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Phone call?

DaDrew2112

DaDrew2112

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So I emailed this cat about a band. After exchanging several emails he wants to do a phone call. I suggested that we jam. But he insisted on doing a phone call. He's been in some real projects so I guess he's a good player. But I mean...phone call? This guy lives like 10 minutes away from me. What could he learn through a phone call? I hate phone calls.

I've already given him a lot of the logistics. Like how old I am, how long i've been playing, influences, rig. So...

Any thoughts?
 
#8
5 minute phone call = 30+ emails.

You can cover a lot of ground on goals, expectations and all that in a short time. He's interested, otherwise he would not have requested a conversation. Take the opportunity to find out what his goals and expectations are as well. Save yourself a bunch of time.

After 5 minutes, you'll either feel a fit or you won't.
 
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DaDrew2112 said:
I'm 22. I realize it shouldn't be a problem. It's probably some kind of anxiety.
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Back in my day my girlfriend had a party line for a phone.

You probably don't know what that is since you probably dont have much memory of phones that werent cellular. But It was a single phone number shared by multiple households.

So imagine trying to have a romantic conversation when her mom, dad, sibling or any of her neighbors might be silently listening in.

Now that's a reason to be nervous on a phone call.
 
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I hate the phone too but some people like it. I also get awkward on the phone but that's life we have to do things we don't want. I think it gives people more a sense of who you are and if things will click. I get it even though I usually don't phone people before meeting up. But I am 25 OP is 22 I think our generation is so used to just texting we forgot how to use the phone.
 
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Thor said:
5 minute phone call = 30+ emails.

You can cover a lot of ground on goals, expectations and all that in a short time. He's interested, otherwise he would not have requested a conversation. Take the opportunity to find out what his goals and expectations are as well. Save yourself a bunch of time.

After 5 minutes, you'll either feel a fit or you won't.
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Excellent idea for OP to empower themselves by considering the occasion a two-way interview.
Also a good chance to grow a little by moving outside the comfort zone.
 
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ImNotJoel said:
I hate the phone too but some people like it. I also get awkward on the phone but that's life we have to do things we don't want. I think it gives people more a sense of who you are and if things will click. I get it even though I usually don't phone people before meeting up. But I am 25 OP is 22 I think our generation is so used to just texting we forgot how to use the phone.
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It is indeed a generational thing, and pretty amazing to see what a monumental event a phone call has become in today's culture.
Most younger people consider a cold call highly invasive. Even most of my older acquaintances now demand on a set time and date before agreeing to a chat on the blower.
 
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I'm 48 and I don't mind chatting about what I'm/they're looking for soley via email or text before meeting up. I find it's kinda easier, provided the person on the other end communicates well. If they don't, or they make an express request for a phone call then I'll give 'em a ring. Whatever's clever.
 
#17
Outside of music, what career do you hope to be successful in if you are afraid of the telephone?

I am not that old, but this is the one thing about the 16-26 crowd that I still do not understand.

Your parents failed you in some way....please get over it. I work in mining science and safety....a text will not suffice if I am concerned about a structural collapse. If you are a mile below the surface and send me a text message....you will die.
 
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DaDrew2112 said:
I really wish we could skip the phone and go face to face because jamming with people is the whole point of this but eh.
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Why not skip meeting all together then? You could agree to each rent one of two hotel rooms with adjoining doors, set up in your respective rooms with the doors open and just jam. You could text the next song to each other even.
 
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Clearly an age thing.
I'm 50, quite comfortable with emails, texting, setting up rehearsals with strangers through Facebook and I honestly can't imagine taking a phone call being an issue, but I showed this to my 21-yr-old son and he got the OP's reaction immediately.
Sometimes it's sad, getting old...
 
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