las tnight to realise my picture, name and such is still on the site. I ask for them to be removed since it has to do with me, and I am no longer affiliated with the band so I an not needed to be up there anymore. I get response "sorry, all that info is my property now, and I want it up there so the band looks complete."
I tell him look, I dont care about the recordings, just take the videos off, my photograph and information, and continue to use the audio but give me credit for playing bass on it, and I am fine, they paid for the recording aswell. But am confronted by the same answer as it is all my property and no I want it up there.
So here is my question. Am I being irrational about asking to have my name, photograph(video) and contact info taken off of the site?
P.S. I am not posting what band it was a cover band of, or the website, but here is a hint, there is an ongoing post about if they are punk or not. PM me and I can give you the site.
...but in a joking kind of way... 
