Just Walked Out of Practice

[Marko 1]

One thing I learned in life is that you can’t make an inconsiderate person considerate.

Psychology, head games, warnings, threats- doesn’t matter, they’ll always disappoint.

 

[Icey101]

tell the guys you are going to advertise for another lead singer as a "fill in"...someone who wants experiance while your other singer is away....then tell the lead singer not to come in until half way through rehearsal as per usual to give the other guy a go...lol

 

[Mirios]

Honest and reliable people function best when in the company of honest and reliable people. If I need to lie to get a guy to show up to a paying gig on time, I'd prefer to re-invest that energy into replacing him with someone who wants it more.

I did it to a friend of mine to make a point. It didn't fix anything. The project fell apart. Still was happy to get the 'prank' off. We still laugh about it to this day.

But you're right in a more professional situation it would be inappropriate.

 

[Depth_Charge]

I did it to a friend of mine to make a point. It didn't fix anything. The project fell apart. Still was happy to get the 'prank' off. We still laugh about it to this day.

But you're right in a more professional situation it would be inappropriate.

I don't play to make points or change people - I play for money and fun, in that order.

Toolbags like your singer risk compromising those objectives and ruining it for the more hardworking and reliable members. Consequently such personalities (tbags) have a very finite life in the groups I've had a hand in running.

 

[Marginal Tom]

If you're not willing to leave the band yet, it's high time one or more of the other band members tried to sing some lead vocals. Not only would you be better prepared the next time he shows up late for a gig, it just might serve notice that he's not irreplacable.

 

[steveksux]

I like the idea of scheduling an audition for next practice and hope he walks in on it...

"We didn't think you'd mind, didn't have anything else to do while we were waiting for you. Figured the guy could do the first set on gigs too, since we need a sub for you anyway since you never show up for the first set"

Randy

 

[Tom Howland]

I agree if you like the rest of the guys fire that tool and get someone else.

+1
Singers are a dime a dozen.
Ax him.

 

[Spaldo]

I like the idea of scheduling an audition for next practice and hope he walks in on it...

"We didn't think you'd mind, didn't have anything else to do while we were waiting for you. Figured the guy could do the first set on gigs too, since we need a sub for you anyway since you never show up for the first set"

Randy

Passive aggression = not a good way to treat anyone

But that would be funny...

 

[Mirios]

When I did it I did it for the humor as well as an attempt to make a point. That was about a decade ago so what did this kid know.

 

[air_leech]

you did the right thing.

don't play with people who don't respect you and the efforts you put into playing with them.

 

[::::BASSIST::::]

Its very unlikely he changes his ways. You guys have to replace him... simple as that.

 

[hrodbert696]

Fire him, no question. If for some reason you can't, then quit and find a new band.

 

[dalkowski]

Well thanks for the encouragement. I was worried that maybe I had overreacted.

You didn't overreact. You just reached your limit. You were the only one with the stones to say "eff this" and bail. You made the right call.

YOur next project can only be better.

 

[micguy]

There are lots of people who want to play music (or sing). There are lots of singers, and some of them look at it the way your guy does - I sing, I don't need to be there for setup (or the beginning of rehearsal, or..., or...etc.)

In lots of gigs (wanna work at a studio?) they give you a first position, which has no critical stuff to do. They want to make sure you'll show up before they give you any responsibility. This guy isn't even showing up. Being the singer for a band is a position of responsibility, as you can't gig without him. He hasn't earned that.


NEXT!

 

[staindbass]

good choice. dont go back, you made a good decision. especially after the tire lie !

 

[Actium]

No matter how well you know him. Even if you've been best friends since childhood. You won't change his habits like that. You should remove him. If the other band members aren't cool with that, remove yourself.

Singer in my last band was horrible at time management. 1-2hrs late to practice was the norm. Sometimes when he got there he'd spend another hour on his phone. Not merely texting but actually on a phone call pacing around the lot while we all were jamming.

I've known him for years outside of band related stuff. He's perpetually late to anything he does, ever. I've pulled the scheduling trick on him a few times saying to be there earlier than when we mean it. Funny thing is one time he actually did show up at the super early time. Called us up and complained that we made him wait on us.

Surprisingly he was on time to the gigs we had.

 

[Dr. Cheese]

Unless this band is making a ton of money, I see no reason to stay in it. An irresponsible lead singer will just result in you guys talking about your potential while never realizing anything.

 

[Bob C]

A post early on summed it up: He's getting away with it because people let him. You could have told him or the other members "One more time and I'm through". But it doesn't matter. You made your point and you did nothing wrong.

 

[NKBassman]

Yeah, I've been there too. Singer was great and an amazing frontman for the bad, but he'd disappear for days at a time, rarely show up to practice, etc. It eventually led to the band breaking up. Which sucked, cuz it was a good band.

 

[Corevalay]

He gets away with it because others allow it.

+100