I cant even afford my damn groceries, dude. Maybe lack of money is the cause of my crisis. You can ALWAYS buy happieness. And Im not even being sarcastic.
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mid life crisis?
- Thread starter powderfinger
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I cant even afford my damn groceries, dude. Maybe lack of money is the cause of my crisis. You can ALWAYS buy happieness. And Im not even being sarcastic.
Gotcha. Once you can unlink money to happiness, you'll be better off. Really.
In 2011, my wife and I are going to make about half of what we made in 2010, and we are enjoying ourselves far more so far in 2011 than we did in 2010.
-Mike
In 2011, my wife and I are going to make about half of what we made in 2010, and we are enjoying ourselves far more so far in 2011 than we did in 2010.
-Mike
Sad. Not me, for you. I'm 51, and my 30's were the BEST years of my life. Why?
1) Went back to school at 30 and got my Electronics Engineering degree, propelling my life in a completely different direction.
2) Got married - and just had my 18th anniversary with the only woman I will ever be married to, God willing.
3) Became a father to my first and only child, a boy who will be 12 soon, who I play PS3 with regularly. And play bass with while he plays drums. And throw a football with. And laugh with.
Dude, you are YOUNG, Holy crap, CONSUME LIFE and what it offers my friend, you will wake up a different man one day and wonder where it went. Good grief, last year I STARTED bass....and have been a lifelong orchestral musician. Talk about regret.....!
Drink its glories, shrug its sorrows, embrace the youth you have. Enjoy the memories but strive to create more. Learn all you can, share all you will, know many, cry with a few. Waste not the present, and create a future.
Don't let MORE years catch you in turmoil later in life. MOVE!
All the best!!
Chris
1) Went back to school at 30 and got my Electronics Engineering degree, propelling my life in a completely different direction.
2) Got married - and just had my 18th anniversary with the only woman I will ever be married to, God willing.
3) Became a father to my first and only child, a boy who will be 12 soon, who I play PS3 with regularly. And play bass with while he plays drums. And throw a football with. And laugh with.
Dude, you are YOUNG, Holy crap, CONSUME LIFE and what it offers my friend, you will wake up a different man one day and wonder where it went. Good grief, last year I STARTED bass....and have been a lifelong orchestral musician. Talk about regret.....!
Drink its glories, shrug its sorrows, embrace the youth you have. Enjoy the memories but strive to create more. Learn all you can, share all you will, know many, cry with a few. Waste not the present, and create a future.
Don't let MORE years catch you in turmoil later in life. MOVE!
All the best!!
Chris
Yeah, well I bet you make enough where ya mama doesnt have to buy you groceries. See, theres a diffence between not making as much as you used to , and living borderline poverty.
Thanks, Chris. I hope to improve things soon. Yes, I am young, relatively speaking.
You are welcome, any time. I have read many of your posts and enjoy your participation here. FWIW, consider that a positive thing. That is, if you care to have some old guy you'll never meet as a friend.....
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Hope that at least got a smile.
Chris
.Hope that at least got a smile.
Chris
Actually, they had originally split up and he moved out of their house to get away from her - and since my ex just moved out of my place two months before that - he moved in. The idea was that he and I would get a bigger place (he has his own room presently BTW) and do the bachelor roommate thing like the good ol' days - ta hell wit relationships!
Didn't work that way. Now she's coming over to my place and b****ing about the dirty dishes in the sink.
I wouldn't call this a midlife crisis, though. Just a crappy transitional time.
Woah. Sorry dude. Was just joshing. I hope you are the first to live a long life.
I probably won't. I've already had some health problems prematurely for my age. I don't know what the deal is with the males on my dad's side....
Tat2dHeart
Only two strings away from an attitude problem.
I scheduled my mid-life crisis. Intentionally. And, I'm having so much fun I'm thinking about scheduling a second one.
In all seriousness, I hit that place in my mid-thirties. I was divorced, single mom of four, working a job that barely paid the bills, and trying to finish college on the one-class-at-a-time plan. I didn't fit with my friends. I didn't fit with my family. I just didn't feel I fit anywhere.
