I would prefer to set it lower, but it sounds okay up to that point. Tomorrow's test shall tell.
Ironically, the HPF/LPF might make headphones a more appealing option than they had been.
Definitely, and I may look into some of the different takes on this recommended in this thread.
The more I read your posts and think about your situation, the more I tend to think that you would benefit significantly from getting tactile transducer, like Eich Bassboard (preferrably) or Backbeat.
EICH Amplification :
BackBeat - Play Bass, Feel Bass
These devices give you the feeling of playing loud (very loud in case of Eich board) without any noise whatsoever.
When you stand on the Eich bassboard, it feels like standing in front of wall of cabs with huge power..still, there is no noise audible for others (who do not stand on the board).
It may seem strange...but the sensation the board gives actually feels like hearing the bass...
Those devices can be used either with or without headphones. Actually, I have found that I don't need to put my (fretted) bass into my IEM, as the feeling the Eich board gives me is enough for my monitoring needs.
Sometimes, I use the Eich bassboard with one of my cabs. I plug one of my amp's speaker outputs into the cab, the other into the board. Both the cab and the board are 8 ohms, so my 4 ohms amp is happy. That way, I can keep the stage audible sound level low.
This is what I would do if I were in your shoes: I would get Eich bassboard and use it with one of your amps/cabs (raised to ear level). That way, you would be hearing your bass' mid/high frequencies frequencies from the cab while feeling the low frequencies from the board...
Edit: in case you have equipment which is able to split your signal into two (like stereo pedal or preamp pedal with two outputs) I would arrange kind of bi-amped rig: I would use your solid state amp head to feed the Eich board and would use the class D combo with the HPF pedal in front of it (maxed) at ear level to provide higher frequencies for your ears…
That way, you would be able to adjust the level of both the low frequencies and the higher frequencies. It would allow you to "hear" yourself loud and clear anywhere and anytime without any excessive noise...