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Making an incredibly hard desicion

I don't think the problem is so much the choice between the girl vs the guy. As many here have said the girl is the 'hands-down' choice. The real problem is your drummer. He is flat out wrong, but the question is what can you do about it? If the band is super important to you and you dont want to rock the boat, go with whatever he says. You could say something like, "Personally, I believe we should go with the female, but if you are adamant about going with the male, then I will go along with that."

Then make sure you keep that girl's contact info. You might be able to use her in the future if the new guy doesnt work out (it happens!) or perhaps for a different band altogether.
 
I never said she wasn't good enough for our band.

We know. That's not the issue... :eyebrow:

At this time him and i are at a disagreement (which is very rare) because I want her to be our lead singer while he insists in having the male singer audition since he really bought what the singer was telling him in regards to what he can so for our band. For me it is a difficult decision because the drummer is sort of the band leader (he started the band) and so far his vision has helped us move along a bit, it just so happens that I think he is wrong in this one. I even told him that we should create a second band to play with Lauren since it would be very hard for us to find some one as talented as she. I think the main problem is that he is confusing correlation with causation. He figures "well there are not that many rock band with female lead singers so that means that people don't take them seriously":hmm:

Your dummer (sp. intentional) has his head up his ass. And if he hires The Beast instead of The Beauty, that will very well prove it.

It means he will have chosen the illusion of success - over the greater likelihood of actual success. Because he prefers the "security" of being like everyone else and merely following the pack - rather than to initiate a unique creative formula of his own... :rolleyes:

MM
 
bassinzombie said:
Maybe you could show this thread to your drummer, that might sway him?

And if you tell your drummer to take a hike because you and the rest of your guys have your heads screwed on straight enough to hire her and you're in northern NJ, PM me. I'm a drummer, writer and team player. :)
 
No question she has the singing skills. She's demonstrated work ethic by learning your tunes and she's demonstrated flexibility by offering to share the stage.

He can do screamo but he's not extraordinary. He sells himself well and he "says he has contacts."

I know who I'd choose.
 
Personally I want the female singer. The drummer (the originator of the band) told me and i quote "Look at the rock scene. How many female lead singers do you see? female singers are rarely taken seriously in the industry unless they're supper hot/have Lauren's voice" I really hope the guy blows the audition this Sunday because Lauren just seems like the obvious choice. Usually the drummer and I see things eye to eye lol.

There are really awesome female "singers" in the metal-genre:


But yeah, that's a lot of screaming :-)