(Note: I always though that though I lived in Jacksonville for 5 years, I was disappointed I was not in South Florida to absorb all the Cuban and Latin rhythms I could've learned there . . . . I already had 'southern rock' down cold before I moved to its' capitol)
I always found charts or tab or notation for various styles stiff and usually not close in that what I was reading was NOTHING like the same song I was listening to as I read along on the paper.
For me, the best way, and with no other substitute that worked for me, was to listen to a given music a lot over a fairly long stretch of time. It's hard to infer from notation that a lot of reggae is on the 1 and 3, nor that a lot of funk is from the one. Nothing to infer just how many low D's and C's are common in country music . . . . . and black gospel. Forget notation for slap. Listening I would form a picture in my head, and develop a context, an overall sense of what went and what didn't. This was the best and only way for me.
The danger is that it's amazing how many moves from one thing work brilliantly in another thing; what separates the men from the boys is knowing 'when to say when'. 'Overplaying' to me is often not so much machine-gunning loads of notes as it is putting something cool . . . . in the wrong place:
When I came to Nashville in the 90's, we had a lot of new arrivals from the coasts. Often wonderful players, but had not learned the framework, the collective knowledge of country music, and you'd hear some screwy juxtapositions of great licks . . . . dropped into unfortunate places, especially on cover situations that saw traditional, fiddle + steel song lists.
On the other hand, I knew a fabulous slap player who could do a letter-perfect slap rendition of Squire's part under 'Roundabout', and it absolutely fit: No funk inflections or Bootsy-isms, just played perfectly as that tone was a great substitute for Squire's tone on that recording. He could have easily sounded like Bootsy playing 'at it', but knew that wouldn't work. He had the understanding of English rock, and his ears and experience and judgement told him what was right.
And I found that if I did my homework and shot for that level of judgement, I could operate in this style or that style, as I'd spent time to learn the language by listening.