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Relationships within your band

#21
Interesting question.

When I jammed with Jetlag:

Musically I got on with the drummer like a house on fire. We could play songs first time together and sound like we'd rehearsed at home for weeks. But personally we didn't get on too well...he didn't take or give criticism well and he let his wife speak for him a lot, which was very frustrating. It took a while, but I found these traits wore my opinion of him down.

I got on very well with the rythm guitarist both musically and personally...so much so we're in a new band together.

Got on with the singer.

Lead Guitarist was a selfish egotistical controlling douchebag who also had a laptop duo and thought musicians were "a hassle to deal with". It took some time for me to realise this, but I'm glad I did.

In Without Warning, I got on really well with the drummer and guitarist, but the singer was 10 years our junior and it really showed.

And in most audition type situations, I have to admit that yeah....it's mainly been guitarists who have been first to put me off side :)
 
#24
I get along great with everyone. But the drummer would be the answer to both questions. We're really good friends, and we play better than great together, but he can work my last nerve.
 
#25
I get along best with the singer/guitard in my band: weird ain't it ? And it gets even weirder: I knew him previously from my job and he sometimes got on my nerves someting fierce. Once I got in the band, we were best buddies in an instant, usually spending a lot of time writing, practicing harmonies (both of us sing) or just shooting the **** after rehearsals. Same thing goes for the rythmn guitarist, altough musically, he isn't very proficient and that sometimes aggravates me. But what he does i.e. imple rythmn guitar, he does well, just don't ask him to take a solo, sing, write or anythign that doesn't involve banging simple chords. Plus, he likes to have his sound somewhat quiet and takes directions well.

Drummer and I have a love/hate relationship: he has a lot of potential (he is a natural) but doesn't practice by himself and we don't have the same tastes in music. Plus, he just plain hates (at first) the material I write for the band 99% of the time. This usually clears up after a few times we go through the song (and he often is the one asking to play my contributions afterwards).
 
#26
usually the front man is the biggest tool in any band I've been in, but not this time. I recently played with an a-hole of a drummer -- who was not only obnoxious, but a drunk, an off the chart redneck and frankly was not very good, but I digress.

Usually the drummer is my favorite.

My current band -- everyone gets along. I'm most like the lead singer so we get along great. I am very close to the rhythm guitarist - a very great guy. Drummer is a good guy but we are very different. The lead guitarist is also a very great guy. Honestly, I don't dislike anyone in the band.

Nice for a change.
 
#28
IMO for it to really"work" there needs to be compromise and flexibility.

I don't have the same type of relationship with everyone in the band but I have a good one.

Just started working with a new drummer a few weeks ago and it is like we have worked together for years. Same sick sense of humor. Amazing.

The frontman can be a bit of an anal control freak but he is a great guy and a good friend. He is also the ersatz band leader and that is also fine with me. (I don't want to be king, I just want to have little say) Bands for the most part, can't run long or well and be total democracies at the same time.

The guitar player and I have known each other for several decades. He is a great guy and one the hottest guitar players goin no lie, but he gets a little negative and reactionary at times. I can get all over him or I can let it go, my choice.

The horn player is just a lot younger than most of us and there is no getting around that. I can get ticked at his inexperience or focus on his huge talent and help teach him what he needs to know to be in a band.

For me it isn't about liking "least" or "most" but it is a different relationship with each of them.

The other side of the coin is that I can have incredible amounts of patience for one thing, and then a real short fuse for another. At times I'm probably no picinic to work with either.

JKT
 
#29
I get along with all 3 of the guys in the band, but more so with the lead singer/rhythm guitarist and drummer than the lead guitar player. This is only because the lead guitarist is really really picky about how we sound and has cancelled at least 2 shows without consulting us because we weren't ready...and everyone (including myself) has a bit of a temper so whenever 3/4 of us are pissed off its pretty hard to practice, but come show time all is forgotten and we mesh pretty great..
 
#30
My biggest buddy is the frontman, 'cuz I know him for many years already. The same can be said about teh lead guitarist, but when it comes to musical taste the frontman's approach is closer to mine.
My least buddy is the drummer, who is a really nice and modest guy, but I don't ever see him besides the rehearsals. He's still at highschool, so we hang out in kinda different places... ;)
Anyway, I get along with all the people very well.
 
#31
I find that being in a band can be tough sometimes, but it's worth it. Everyone has different goals, skills, work ethic and personalities. It's like being married to 5 of your co-workers. That said, I would only ever pick out vocalists as particularly irksome due to a diva complex ranging anywhere from mild to wild.

I LOVE all the people in my band as people - just a really great bunch - and also all skilled enough for each other.

Where friction occasionally happens is goals and work ethic. One person doesn't do enough homework, one doesn't show up early enough to help load and unload, one person doesn't follow through with the booking, one person wants to gig more, one person wants to make as much $$ as possible and another would rather spend the money on primo sound.

We are having our first-ever band meeting tonight to try to iron these things out. You are never going to be able to make people see every issue your way, but it is my hope that if you get together and talk it over like adults you can find middle ground.

Wish me luck!
 
#32
i tend to get along with everyone but the lead guitard, in my previous band he would refuse to play a song if he didnt get atleast get a 30 second solo each song, which ticked off the rythym guitarist to no end, i dont think he ever even got a solo... but anyways after i left/got kicked out of the band they went through i think three or four bassists, each due to a similar reason of not liking him (or the large ammount of covers we did...) and his "look at me i have six strings im important" attitude. but i typically get along with the rythym guitarist the best most of the time.
 
#36
in my last band it was the 2 guitards and the drummer.all complete jerkoffs.all hypocrites and professional complainers and whiners and none would shut playing at full volume between songs.female singer was really nice and a stunner. current band we all get along and the guitarist is a close friend of mine.
 
#37
My best relationship would be with the drummer. He understands all the musicians jokes against the singer and guitard. Although he had to quit the band because of work and college. The guitar player is cool, he's just quiet so I don't talk to him much. The singer is good too, but she is way to full of herself and acts like she runs the band(Typical singer).:rolleyes:


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#38
In one band it's a trio so there's not many people to love or hate. I'm closer to the drummer than the guitard though.

In the other it's exactly opposite. Guitard's a riot, love that guy, drummer hardly ever joins the conversation so I hardly even know him.
 

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