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Problems with Girls

#21
klejst said:
First thing is this is not meant to be a "hate on girls/women" thread, simply me venting a little and reaching out for advice from those who may be in the same situations and how you handle and deal with them/it.

Long story short, I am in my late 20's and my last serious relationship was about five years ago now. I have done my share of dating since however the longest dating period only lasted about a month and a half and I say it like that because none every reached that official relationship status. I have dated women from the age of 19 all the way up to 37 and many ages in between who all say they want the guy who is established, nice and has morals and goals but most times I cannot help but think really what a crock that is. I am no doormat by any means and most times do not tolerate a woman's immature attitude and games however I was raised to treat women with respect and dignity and will be the first to admit I make mistakes and sometimes excitement and taking things a little fast sometimes does get the better of me however I know it also cannot be me all the time.

Is my luck with women really that bad or do I really know how to pick 'em?
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If you've been incel for five years, you're 1) doing something wrong, 2) possibly investing too much mental energy toward the situation, and 3) picking the wrong girls. 3 is something that's happened to me. My recommendation, approach (online, offline, whatever) once, and forget about it. Look for the one that wants to continue the conversation, regardless of the topic.
 
#22
klejst said:
I have dated women from the age of 19 all the way up to 37 and many ages in between who all say they want the guy who is established, nice and has morals and goals but most times I cannot help but think really what a crock that is.
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this bit /\/\/\/\ kind of jumped out at me.

- why do you think this?
- why do you mention their ages?
 
#23
nukes_da_bass said:
Women want a provider. It's late springtime, observe the young sparrows. The girls shake their tail feathers waiting for the boys to feed them morsels of food.
What do you do to appear financially solid?
Is your house in order? Carry yourself with confidence.
Be cocksure.
Shoulders back, chest forward.
Just do it.
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1. Go places and even for purchases worth $10, throw a few twenties down.
2. He's right, use that vacuum cleaner with pride!
3. Leave it alone....just leave it the **** alone.....unless you have superglue, a small box, and a knife to cut a hole in it...
4. I think he's discussing the stance for walking?
 
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#24
knumbskull said:
this bit /\/\/\/\ kind of jumped out at me.

- why do you think this?
- why do you mention their ages?
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Well if he's in his late 20s, and picking 19 year olds....too immature. If they don't have their stuff together at 35 (I met one before, kinda fun, really), there's just something not going right for them and you're supposed to be a support tool to convince them it was just "bad luck"...
 
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#25
klejst said:
Thanks to those who offered advice and a laugh with all the Chocolate themed posts.

Perhaps I spelled it out a little wrong before - I am not looking to get married within the next week, however just simply asking how other guys cope with constant and consistent rejection from girls/women.

I have great things going for myself and enjoy doing what I like and single life is great but it eventually comes down to stuff not working out (which I know is not always me), numerous rejections and just the thought that perhaps you are just cursed for something to work out again before it does start to get to me and in the back of my mind it's getting to the point where I am starting to seem like the third wheel with my friends. I'm not woe is me'ing myself but just telling how it is.
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You may just be better at tossing back the bad fish then your friends. You may get to be wingman when they go through their first divorce.:wideyed:

Speaking of your friends, have you asked them for any theories on why this occurs ?

Not all rejection is negative - if someone is honest when they tell you "you're attractive,seem to have it together,etc. but somehow I'm just not feeling it" they are just being honest, rather than stringing you along, knowing it will just be more painful for you. Those are actually the nicer ones.
And yeah, develop some hobbies or interests that you might continue even if you land a steady, and keep some time out for yourself.
 
#26
scorpionldr said:
Well if he's in his late 20s, and picking 19 year olds....too immature. If they don't have their stuff together at 35 (I met one before, kinda fun, really), there's just something not going right for them and you're supposed to be a support tool to convince them it was just "bad luck"...
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I love how you turned that frown upside down. "Support tool" :laugh:
 
#32
Be nice to women. If they are not nice to you, do not allow them access. It's really that simple.

If you wish to mingle, do not come across as desparate.

If you wish to have more than friendship, you first need to actually have a friendship to have more than.

If you wish to be a shallow jerk, and just do stuff, get your advice elsewhere.

Women are nice.

Well, many of them.

Be nice.
 
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mellowinman said:
Be nice to women. If they are not nice to you, do not allow them access. It's really that simple.

If you wish to mingle, do not come across as desparate.

If you wish to have more than friendship, you first need to actually have a friendship to have more than.

If you wish to be a shallow jerk, and just do stuff, get your advice elsewhere.

Women are nice.

Well, many of them.

Be nice.
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What does this have to do with anything?

I come from the northeast, man, there's a lot of varieties of "nice".
 
#36
I've been thinking about this thread.
I was single for about 2.5 years between the breakup of my "common law" and meeting my wife.
What I discovered was that a shy geek like me could "meet" a lot of women online in a short period of time.
I dated a few locally after virtual contact.
What I learned was you can rule out a ton of non compatibles FASTER online than say a singles dance.
The game is in the numbers.
 
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#37
nukes_da_bass said:
I've been thinking about this thread.
I was single for about 2.5 years between the breakup of my "common law" and meeting my wife.
What I discovered was that a shy geek like me could "meet" a lot of women online in a short period of time.
I dated a few locally after virtual contact.
What I learned was you can rule out a ton of non compatibles FASTER online than say a singles dance.
The game is in the numbers.
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Yea..... I found out that when girls online suddenly want to bone, I suddenly get paranoid and think there's an inner plot at work.
 

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