pretending to be christian

[BigMac5]

Woo yeah... hardcore to the bone. Are you bad people? No. Are you hardcore? No. Depending on the IQ of the parents it may work, it may not. On principal you are just spineless weasels.:scowl:

They are 16-18 years old, not mature adults. They haven't done anything yet, and the OP came here to get opinions/advice to this dilemma. There no need to insult the OP.

 

[Formula7]

oh, and no more black sabbath, B4MV, or Tool shirts infront of them.

Hey hey hey heyheyheyhey! What's wrong with wearing tool shirts??? What's wrong with Tool? Ok. I'll admit, they are a bit anti-Christian and all. But so what if I am a Christian. Someone got those 4 guys together and they make nothing short of good music. Danny Carey's drumming ability is earth shaking, might I add.

Back to the topic. From a sort of middle of the road point of view. I'd find a new singer. Lying is gonna be bad for everyone. First, it's not cool to lie or be lied to. Second, someone in the band is gonna get sick of doing it and in time, fights fights fights galore. Lastly, a guy who is working on establishing his own system of beliefs and is still doing a major part of finding himself is probably not as stable as you would want your lead/singer/front man to be. Find someone who's got it together. And totally agreed on getting another space. The sooner the better. Who knows what will happen and when. Just be honest and move on. He's not the last lead singer in the world, anyhow.

 

[Thunderthumbs73]

Find another singer and another practice space.

Telling lies to other people about your faith is deceptive. You
will not be able to maintain this myth and your band will implode.

Not are you only lying to his parents, you are lying to yourself
and no good will come of any of this, total bad karma all around.

Let's not go into any religious issues here per se, but his
problems are his to deal with and not yours. If he can't
meet his band commitments because of personal drama,
whatever they are, its time to move on.

The right response is, 'Look, we like you and we want you in
the band, but lying to your parents or anyone else in not
part of the deal.

If you do this, believe me, you will be a lot happier.

This thread is probably going to implode as well as people
somehow can't deal nicely with the no religion rule.

This is a band management issue and not a religious issue
is my interpretation. If, or rather when, it descends into
religious bickering, we're done. It will be moved to the Lobby or closed.
Just telling you now.

I don't think I could have said it any better, except to say- don't pretend to be what you aren't. Be comfortable with who you are.

 

[cookiesRfalla]

I find your lack of faith disturbing
someone had to say it
but seriously, if pretending will shut his parents up then by all means continue doing what you are doing. i'm not saying it's a good thing but his parents' ignorance leave you no choice i guess.

 

[PRUNEFACE]

i joined a metal band, were all ages 16-18. were best friends, we hang out when we dont have practice. Everything is just great, untill now. our singer has parents who are hardcore Christian. they will no longer let him in the band because hes questioning his faith, BUT, there is a problem. not only is he our singer and we use his warehouse to practice, but the drummer and rhythm guitarist are agnostic, and the guitarist and myself are hardcore atheists. and that is NOT making the situation any better. so, we are now going to pretend to accept christianity infront of his parents (band prayer, christian lyrics etc....). and were going to show them lyrics A, and perform lyrics B. oh, and no more black sabbath, B4MV, or Tool shirts infront of them. are we bad people?

no, you are not bad people. there is freedom of religion for a reason; I believe what I want to believe and don't try to force it on other people.

 

[dannster]

They are 16-18 years old, not mature adults. They haven't done anything yet, and the OP came here to get opinions/advice to this dilemma. There no need to insult the OP.

Who said they were mature adults? Even if they hadn't clearly stated their age it would be clearly obvious.
I gave my opinion/advice. You don't have to like it.
"On principal".....read it again. It is shaming their decision not them personally. Yeesh. Lighten up.

 

[Thor]

Its already gone to rude and disrespectful and the
post reports are flying in.

We are done.

 

[kirkm24]

It's never good to lie or live a lie. Bad things will come of it for sure. Everything comes back around and you wouldn't like it if someone played you like that. Treat others the way you would want to be treated.