lfmn16 said:+1
Too bad some people don't spend more time being thankful for what they have and less time being judgmental about what other people have.
+1,000!
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lfmn16 said:+1
Too bad some people don't spend more time being thankful for what they have and less time being judgmental about what other people have.
One of the few other bassists at my high school just got a new bass; a Rickenbacker 4003.
This kid is thirteen, and is genuinely awful- doesn't know what notes he's playing, can't play eighth notes etc.
Now, obviously I wish I had been able to get equipment like that when I was his age, and I'm a touch jealous, but does it irk anyone else that it always seems to be the sub par musicians that can afford the nice gear? I'm not the best bassist in the world, but I've worked hard and am doing grade 8 next year on an OLP MM2. My parents would love to get me a P-bass, but can't afford it; all of my gear, bar my starter bass and my starter guitar (£100 each) I have had to work and save for. And I know better musicians in crappier positions than me.
This was really just a rant, but feel free to comment or whatever.
Connor
I agree, that's pretty stupid. I'm 16, and I've been playing for two years
JonKim said:So now that I'm older, married, have a decent paying job, I buy basses left and right but i still suck...
I don't doubt the truth of your observations, but why must there be this need to see superiority in your experience and inadequacy in the situation of those who had more than you did? I am sure many well to do kids learn how to work hard and save and many who grow up poor turn into failures. Life is ultimately about the choices we make, not what our parents give us.
At the end of the day another kid has bass the OP
envies, and the OP needs to focus on something positive like practice instead of someone else's possessions.
johnson79 said:I drive a crappy car and the only bass I have now is an SX that my brother gave me.
I sold my G&L, Pedulla, Ampeg, and Mesa gear since I wasn't playing much over the past 10 years. I wish I'd have kept it along with my nice pickup truck.
But, it's not what you own, it's what you do.
While nice things are nice, they aren't what defines you.
spvmhc said:And a lesson from psychology......"hedonic adaptation" or "hedonic treadmill". People adapt to an extraordinary range of circumstances-and in quick fashion. Do an internet search for the terms for an invaluable life lesson. One implication is that your colleague with the flashly equipment probably doesn't get more satisfaction from his equipment than you get from yours. Life gets easier when you put the burden of envy down.
And a personal note. I play a section of a song. My instructor then plays the same section using my bass through the same amp. I'm deeply aware that it's not equipment that makes him the better bassist.


We have a neat situation at my house. My 17 year old son also plays bass and is now in a position with his group to go on tour opening for a nationally known band this month. They also have an EP on Itunes and will be recording a full length album for a label this summer. He started at 12 on a short-scale Bronco bass and took lessons for 4 years. He has now passed me on chops and reading and I've been playing for 35 years, albeit as a dedicated weekend warrior.
In the early years, I used him as a passdown to get to better gear for me. Now the tide has turned. In my current group, I have no need for a 5 so I recently gave him my US Spector NS-JH5. On the local gigs, I'll be his stage hand and bass tech! Here's some shots of him on stage:
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I checked them out on Unsignedpunk - nice sound - I hear a LOT of Paramore in them (lead singer sounds just like Hayley Williams). Good stuff! Great story - good luck to your son!
Don't worry about what other people have and you will be much happier.