OK, I wanna play too. I've waited a day to see the direction the thread took: Mic Rowe...isn't he the guy who opened for Tiny Johnson and Shrinkage?
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The gender stuff always makes me think some lonely misunderstood bedroom genius is looking for a girlfriend. End of.
For instance, you use a line to specify that gender doesn't matter. Well, if gender doesn't matter, why even bring it up? Do you think a woman is reading through all that text hoping for a line giving her permission to contact you, or fearing that she's going to find a line specifying no girls? Cut it.

lol, I'm sure that's the case in many ads
The music scene here, from what I've experienced, isn't quite as "progressive" as it may be in some other areas of the country. I've had band replies where women brought that up in their reply "I'm a chick, hope that's ok" as if I'm going to go "No, your lack of a Y chromosome means you are barred from joining this band!". If I came off as such a control freak, perhaps they would think I was strict on something such as that? Not granting anyone "permission", just getting something out in the open so it's done and dealt with. But yeah, I should totally be crucified for even mentioning such a thing![]()
Lmao, I was trying to figure this out too. Am I supposed to know who Michael is??
They do, I read it, and I still had the question "am I supposed to know who that is?" Since you know. Nobody does (other than the dirty jobs guy).
Yeah, and I'm the bassist for Dale, our guitarist, in case anyone gives a crap.![]()

Drunken Bob's Dive Bar and Massage Parlor (the one next to the Jiffy Lube and Taco Bell
Dang right I would, puts me out of a job!!
I plan on playing bass for this project![]()

Probably the best solution for band leaders who wish to dictate age, appearance, sound, and gear.Hire players as you need them, pay them so it's a done deal.
No one's crucifying you. I don't think the control freak thing is from any unreasonable demands in the ad or anything, and I'm not saying you are one. It's more that a person might ask, "Who is this guy who thinks he needs to spell everything out in so much detail?" Some people might imagine a control freak if they start asking that question.
And for a writer with a strong sense of what they want to do and how they want to sound, it's the shortest distance to at least seeing if you have something there that's going to a) achieve musically what you envision, and b) maybe even be marketable. If some musical partnerships develop organically out of that process then that's great, but you don't want to waste time waiting for those to appear.Probably the best solution for band leaders who wish to dictate age, appearance, sound, and gear.
any more of those stories soon??
There's also the problem of saying things like you play "chord tones" and are so amazed a "jazz student" contacted you and likes what you're doing.
Here's the thing...there's a certain credibility issue that can come up when somebody is so into controlling each aspect of what they're doing yet look like they're lacking in some of the basic education and experience that the players who match your hiring criteria may be expecting. I have no objection to taking direction from somebody who really knows their stuff - or is at least showing a little humility when they ask. But I have small patience with somebody who wants to be in charge and isn't qualified to do so. And creativity isn't enough to qualify somebody to run a band or project. Be the chief songwriter? Sure. But project leader? No.
When you come on as strong as you seem (to me at least) I'm expecting somebody with some serious musical experience and expertise. I've run into far to many people with lofty goals and ideas - and maybe even some band and/or recording experience - who are still fundamentally clueless about a lot of things an experienced musician takes for granted - and expects in a project or band leader. Otherwise, you often find yourself tap dancing around somebody's lack of knowledge and insecurities, while doing the ego-boo routine. Possibly ok if you're drawing a regular paycheck for your efforts. But far from something most good player will want to get hooked up with if it's a joint venture. Because many of us have see far too many such projects go sideways or just crash and burn.
So it's something to think about. Most players want to work with people better - or at least as proficient and as knowledgeable - as they are. People who hook up with somebody with less background enjoy mentoring. But many also have an unfortunate habit of eventually taking over and taking the less experienced guy for a ride or to the cleaners.
So be careful what you're asking for. It can be pretty cutthroat out there. And I've seen more than a few less experienced people start fairly successful bands or projects, only to have the rug pulled put from under them if they weren't cutting it.
Luck!
So.... any bites yet?
yeah.. and out of curiosity and do you plan on focusing to making money with this or just for fun?
I assume both of course but maybe you don't care about the money part so much.. that way you can be as demanding as you want..
@Plucky The Bassist - please don't interpret my earlier comment as a criticism. I'm just offering my own impressions based on my personal experiences. None of it is meant to be taken as a personal knock on you. If the shoe fits, so be it. If not, don't worry about it. You don't need to justify yourself. Take from whatever I post that fits your needs and situation and feel free to ignore the rest. I don't pretend to have all the answers. And I certainly won't be offended if you think "yeah-yeah."
I'm still learning too.![]()