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Moving is a pain in the ass

I was born shortly after my father finished his service in the Army and we toured America and most of Canada in an MGB GT for many years while my father worked to figure out what he wanted to be when he grew up. We literally moved every few weeks. I remember my father knocking on farmers' doors asking if we could pitch a tent in their field for the night and that we would be gone by morning. Yes there are some fond memories of the nomadic lifestyle but mostly I remember the visceral awareness of not having roots. I think (IMHO) that we as a species have an innate sense or desire to have roots - to be established or to belong.

I hate moving. In my adult life moving was frequently associated with a negative life change - death, job loss, divorce, relationship ending, etc... The only thing I hate more than moving is moving someone else's crap. I have moved my brother and sister-in-law five times in the nine years I have been with my wife.

As it relates to my parents, once my father did finally figure out what he wanted to be and passed the Bar, we never moved again. My parents stayed in that house until several years after my sister completed college and got married. That was commendable in my eyes given the constant upheaval in my younger days. Even so the angst of moving has stayed with me to this day. Despite the fact that my wife, son, and I moved to a very nice home in a beautiful community with amazing neighbors the move still re-animated all those negative memories and emotions for me.

To the OP - yes, moving is a pain in more than the rear-end; it slams the heart in even the crustiest of us old bastards.
 
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Having been hit hard by the economy starting in '08, we ended up moving four times in six years. For the first move, we got rid of TONS of stuff, and even more with each subsequent move. But guess what, we STILL had more crap than we needed, and each move was still a major pain. Never any fun.

I'm hoping I have one more move in me, as my wife and I will downsize for our golden years sometime in the future. But not too soon.
 
My wife and I moved six times in the first four years of marriage for various reasons. After the fifth we decided we had tapped out all our family and friend moving help so we bit the bullet and hired movers. Best decision ever! We've moved two more times since then with movers and just pay the $400-$500 and call it a day. So much faster than doing it ourselves and relieves quite a bit of stress too.
 
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Not possible.

I purchased my home at the absolute worst time in 2006. Divorce and sale of that home forced a move.I could feel the economy dumping and knew financially that it would have been smart to rent for a couple of years (it wasn't obvious how bad - could probably have bought it for about $100,000 less in 2009), but the thought of moving twice in a couple of years made it an easy call to just buy the damn house.

I didn't used to mind it - when I could fit everything I owned into the back of a pickup, but "stuff accumulation" can be brutal. The hardest thing for me is the garage stuff. Household stuff tends to pack pretty well, but tools and miscellaneous lumber, pipes, yard stuff and other big awkward stuff just doesn't pack well, typically requiring multiple trips with open air trucks and trailers besides the moving van load.

Depending on what my musical life looks like in a few years (and have retired), I have one more tentative move kind of planned. Hoping that's it.
 
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I've helped several friends move and it's always a massive pain in the crack.

I've always told myself that when I have a big move, I'm not going to bother my friends to help me. I'm going to hire a moving company.

Once you’re out of college, nobody wants to help you move. They might say yes, but they don’t want to. I couldn’t imagine asking friends or family to help me now.
 
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The last time I moved (16 years ago) I hired a moving company. If somebody asks me to help them move , I say "No. Hire a moving company."

We hired a company for our first big move. It turned out to be the most dishonest business I ever had to deal with and huge pain in the tookus. Never again.