that's tough because the inherent shape, design and especially location of each means that it's almost impossible to make a J bridge that actually balances with a P pickup, unless the J is so overwound and the P is so underwound that neither sound right by themselves.I'm surprised that more pickup makers don't make bespoke J's for their PJ sets and match them well (at least in terms of output). It seems like most just recycle a J from a Jazz set.
for most folks "balance" isn't the goal anyway; a PJ set is really a P pickup with the J as a sort of "seasoning" for it, adding treble and scooping out mids as you blend it in. the J by itself is usually not the point.
as such, to my ear a regular vintage P plus a regular vintage J sound "right" for a PJ setup how it's typically used, either the P by itself or the pair put together for that scooped sound. the dimarzio area J does the best job i've heard so far of sounding like a real vintage jazz pickup without hum.