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Our Band is doing everything wrong. Should I try to fix it or just quit?

Obvious and only answer is “QUIT” before even opening the thread.

Reading half the OP, gotta state the fact that your band “leader” is a band saboteur.

Also, QUIT QUIT QUIT !!

My "idiot brain" was going to just post:

1) Fire the drummer
2) Tell Guitar Player A Guitar Player B told you he was better than Guitar Player A
3) Tell Guitar Player B Guitar Player A told you he was better than Guitar Player B
4) Make some popcorn
5) Start your search for new band mates

I was going to, but I didn't, but now I did. :laugh:
 
If it's really come down to just going through the motions of playing tired old stuff which everyone is bored of hearing, then it's all gone a bit stale.
However, trying to spice it up by having someone shout out a song you don't know and then looking it up on an iPad sounds pretty rubbish to me!
I guess the thing is that musical styles come and go; the choice is to stick to the style even if it's out of vogue, or adapt and evolve.
Which is appropriate is what the band decides it wants to do.
If the band is pulling on one direction and you're in another, then the message is right there.
 
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I may quit anyway but I'm just asking for opinions here.

The band I'm has been together and around and playing this region for a long time. I'm the newest member and I've been in the band almost 18 years. The band was started as a blues band, back when blues was "hot" in the wake of the Stevie Ray Vaughn era, and still has that identity/mentality. All of the members of the band have changed over the years except the drummer. The band now consists of two guitars, bass and drums. One of the guitarists is the band leader.

The over riding problem, as I see it, is this...we're having trouble getting bookings. Even clubs where we were one of their top bands won't book us at all this season. So I started trying to figure out why. This is what I've come up with...we don't have a following and we don't hold the crowd that is there. And why is that? Here are my observations/thoughts:

1. We (still) think and play like a blues band. We have two guitarists who like to solo a lot, and they do. Our bar gigs are more like what you would see at a blues festival instead of at a bar.

2. We do originals (blues) and covers. Many of the covers that we do end up sounding like blues, the way we play them. Again, lots of solos.

3. Lots of I-IV-V songs that sound similiar, if not to the public, identical.

4. We don't do a show. At a recent gig the BL decided to let the audience call the songs, and that included songs that we don't know, play, or at least in one case, haven't heard. There was often a long time between songs as the BL found the song online on his IPad and "learned" it onstage. Then he played it, reading the lyrics, occasionally missing chords, and we had to follow him as best we could.

5. At one recent gig the BL called a new original song that none of us had heard and we had to follow him to play it. It was a train wreck.

6. We play too loud. Both guitarists love to play solos and love to hear themselves above everything.

OTOH, the BL books the gigs and does a lot of online publicity, and he pays everyone equally. He has some regional notoriety and probably gets gigs because of that.

Some of this is redundant from another thread of mine. Sorry about that. Just wanted to vent and get some thoughts.

So my questions are:
1. Is this fixable? Should I even try?
2. Should I just accept a "it is what it is" attitude and hang on till the end?
3. Should I even talk to the band about it?

BTW despite the problems we had a good time playing. I had fun. However, we did not hold the crowd playing this way and the chance for more bookings is, in my opinion, greatly diminished by "performing" this way. If we had held the crowd and had people having a good time I would be holdiing my tongue now.

Sorry for the long post. Thanks for listening.

You mentioned six points, specifically:

1. We (still) think and play like a blues band. We have two guitarists who like to solo a lot, and they do. Our bar gigs are more like what you would see at a blues festival instead of at a bar.

2. We do originals (blues) and covers. Many of the covers that we do end up sounding like blues, the way we play them. Again, lots of solos.

3. Lots of I-IV-V songs that sound similiar, if not to the public, identical.

These things aren't necessarily ideal, but they aren't terrible. Depending on your audience, you can still bring a crowd, especially if you're more of a background band (although it would seem that the loud guitar solos might prevent this). You can still build an identity this way, but the bar scene might not be the place to do it.

4. We don't do a show. At a recent gig the BL decided to let the audience call the songs, and that included songs that we don't know, play, or at least in one case, haven't heard. There was often a long time between songs as the BL found the song online on his IPad and "learned" it onstage. Then he played it, reading the lyrics, occasionally missing chords, and we had to follow him as best we could.

5. At one recent gig the BL called a new original song that none of us had heard and we had to follow him to play it. It was a train wreck.

6. We play too loud. Both guitarists love to play solos and love to hear themselves above everything.

These things, on the other hand...are terrible. Loud guitars and endless solos are one thing, and it's bad enough - but calling an unknown song on the bandstand with changes that nobody knows, and looking up lyrics on an iPad while there's dead air between songs, that's just bad. It'd be one thing if you could really pull it off, but if you've got audience members calling songs that aren't standards, all bets are off. You can't ensure consistency or quality with that kind of setup.

