I've seen some fairly old posts on this and thought I'd revive it.
Last night at rehearsal my singer/guitarist who basically manages our group told us he's lining up a pay-to-play show in March. To headline it will cost $1,000!

The singer says he's willing to front the money (nothing required from me or the drummer). But I know he's killing his personal business to do junk like this. I'll admit the venue is good & the exposure might even land us some local radio attention.....but still I'm completely against it. In 10yrs of gigging I don't know if I've ever paid to play - and for $1k - no way. I try to explain to the singer that this is insane but he just keeps saying it's good for the band & we need the exposure. I try telling him we've only been together a few months & played only 3 gigs so far & that a demo is more important at this point. Also I'm by far the most seasoned in the band as far as the scene goes but it falls on deaf ears. Not only am I against it but then I feel like I'm in debt to the singer for dropping this much cash into something.
Any advice or experience w/ pay to play would be appreciated!