- Oct 7, 2000
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Consider this a public journal, a blog, a rant, or whatever... I feel like writing, and it's always (usually) great to get the thoughts and comments of the good peeps on talkbass.
I believe we attract the people we do in our lives for good reason. Lessons we need to be learning, experiences we're meant to have, things like that. It's a spiritual belief that I'm aware many don't agree with, but anyway...
Lately I've noticed my life is becoming flooded with people who don't know how to shut up, and I need to stop allowing these people in. I'm noticing 2 distinct types also, though I'm sure there's many more.
Type 1: I'm sitting in the work cafeteria with a friend or 2 having a nice, interesting conversation. Type 1 person shows up. "Can I join you?" Pregnant pause, we all look at each other, smile, then reluctantly say, "Sure." T1 person within 30 seconds picks up on something someone says, and then starts... "You know, I have an aunt who does that! My aunt Sally used to wash her car every single day. She would go out and buy that that Armorall stuff, and make sure sure every single last knob on her dashboard was spotless. She was soooo meticulous about everything. And her friend who lived across the street would do the same thing. It was like they were in competition with each other. That other woman was crazy though. She would wear these fishing hats that were her husbands, that looked like the ones Gilligan used to wear? Do you remember Gilligan's Island... oh wait, that wasn't really a fishing hat though, was it? Anyway... One time she, bla bla bla bla bla bla bla......" and on and on, and on, and on. Person goes on relentlessly, leaving no spaces for anyone to politely jump back in and redirect the conversation. The conversation has become theirs, and they talk relentlessly about people nobody knows, or cares the least bit about. People previously sitting there start scrolling through facebook on their phones, the talker doesn't even notice.. a couple of nods from the more polite of us keeps them going and going.
Type 2: Similar to type one, except they talk about things of interest. Only problem is, you can't get a word in edgewise, and when you do, they're not listening one single bit. They're thinking about what they still haven't gotten to say. And anything you say has to fit in a 30 second window because they're going to start going again right on top of you, if you don't get out what you're attempting. Which doesn't matter anyhow, because you're just talking to yourself.
I was trapped with such a person yesterday. They were doing me a favor though, so I was grateful and somewhat happily accepted it.
My rant is over. I think I have to grow some and start telling these people to just shut the ef up and try listening, or actually conversing once in a while. Don't know where they're coming from, but I can't help but to think I'm attracting them. And it's about to stop.
I believe we attract the people we do in our lives for good reason. Lessons we need to be learning, experiences we're meant to have, things like that. It's a spiritual belief that I'm aware many don't agree with, but anyway...
Lately I've noticed my life is becoming flooded with people who don't know how to shut up, and I need to stop allowing these people in. I'm noticing 2 distinct types also, though I'm sure there's many more.
Type 1: I'm sitting in the work cafeteria with a friend or 2 having a nice, interesting conversation. Type 1 person shows up. "Can I join you?" Pregnant pause, we all look at each other, smile, then reluctantly say, "Sure." T1 person within 30 seconds picks up on something someone says, and then starts... "You know, I have an aunt who does that! My aunt Sally used to wash her car every single day. She would go out and buy that that Armorall stuff, and make sure sure every single last knob on her dashboard was spotless. She was soooo meticulous about everything. And her friend who lived across the street would do the same thing. It was like they were in competition with each other. That other woman was crazy though. She would wear these fishing hats that were her husbands, that looked like the ones Gilligan used to wear? Do you remember Gilligan's Island... oh wait, that wasn't really a fishing hat though, was it? Anyway... One time she, bla bla bla bla bla bla bla......" and on and on, and on, and on. Person goes on relentlessly, leaving no spaces for anyone to politely jump back in and redirect the conversation. The conversation has become theirs, and they talk relentlessly about people nobody knows, or cares the least bit about. People previously sitting there start scrolling through facebook on their phones, the talker doesn't even notice.. a couple of nods from the more polite of us keeps them going and going.
Type 2: Similar to type one, except they talk about things of interest. Only problem is, you can't get a word in edgewise, and when you do, they're not listening one single bit. They're thinking about what they still haven't gotten to say. And anything you say has to fit in a 30 second window because they're going to start going again right on top of you, if you don't get out what you're attempting. Which doesn't matter anyhow, because you're just talking to yourself.
I was trapped with such a person yesterday. They were doing me a favor though, so I was grateful and somewhat happily accepted it.
My rant is over. I think I have to grow some and start telling these people to just shut the ef up and try listening, or actually conversing once in a while. Don't know where they're coming from, but I can't help but to think I'm attracting them. And it's about to stop.
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