Folks in the bass community, I've recently had an unnerving issue. Let me give you the run down. I watched an ebay auction expire twice for a bass I've been eyeing for nearly a year. It was a Fender American Deluxe Jazz V FMT. I've been wanting one for awhile. I contacted the gent through ebay email and I decided to pay him through paypal rather than have him list it again. The exchange was made on Dec 22. The individual in question was out of town on gigs and stated when he returned he would get the bass cleaned up and sent my way. Apparently once he arrived back home his wife became very ill and had to be rushed to the ER where she stayed in the hospital for a spell on life support. He attempted to innitiate a refund through paypal, but his bank declined it and subsequently it was a failed transaction, but Paypal still views it as an open item. I've taken into account this guy's situation from a personal view. I can only imagine how difficult it would be to have that happen. He's offered very little communication, he's played the sympathy card for sure and has given me very imbiguous answers with regard to "You'll either get the bass or the money." But no time line has been outlined, nothing. Has anyone ever experienced anything like this and what stance should one take in this matter? It's been 4 days since my last email to him...no response...I finally sent him another message today with a more pressing tone requesting communication and a timeline for compensation or I would pursue legal channels. Anyone have any advice at all???