My approach to getting through that was to make a bucket list of 100 things I wanted to do before I died. Writing that list down was one of the best things I've ever done for myself. Once you write it down, it's easier to make it happen. I won't go into the whole list, but in the 12 years since I made the first one, here are a few of the things I've done (in no particular order):
Finished my Bachelor's degree
Finished my MBA
Got a new job
Bought my first house (with a pool)
Learned to play bass
Learned to play golf
Registered to play in the World Series of Poker (my event starts next Friday)
Got invited to play in a band
Started dating again (I could almost write a book on the experience)
Have almost finished writing a cookbook
Lost 65 lbs
Learned to install hardwood floor
The list hasn't gotten any shorter. I think it's actually growing. But, I'm happier than I've been in a very long time because I'm doing the things that I've always wanted and that make me feel like I'm living my dreams.
In all seriousness, I hit that place in my mid-thirties. I was divorced, single mom of four, working a job that barely paid the bills, and trying to finish college on the one-class-at-a-time plan. I didn't fit with my friends. I didn't fit with my family. I just didn't feel I fit anywhere.
My approach to getting through that was to make a bucket list of 100 things I wanted to do before I died. Writing that list down was one of the best things I've ever done for myself. Once you write it down, it's easier to make it happen. I won't go into the whole list, but in the 12 years since I made the first one, here are a few of the things I've done (in no particular order):
Finished my Bachelor's degree
Finished my MBA
Got a new job
Bought my first house (with a pool)
Learned to play bass
Learned to play golf
Registered to play in the World Series of Poker (my event starts next Friday)
Got invited to play in a band
Started dating again (I could almost write a book on the experience)
Have almost finished writing a cookbook
Lost 65 lbs
Learned to install hardwood floor
The list hasn't gotten any shorter. I think it's actually growing. But, I'm happier than I've been in a very long time because I'm doing the things that I've always wanted and that make me feel like I'm living my dreams.
My suggestion:
Get a dog, but don't just get one- rescue it. Learn how to properly train it and work with it. It'll be the most rewarding experience of your life and a dog will never ask you for money and will always be there when you're bored.
Other than that, try fishing, meditating, and reading. Really look around for what might catch your interests. Once you find something interesting, I'm sure you'll find more sense of purpose. Maybe look for a new girl? Believe it or not, there are girls out there who don't want kids, too.
Best of luck!
-M
Get a dog, but don't just get one- rescue it. Learn how to properly train it and work with it. It'll be the most rewarding experience of your life and a dog will never ask you for money and will always be there when you're bored.
Other than that, try fishing, meditating, and reading. Really look around for what might catch your interests. Once you find something interesting, I'm sure you'll find more sense of purpose. Maybe look for a new girl? Believe it or not, there are girls out there who don't want kids, too.
Best of luck!
-M
Well im only 27 but i feel about like you!
Everything your describing is happening to me now!
I think i have always been an old man before my time...
My "solution" was to start doing things i never did before!
I started training MMA, which is something i always wanted to do but i always chickened out, i started to do street photography (at least trying) which honestly gives me a great rush and can really make my day if i get even one good picture after walking 2 hours!
Just think about something you have always wanted to do but never did, go out and do it!
But hey, what do i know! Im only 27!
Everything your describing is happening to me now!
I think i have always been an old man before my time...
My "solution" was to start doing things i never did before!
I started training MMA, which is something i always wanted to do but i always chickened out, i started to do street photography (at least trying) which honestly gives me a great rush and can really make my day if i get even one good picture after walking 2 hours!
Just think about something you have always wanted to do but never did, go out and do it!
But hey, what do i know! Im only 27!
+1 to lists and +1 to 'just getting on with it'.
Work out what you need and want to do, ignore the trival downside issues and just get on with it.
Your 30's are your time to really make a difference in your life. You have the capcity and energy to work hard and achieve goals.
