We'll go into lockdown the last two or three practices before a gig, but otherwise, it's open house. That way, everyone is used to distractions.
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Policy on girlfriends at practice
- Thread starter Comrade Momenta
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This.
Rehearsal is for practicing with your band. Later (and earlier too) you can practice with your girlfriend
My drummer is also my roommate. We share a house with our girlfriends and another couple who we've all known for a long time.
We rehearse in our garage. My gf usually stays inside. Sometimes our drummers gf will hang out in the garage for a bit. Neither of them bother us.
On occasion we might take too long of a break. Thats usually on us, though.
There are always a bunch of non-band people at our studio. Never been a problem.
Usually more people at our rehearsals than some bars that I played when I was younger.
It's always fun. Since we aren't there to entertain them we just pretty much ignore them and get on with business.
Usually more people at our rehearsals than some bars that I played when I was younger.
It's always fun. Since we aren't there to entertain them we just pretty much ignore them and get on with business.
You kids are so funny. I don't recall girlfriends being a problem, unless a wife shows up. Heck, it's nice to have something other than the fellow geezers I play with to look at.
As long as the work gets done, who cares? If the work doesn't get done, then band only.
As long as the work gets done, who cares? If the work doesn't get done, then band only.
Much depends on the girlfriend in question.
I would say that if she is the introverted sort who is fine to sit in the background left to her own devices while the band does its thing then fine.
If she needs to run her mouth constantly to get her opinions validated or needs to be the center of someones attention then no.
I would say that if she is the introverted sort who is fine to sit in the background left to her own devices while the band does its thing then fine.
If she needs to run her mouth constantly to get her opinions validated or needs to be the center of someones attention then no.
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As it is I don't have enough time to spend with the wife at home with nothing else to do. How is that going to get better during rehearsal?
If we have a gig coming up, then we don't allow guests for 2-3 practices beforehand. If not, then guests are fine with us. We just don't allow drama or meddling. If anyone gets hypercritical or whatnot, we show them the door.
Generally seems like a bad idea, unless she really is a huge music fan. Otherwise she will get bored and he will invariably start attending to her needs. I've attended a friends practice as a non-player, but I just sat there and enjoyed the show - their practice was not altered in any way due to my presence. I just wanted to watch a few rehearsals of a band that was a level or 2 above me. One of the major factors really should be how serious a band it is. To me there would be a big difference between a band that gigs at a house party once every few months for little or no money and a pro band that is gigging regularly/making a living off music. In the latter situation it would be very unprofessional to bring a spouse/bf/gf/life partner.
I don't bring my wife and family to work ... band mates are more than welcome to bring their SO's to gigs, but NOT to rehearsals. No exceptions short of a dire emergency.
We had a drummer whose wife set in on most practices. She was a little clingy. We tried out and tried to introduce a female into the band as a backup and second lead singer and she (the drummers wife )created a bunch of ignorant crap and drama. The girl was better looking than her singing ability. We cut the drummer and the girl singer loose in short time and away went the drama. We are 40-50 year old musicians. Don't need it wont have it. Drama that is.
I view things a little different.
Woodshedding = practice alone.
Practice = practice with other people.
Dress Rehearsal = try out the new stuff in front of people (soft opening)
During a dress rehearsal I will allow it. This is the chance to work out the nerves for stuff that is really new. There will be no conversation/interaction other than what we would have with our audience and it is a very breakneck pace. They judge the show, not one part.
Woodshedding = practice alone.
Practice = practice with other people.
Dress Rehearsal = try out the new stuff in front of people (soft opening)
During a dress rehearsal I will allow it. This is the chance to work out the nerves for stuff that is really new. There will be no conversation/interaction other than what we would have with our audience and it is a very breakneck pace. They judge the show, not one part.
Maybe they'll come once, to see what we're up to. But I question the sanity of anyone who would like to hear 2 songs worked on and massaged for 3-4 hours more than once!
Current band's rehearsals are open to friends and SOs, which is fine as long as they stay in the little lounge area outside the actual rehearsal room and don't bother us while we're working.