Luckily, #4 and #5 are the bulk of your problem. If you can fix that, you'll at least have a solid band that is maybe a little uninteresting and a bit too loud but solid at the least.

As for the other issues - does the drummer feel the same way? If so, provided he's a good drummer, you and he will have a lot of influence on the "feel" of the songs you play. You two could easily change up song tempos or even rhythms to keep things fresh. You can play a 1-4-5 blues over a one-drop reggae pattern, or various shuffle beats (at various tempos), or regular rock beats, or whatever. The guitarists can do their thing on top.

Finally - guitar solos - put the guitar amps next to their heads. Amp stands, whatever. That will control volume. Your guitarists may not like it and may rebel against it. Make it happen somehow - reduce stage space, whatever it takes.

It sounds like the band has a few basic things that should be easily addressable, and some things that may be more engrained. Luckily, the basic things should be easy to fix - and if you fix them, you'll have a decent group. If you can't fix the basic things...I'd look for something new.
 
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I'd bring it up during the next band meeting. Make sure everyone understands what you see as problems that can be fixed rather than a source of drama. Maybe suggesting that music audiences have changed over the last two decades. What worked than doesn't now and you should try to entertain the audience more. Talk to them quietly and when they ask you to speak up (if they even notice that an invisible bassist is talking :D) say: "Precisely. This is what our audience goes through when we play too loud." If that doesn't work, hopefully you kept in touch with some of the past members you got along with. Start your own band. Hope this helps.
 
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I may quit anyway but I'm just asking for opinions here.

The band I'm has been together and around and playing this region for a long time. I'm the newest member and I've been in the band almost 18 years. The band was started as a blues band, back when blues was "hot" in the wake of the Stevie Ray Vaughn era, and still has that identity/mentality. All of the members of the band have changed over the years except the drummer. The band now consists of two guitars, bass and drums. One of the guitarists is the band leader.

The over riding problem, as I see it, is this...we're having trouble getting bookings. Even clubs where we were one of their top bands won't book us at all this season. So I started trying to figure out why. This is what I've come up with...we don't have a following and we don't hold the crowd that is there. And why is that? Here are my observations/thoughts:

1. We (still) think and play like a blues band. We have two guitarists who like to solo a lot, and they do. Our bar gigs are more like what you would see at a blues festival instead of at a bar.

2. We do originals (blues) and covers. Many of the covers that we do end up sounding like blues, the way we play them. Again, lots of solos.

3. Lots of I-IV-V songs that sound similiar, if not to the public, identical.

4. We don't do a show. At a recent gig the BL decided to let the audience call the songs, and that included songs that we don't know, play, or at least in one case, haven't heard. There was often a long time between songs as the BL found the song online on his IPad and "learned" it onstage. Then he played it, reading the lyrics, occasionally missing chords, and we had to follow him as best we could.

5. At one recent gig the BL called a new original song that none of us had heard and we had to follow him to play it. It was a train wreck.

6. We play too loud. Both guitarists love to play solos and love to hear themselves above everything.

OTOH, the BL books the gigs and does a lot of online publicity, and he pays everyone equally. He has some regional notoriety and probably gets gigs because of that.

Some of this is redundant from another thread of mine. Sorry about that. Just wanted to vent and get some thoughts.

So my questions are:
1. Is this fixable? Should I even try?
2. Should I just accept a "it is what it is" attitude and hang on till the end?
3. Should I even talk to the band about it?

BTW despite the problems we had a good time playing. I had fun. However, we did not hold the crowd playing this way and the chance for more bookings is, in my opinion, greatly diminished by "performing" this way. If we had held the crowd and had people having a good time I would be holdiing my tongue now.

Sorry for the long post. Thanks for listening.


In my experience the effort put into changing a bands approach doesn’t pay off, creates drama I don’t need or want and at this point I’d just quit. I’d tell them why of course and list all the reasons and just say we aren’t a good match.

#4 and 5 from your list are absolute deal breakers for me also. I’d never want to be in a band that does that type of stuff and even recently declined a gig because the B/L wouldn’t provide me with a set list for that night. I instead got a list of around 75 tunes which included every tune they ever played even if just once and was told they pull from this list randomly during shows. That’s Fine if your working with a regular bass player but I’m filling in and want to play well and do a good job. That won't happen if they want to play a bunch of random things.
 
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There is only one question to answer:
Do the others agree that the band has a problem and are they willing to work on it?
If yes, then this is fixable.
You can quit whenever you want since your band has no gigs anyway and it sounds like you guys don't need to rehearse much. So you could give it a shot and see what happens before you throw the towel.

If no, then you're the only one willing to do what needs to be done to transport the band into the 21st century - and you should find yourself a bunch of musicians that are on the same page.


