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Profoundly disappointed

bolophonic

bolophonic

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I took about a year off from playing in a band after the death of our drummer last year. In the last few months, I have started reaching out to some different musicians about recording some new music that I have written in my spare time. One of them was a drummer that I knew from high school named Joey. He had been familiar with the genre in question for 30+ years, so I was confident that he would be able to help flesh out some of material into a great demo. Yesterday I started the process of reaching out and striking up the conversations that you need to have in order to break the ice and get the ball rolling. Today I found out that he died in his sleep last night. I'm just.... deflated.
 
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D M C said:
Sorry to hear but dude, stay away from me. Sounds like you've got a Spinal Tap thing going on.
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There is a big part of me that feels even more resolve than ever to complete this project before I am the one who dies. But today I was thinking that I am going to need to come up with a shorter explanation of why I need a drummer.
 
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I am sorry for your loss. Years ago, when I was a drummer in a band, we lost a bass player in an automobile accident. He was 18 and just graduated from high school, an incredibly sweet kid whose family was fractured by the loss. I sometimes say lighthearted things, not thinking about the grief that people are suffering. Please accept my apology for being insensitive.
 
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bolophonic said:
I took about a year off from playing in a band after the death of our drummer last year. In the last few months, I have started reaching out to some different musicians about recording some new music that I have written in my spare time. One of them was a drummer that I knew from high school named Joey. He had been familiar with the genre in question for 30+ years, so I was confident that he would be able to help flesh out some of material into a great demo. Yesterday I started the process of reaching out and striking up the conversations that you need to have in order to break the ice and get the ball rolling. Today I found out that he died in his sleep last night. I'm just.... deflated.
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Sorry for your loss. I hope you continue with your recordings.
 
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A friend of mine died this week. He spent 11 years as a submariner in the US Navy. After he got out, he went to college, got a degree, started his new career, and got married in June.

On Tuesday he was walking on the sidewalk and a driver who was high on heroin went off the road, hit him, and killed him.

There are no explanations for why stuff happens life. It just does.

I hope you find the strength to move on while remembering the good/great/funny things about your long time friend.

It is difficult.
 
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D M C said:
I am sorry for your loss. Years ago, when I was a drummer in a band, we lost a bass player in an automobile accident. He was 18 and just graduated from high school, an incredibly sweet kid whose family was fractured by the loss. I sometimes say lighthearted things, not thinking about the grief that people are suffering. Please accept my apology for being insensitive.
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You seem like a totally cool dude. I'm bummed about my friend, but I'm not going to lose my sense of humor in the face of tragedy.

Stumbo said:
Sorry for your loss. I hope you continue with your recordings.
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Thanks. I cannot quit at this point.
 
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dreamadream99 said:
It's an incredibly morbid coincidence, but it is, after all, a coincidence. Don't interpret this as a pattern, or let it dissuade you from musical pursuits. The world is full of living and life-like drummers you can make music with without any fatal consequences.
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Thanks.

12BitSlab said:
A friend of mine died this week. He spent 11 years as a submariner in the US Navy. After he got out, he went to college, got a degree, started his new career, and got married in June.

On Tuesday he was walking on the sidewalk and a driver who was high on heroin went off the road, hit him, and killed him.

There are no explanations for why stuff happens life. It just does.

I hope you find the strength to move on while remembering the good/great/funny things about your long time friend.

It is difficult.
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I'm sorry to hear about your friend, too.
 
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bolophonic said:
I took about a year off from playing in a band after the death of our drummer last year. In the last few months, I have started reaching out to some different musicians about recording some new music that I have written in my spare time. One of them was a drummer that I knew from high school named Joey. He had been familiar with the genre in question for 30+ years, so I was confident that he would be able to help flesh out some of material into a great demo. Yesterday I started the process of reaching out and striking up the conversations that you need to have in order to break the ice and get the ball rolling. Today I found out that he died in his sleep last night. I'm just.... deflated.
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That's awful. So sorry.

I reached out to a friend a while ago. He had apparently beaten his cancer, but he seemed to have flu one day, but the cancer was back and terminal. So I know the feeling. The worst part is wishing you could have done it sooner, not missed the boat, for yourself and for them.

I'm not sure where I am going with this other than to reach out and say that I empathise.
 
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-Asdfgh- said:
That's awful. So sorry.

I reached out to a friend a while ago. He had apparently beaten his cancer, but he seemed to have flu one day, but the cancer was back and terminal. So I know the feeling. The worst part is wishing you could have done it sooner, not missed the boat, for yourself and for them.

I'm not sure where I am going with this other than to reach out and say that I empathise.
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Thanks. It's like... we need to live life to the fullest and try to do all the things we want to achieve while we are still here, but everybody is dying so quickly and unexpectedly all of a sudden. Now I am looking at all of my projects and hoping that I get at least some of them sorted out before it's my turn. I'd hate to leave a giant, unfinished mess behind. Sorry to hear about your friend.
 
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