seriously pi**ing me off.

[two fingers]

Facebook probably has no idea your friend passed. There's not "some guy" sitting around with nothing better to do than look at people's pages and hand pick advertising for them. It's a computer program. The PROGRAM searches for things on your friend's page and directs advertising to the page. The PROGRAM assumes that like minded people will see the page because they are "friends" (either real or virtual) of your buddy's.

Sorry for your loss. But I bet he wouldn't want you sitting around worrying about things like this. Go do something the two of you used to do together and remember him with a smile. Life is too short.......

 

[Joe Nerve]

I'd like to say I can't believe they'd do that, but I can believe they'd do that. :/

I'm not a facebook fan. I'm one of the believers that this is all a fad that will soon burn itself out. While I understand the benefits, I think ultimately facebook causes much more harm than good. And yes, I have a page because as a musician I realize it's essential.

Anyhow, the simple solution is to unfriend him, let it be known that you're unfriending him for the reasons that you are, and keeping it that way until you feel differently. Also, isn't there a way to freeze someone's talkbass account, if they passed away? I'm guessing this post is about finding stuff like that out. Which I can't help ya with.

Did I mention I don't like facebook?

Just had a thought... if you unfriend someone who's passed away, how could you ever friend them again? Unless someone else has access to their account. And if someone has access to their account, why can't they simply put an end to the advertisement? Hmmm.... I'm confused.

 

[MatticusMania]

Thanks man. Its just his profile is private and once its gone its gone. I guess i could delete him.. I have his OB in my wallet. Im sorry for your loss

Thanks. It was a long time ago now. At first I'd go visit his grave a lot, maybe weekly. Over time it started to feel like a pointless endeavor. These days I might show up at the cemetary on his birthday, but I dont feel guilty if I cant make it.

I deleted him. Its just a tough step.

I could imagine. As if you havent already lost a friend, now youre removing that daily reminder.

 

[MatticusMania]

I'm not a facebook fan. I'm one of the believers that this is all a fad that will soon burn itself out. While I understand the benefits, I think ultimately facebook causes much more harm than good.

Social media/networking is a fad in the sense that tattoos are a fad, in that theyre not. Its not going anywhere so long as we continue to have access to the internet.
Personally, I cannot agree with your second sentence, as I havent seen facebook cause any harm.

 

[EagleMoon]

The problem with Facebook is that they don't allow you to delete an account. You can only deactivate it, which doesn't make it go away, it just puts it on hold until you "supposedly" can't resist it and come back. In this case, even deactivating the account probably wouldn't help. Depending on how he had the settings for availability, people could still be trying to send him friend requests...etc. Its messed up. Not being able to delete an account is kind of creepy.

 

[Joe Nerve]

Social media/networking is a fad in the sense that tattoos are a fad, in that theyre not. Its not going anywhere so long as we continue to have access to the internet.
Personally, I cannot agree with your second sentence, as I havent seen facebook cause any harm.

Was going to start a thread regarding that. I see lots and lots and lots of harm. Perhaps if I have some time tomorrow, I'll start that thread. I'm guessing you're an avid facebook user.

As for the fad thing, I know lots of people who have quit facebook already for many reasons. I'm going to guess facebook membership is still growing right now, but I believe it's novelty and popularity are going to sink bigtime. Probably when the next, more interesting thing comes along.

You really haven't seen facebook cause any harm? I think you posted that without giving it much thought.

Running out to a gig, so if this came off in some sort of challenging or negative tone, it wasn't meant to. No time to edit though.

 

[sloasdaylight]

Facebook was a novelty 3 or 4 years ago. Now it's a part of international culture and not going away.

 

[champbassist]

I see lots and lots and lots of harm.

This, obviously, is a pretty subjective issue. I, personally, find that the harm outweighs the benefits in most situations.

As for the fad thing, I know lots of people who have quit facebook already for many reasons.

I'd think the number of people who have quit FB owing to problems arising due to social networking is lower than the number of people who have joined because it (in fact, social networking in general) provides certain facilities that would otherwise be unavailable.

I'm going to guess facebook membership is still growing right now, but I believe it's novelty and popularity are going to sink bigtime. Probably when the next, more interesting thing comes along.

Quite possible. It has already happened with Orkut (which was more popular here than in the States, I'm guessing) which sank without a trace due to the advent of Facebook. People will move on to new things which serve them better. I'm quite sure, though, that social networking, in general, is here to stay.

 

[SeaBassTheFish]

I think there is no point in debating whether the advent of social networking has resulted in more harm than good. The point that we can probably all agree on is that it has initiated permanent changes in the way people relate and communicate with one another, and with those changes comes some good, some bad, and everything in between. Just like the internet and email; just like the television before that, and the telephone, moving pictures, radio, moveable type, etc. The world continues to change, sometimes at a rapid rate. We are privileged to be a part of the inaugural class, so to speak, of social network users. But that comes with a certain number of challenges that no humans before us have ever had to deal with, such as the situation described by the OP and others. I don't think that's a position to be taken lightly.
My sympathy goes out to those of you who have heavy issues to deal with that are exacerbated by the role of social networking in our lives. Keep fighting the good fight.

 

[jkramer5]

After surviving breast cancer for 12 years and passing away from uterine cancer 5 weeks after diagnosis at 63 years old, my moms Facebook page is still there. It's been almost 3 years since she died and family and friends still post on it and tag pictures to her.

I'm glad it's there to memorialize her. The things she wrote etc are still there just as they were when she did it. I can look her up and she's right there, participating in the life she lived . I think that's awesome. I can't look up in those kind of terms the memories I have that are fading year by year, but her FB stuff I can just as if it were new.

 

[MatticusMania]

You really haven't seen facebook cause any harm? I think you posted that without giving it much thought.

Running out to a gig, so if this came off in some sort of challenging or negative tone, it wasn't meant to. No time to edit though.

No, it didnt come off as challenging or anything. I meant that I hadnt personally witnessed any harm caused by facebook amongst my friends and such, not that facebook hasnt caused any harm ever to anyone.

Facebook was a novelty 3 or 4 years ago. Now it's a part of international culture and not going away.

At least not until something comes along to replace it. I'd guess, though, that it'll be a while since something takes its place. Its the current myspace, and doesnt seem to be on the decline as of yet.

The point that we can probably all agree on is that it has initiated permanent changes in the way people relate and communicate with one another, and with those changes comes some good, some bad, and everything in between. Just like the internet and email; just like the television before that, and the telephone, moving pictures, radio, moveable type, etc. The world continues to change, sometimes at a rapid rate. We are privileged to be a part of the inaugural class, so to speak, of social network users. But that comes with a certain number of challenges that no humans before us have ever had to deal with, such as the situation described by the OP and others. I don't think that's a position to be taken lightly.
My sympathy goes out to those of you who have heavy issues to deal with that are exacerbated by the role of social networking in our lives. Keep fighting the good fight.

Absolutely. I think part of my nonexperience with the 'harm' that facebook could cause is that I dont use fb for harmful purposes. To me its a convenient way to let my friends know at which social events I can be found on the weekends, and to laugh at funny pictures, post quotes, and maybe make the occasional gripe about the happenstances of life.