One more thing about drawing/keeping a crowd: When you're playing blues with guys that are oldschool - how loud are those guitars to the audience? Are they using 2x12 combos/cabs with tube amps? Do they need a certain volume to sound right? Do they not have a power soak or any other means to tame their volume and as a result, you can't carry a conversation in the same room ?
 
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Question: what do YOU have time for? If it were me, I would be looking for another project, because it doesn't sound like this one is delivering what you want in a band. Depending on the personalities, it's possible that this band could reinvent itself, but the personalities that are able to make those changes are unusual; your description doesn't sound like these guys are all about adapting to a changing public. But, it also sounds like you're invested with these people and reluctant to quit. So I would say, if you have the time, start or join a band that has a vision that aligns better with your goals, and you can still play with these guys on the gigs they can still get. If you don't have the time, you'll have to decide if you want to reconcile yourself to the overly-loud blues band or move on.
 
As others have posted, if paying bar gigs are what you want, then you (meaning the band) have to understand that you are primarily in the alcohol business, and only secondarily in the music business. It is pretty simple. You play to the crowd in a way that the bar makes money. That said, bar gigs are not the only option, especially if making money isn’t your primary goal. It might take more work, but you could organize your own concerts, find organizations that might want a blues band, play blues festivals, etc.

However, it sounds as if your band mates don’t have an interest in changing or working too hard. That’s fine, if they are satisfied with that. You state that you are not. If it were me, I would find or start another project that satisfies you, and maybe (maybe is the operative word) continue playing with your current band if there is anything you do enjoy, such as the hang. But for the sake of your health, get them to turn down, and wear ear protection!

if you can read music well, and enjoy playing many musical styles, playing in musical theater orchestras/bands can be very rewarding musically, if not always financially. It has been my primary musical focus for about 50 years, and I love it. Many of the more modern rock oriented shows can be quite challenging and fun to play. If you play upright bass as well, there are even more opportunities.

In the greater NY/NJ/PA area, regional theaters, community theaters, schools, colleges still pay theater musicians. It varies widely from a low of about $35 per appearance (including rehearsals) up to about $150 per appearance. Professional regional theaters and colleges generally pay on the higher end, community theater on the lower end. I seem to average about $75 per service. It isn’t a lot of money, but shows generally run for 2 -4 weeks on weekends, during the week or both depending on the venue. In total it is about the same or more than playing a couple of weekends a month doing bar gigs for $100 - $200 per person per performance. A real benefit is that you are usually finished by about 10:00PM, and in my case, I usually get to play with pretty high caliber players.

Good luck.
 
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It sounds like unless the band changes, you soon won't have any gigs. If this what you think, and you aren't interested in being a practice band, do two things:

1. Start looking for another band or start one up.

2. Have a band meeting (not at a gig or rehearsal). Tell them your concerns, and what you do want to keep. Tell them that if things do not change, you are walking. Unless things change (and I doubt they will), give notice.
 
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I've been in your situation before. You play so many years with people, you're friends and its tough to leave after almost 2 decades.


It sounds like you're unhappy. I wouldn't be either cranking out I-IV-V tunes for 3 hours in a near empty venue so two old dudes can musically masturbate on stage through cranked amps.

Playing too loud and self indulgently is a bad habit. People over 40 generally have no to no interest in changing bad habits in their hobbies. Go find something else
 
After 18 years, I'd likely feel like the band is family, so I'd try to work it out personally.

Yeah this seems very strange. 18 years and you're the NEW guy? How long have these issues been going on? What was the band like in its hey day? How did the BL get such a solid rep in the first place? Is it that he's just tired, bored, and lazy? Certainly this must have not just happened overnight...
 
If this were not Talkbass I would swear you were in my band. And we'll, you can't be the bass player in my band because I am ;) Anyway, the two guitar players in my band are good friends from high school. Meaning all 3 of us went to high school together. The drummer also went to our HS but is a bit older. Most of us are in our early 50s now.

Anyway, the way I solved my problem (which is very very close to yours) is I joined another band or three, but I didn't quit my HS buddy band. Hey, it's fun playing with those guys. The truth is though we have been playing together so long (and the same material) I don't have to practice any of the material. The other bands I am in provide an opportunity for new material, new gigs, just new everything.
 
4. We don't do a show. At a recent gig the BL decided to let the audience call the songs, and that included songs that we don't know, play, or at least in one case, haven't heard. There was often a long time between songs as the BL found the song online on his IPad and "learned" it onstage. Then he played it, reading the lyrics, occasionally missing chords, and we had to follow him as best we could.

5. At one recent gig the BL called a new original song that none of us had heard and we had to follow him to play it. It was a train wreck.

6. We play too loud. Both guitarists love to play solos and love to hear themselves above everything.
I don't have the experience necessary to give you band advice, OP. But as a bar patron only a house fire or gunfire would get me to leave faster than a band that plays music too loud badly.