One of my best friends from college is 63ish with a 4 year old daughter. I tease him about getting into the bounce house and doing backflips with the 25 year old dads. You're gonna do great.
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OLD "new- again" Dads here?
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I don’t think a dad’s age matters much. Young dads and old dads alike can be dead beats.
Don’t be a dead beat dad and you’ll do fine.
3rd trip around the sun I bet you know a thing or two about keeping your cool.
Congrats. Remember infants seem hard but toddlers are way worse.
Don’t be a dead beat dad and you’ll do fine.
3rd trip around the sun I bet you know a thing or two about keeping your cool.
Congrats. Remember infants seem hard but toddlers are way worse.
A lot of kids are raised by their Grandparents for one reason or another and most of them turn out fine. 
congrats !! Hey, about the throwing baseball comment,, I am 64, my children are grown but I have grandchildren that I play basketball, throw softball with. Keeps you young!
I was 40 years old when my son,only child, was born.
He is 29 now and I am 69. Life has been and still is wonderful and amazing.
He is by far the best person a father could have. If truly is a gift.
Enjoy your newborn child with all the love and care you can find, every minute
because life is too short and goes WAY TOO FAST!
Congratulations to the both of you!
He is 29 now and I am 69. Life has been and still is wonderful and amazing.
He is by far the best person a father could have. If truly is a gift.
Enjoy your newborn child with all the love and care you can find, every minute
because life is too short and goes WAY TOO FAST!
Congratulations to the both of you!
Refreshing to read this...and so glad you have taken the discussion openly.
I was worried for a minute , as I have a citation for Trolling. which still baffles me as to what I did???!!
I am not a Troll !!!
Gaolee
Official leathers tester and crash dummy
First of all, congratulations! Apparently everything still works as intended. Second of all, congratulations! Being a dad is a lot of work but enormously rewarding. You have kids, so I am preaching to the choir. It is worth repeating though. The main thing is to stay healthy and fit. You have a young girlfriend and now baby to live for. That is great incentive.
My bro-in-law is one of those older dads. About a dozen years ago, he married wife #5 (who was less than half his age...he's older than her parents), they wanted to start a family. So at age 52, the first one came, followed a few years later by the second one.
To each his own, but I remember reminding him that he'll be 70 and 73 when these kids are graduating high school. Judging by his reaction, he hadn't thought of that.
To each his own, but I remember reminding him that he'll be 70 and 73 when these kids are graduating high school. Judging by his reaction, he hadn't thought of that.
I can't believe the word reeling covers it. Best wishes, congratulations and good luck.
One of my favorite quotes in recent memory is: People don't quit because things get hard. They quit because they get hard in ways they didn't expect.
Hopefully the warnings and thoughts in this thread let you get out ahead of things that would suck to deal with as a crisis.
Best of luck, and always feel free to reach out to virtual and IRL friends for help and a friendly ear.
I married my 19 y.o. girlfriend when I was 22 y.o., and we had our only child two years later.
When our daughter was 18, she moved out on her own and that left my wife and I pretty much free of child rearing responsibilities for the rest of our lives.
I've been able to do what I please since my early 40s and I can't imagine being burdened again with a child to take care of for another two decades now that I'm getting old.
But that's just me. If having kids past your middle age is what you want to do, then I wish you the best.
When our daughter was 18, she moved out on her own and that left my wife and I pretty much free of child rearing responsibilities for the rest of our lives.
I've been able to do what I please since my early 40s and I can't imagine being burdened again with a child to take care of for another two decades now that I'm getting old.
But that's just me. If having kids past your middle age is what you want to do, then I wish you the best.
edmidlifecrisis
Registered mediocre bass player
I don't think it's too much of a big deal. Became a first time parent with twin boys at 41.. now they are 30 and well adjusted and awesome and we're very close with them both although neither of them lives anywhere near us!! Their friends always thought we were (and still are) the cool parents despite being older than most of their friends' parents. And we are still together unlike so many others. Lots of their friends have dysfunctional families, it seems epidemic these days. We even still go on family vacations together every year or two.
Of course most of this depends on your state of physical and mental health which varies tremendously from individuals to individuals of the same age.
We always had kids in the house, for play at first and during their teen years for music jams!!! Including us sometimes!
Of course most of this depends on your state of physical and mental health which varies tremendously from individuals to individuals of the same age.
We always had kids in the house, for play at first and during their teen years for music jams!!! Including us sometimes!
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edmidlifecrisis
Registered mediocre bass player
This!!! This has been my experience with my twin boys, almost the same ages as you and your son. See my post!!
A lot of kids are raised by their Grandparents for one reason or another and most of them turn out fine.
And if they don't turn out fine, then they must be corrected, if you don't mind my saying.
My wife and I became empty nesters in our early 50's.
My maternal grandfather was 62 when my Mom was born and my maternal grandmother was 42...... I couldn't imagine starting a family that late in life. Fwiw, my Mom was born in 1941.
I'm no help for advice. BUT, wanted to comment on this "nugget".:
"Then…are you going to be throwing a baseball around(potentially)when you’re 63?"
My father (75) always wants to throw the ball (any ball, baseball, football, whatever) with my children. Sadly, none of them are really interested, for more than a few minutes.
Point is 65 is the new 55. Are there many 65 yr olds today that Can't throw/catch a ball?
AS MENTIONED, just a douchey thing to say.
"Then…are you going to be throwing a baseball around(potentially)when you’re 63?"
My father (75) always wants to throw the ball (any ball, baseball, football, whatever) with my children. Sadly, none of them are really interested, for more than a few minutes.
Point is 65 is the new 55. Are there many 65 yr olds today that Can't throw/catch a ball?
AS MENTIONED, just a douchey thing to say.
As you've read, your world will be different. I recommend inviting your kids to help you and to get to know their sibling. Open your mind and heart to see what's happening and may happen in the next 20 years and keep an eye toward helping them negotiate life.
Pay attention to new music, new fads, and be aware. Also, you e learned a lot in the past six decades. Don't be afraid to use your knowledge to make things easier on the side, kids and baby.
You only live this life once. Live it well.
Pay attention to new music, new fads, and be aware. Also, you e learned a lot in the past six decades. Don't be afraid to use your knowledge to make things easier on the side, kids and baby.
You only live this life once. Live it well.
